Wife Lets Son Smoke

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I'm being pranked here.

My 14 year old son was caught with a pack of Camels about a month ago and I had a long conversation with him how absolutely idiotic this habit is. I told him he needs to stop now before he gets addicted. I explained the whole waste of money aspect, the cancer thing, all of it. He agreed to stop.

This weekend a neighbor told me he saw my son at his high school's baseball game and my son and two friends were smoking.

I told him all this and he confessed that he was smoking........ but his mother told him it was OK to do this while young.

I went upstairs and asked my wife about it and she said "Yeah, I did, whats the big deal?"

I responded with something like are you out of your frigging mind and she accused me of overreacting.

This is insane, right?

whoa. This is weird. You should've told him that smoking stains teeth and makes people's breath, skin, hair and clothes smell bad. Nice troll post, btw. 4 out of 5 for rage content. 0 for not coming back as op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I'm being pranked here.

My 14 year old son was caught with a pack of Camels about a month ago and I had a long conversation with him how absolutely idiotic this habit is. I told him he needs to stop now before he gets addicted. I explained the whole waste of money aspect, the cancer thing, all of it. He agreed to stop.

This weekend a neighbor told me he saw my son at his high school's baseball game and my son and two friends were smoking.

I told him all this and he confessed that he was smoking........ but his mother told him it was OK to do this while young.

I went upstairs and asked my wife about it and she said "Yeah, I did, whats the big deal?"

I responded with something like are you out of your frigging mind and she accused me of overreacting.

This is insane, right?

Troll. This doesn't happen in 2025.

[Anonymous]

Beat him within an inch of his life.

Or maybe lock him a closet and tell him he can't come out until he has smoked an entire carton.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Beat him within an inch of his life.

Or maybe lock him a closet and tell him he can't come out until he has smoked an entire carton.

^^^ and when you're done beating him, give her a good beating too.

Or if you go the closet route, make her sit in there with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son started smoking in HS. Much as I hated it, nothing convinced him to stop. Not even his doctor. I actually can’t imagine the doctor visit working for many teens.

Anyway, fast forward a few years and he decided he wants to stop. I cannot tell you how difficult that was for him (and the rest of us who had to put up with him while he was working on it). He ended up using an OTC aid, which was quite expensive and it took a long time but he did it.

I’m sharing because people think it will be easy for a kid to quit but that wasn’t our experience.

Showing the kid a YouTube video of someone close to his age saying this would be way more impactful than the doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Beat him within an inch of his life.

Or maybe lock him a closet and tell him he can't come out until he has smoked an entire carton.

I know! Make him EAT the cigarettes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“I don’t care what your mother says, it’s not okay, it’s a trashy habit and it will impact you for the rest of your life.”
Follow up with testing. It’s hard to quit.

It is incredibly hard to quit if they start smoking at age 13 or 14

[Anonymous]

This is exactly what happens when men don't spend enough time with their boys. We divorced when my son was 14. From day 1 I decided that I'll talk to my son every single day post divorce. We were already closed. We talked a lot. We talked talked talked. We traveled together. Let me tell you it made a huge difference. He My son turned to be a great kid. Raising a boy is not easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly what happens when men don't spend enough time with their boys. We divorced when my son was 14. From day 1 I decided that I'll talk to my son every single day post divorce. We were already closed. We talked a lot. We talked talked talked. We traveled together. Let me tell you it made a huge difference. He My son turned to be a great kid. Raising a boy is not easy.

+1. This is really important. Men who didn't end up in trouble later in life are the ones that spent a lot of time with dad. A lot killers, rapists, bandits, thieves etc were raised by single moms. Dad must be involved.

[Anonymous]

Does the kid have a 21 year old friend who is buying the cigs? It's pretty hard to get them since the few stores who carry cigarettes are required to keep them behind the counter and check ID. Also, Camels? Is it 1980?

I agree that no teenager is smoking tobacco in 2025. It's smelly, ruins your teeth, burns holes in things, and expensive. Kids vape.

[Anonymous]

That's messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly what happens when men don't spend enough time with their boys. We divorced when my son was 14. From day 1 I decided that I'll talk to my son every single day post divorce. We were already closed. We talked a lot. We talked talked talked. We traveled together. Let me tell you it made a huge difference. He My son turned to be a great kid. Raising a boy is not easy.

Let me get this straight. OP (the dad) opposes smoking, councils the kid multiple times about all the down sides and pleads with him to not smoke.

Mom says "Ahhh, what the heck! Smoke all you want buddy!"

And you're blaming the dad. That's peak DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you need to get your wife in line OP. Take that however you want. She can decide to smoke for herself and her own body, but encouraging destructive behaviors for HER OWN child that age is a major sign that something is wrong with her.

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly what happens when men don't spend enough time with their boys. We divorced when my son was 14. From day 1 I decided that I'll talk to my son every single day post divorce. We were already closed. We talked a lot. We talked talked talked. We traveled together. Let me tell you it made a huge difference. He My son turned to be a great kid. Raising a boy is not easy.

+1. This is really important. Men who didn't end up in trouble later in life are the ones that spent a lot of time with dad. A lot killers, rapists, bandits, thieves etc were raised by single moms. Dad must be involved.

This is very true. The stats don't lie.