Lingerie Question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so pathetic

What part?

All of it. Changing your personality for the guy your dating.

And the general being a personal sex doll inspired by porn and thinking it makes you sexy, sex positive

Good god, you sound like a drag.

Nah, drag lingerie is amazing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so pathetic

What part?

All of it. Changing your personality for the guy your dating.

And the general being a personal sex doll inspired by porn and thinking it makes you sexy, sex positive

You should spend some time around porn stars.

I hang out with a few women who do Only Fans and the dressing up is fun. Lingerie is fun. Loosen up.

Sex doesn’t have to be some serious, grand event with violins and cherubs as you slowly rock together staring into each other’s eyes. It’s fun to just let loose and feel sexy.

[Anonymous]

I'm dating a guy who likes it, so I wear nice stuff- pretty, a little sexy, not trashy - whenever I see him, under my clothes. I change when I get to his house or our hotel (we're long distance) so he gets a glimpse. When I get undressed, I'm deliberate about it, kind of wandering around in the lingerie. Sometimes it will stay on for a bit. If we're a few days away from a date, I'll text him a pic of which set I'm going to wear when I see him. (Not me in it, just the lingerie.) I get my money's worth.

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman and lingerie turns me on. I'll still put it on now that I'm single for solo sessions. It's probably Pavlovian at this point.

OP, if you really don't see the point, and it doesn't turn you on, that's OK. Not everything is for everyone. But if you're just like, whatever, I don't see the big deal, but sure I'll wear it, then great. You'd want your partner to make a small effort to make things more fun for you if you had some kind of preference too.

Some people are recovering from purity culture and may associate it with badness. Others may feel it's women debasing themselves to please a man. I personally don't think it needs to be agonized over so much. It's just a bit of lace; it's morally neutral. Do with it what you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a middle aged man. My ex wife never wore lingerie and I was fine with that. I liked removing her regular flannel pajamas. She also was a bit chubby and wouldn't have looked great in most lingerie, although I think some styles would have been very nice.

A few women I've dated since my divorce have been really into lingerie. I got into it because of them. Part of it is the fun and sexiness in the moment but part of it is the memories I have later.

It's pretty obvious that some women feel more confident and get more excited when they're wearing lingerie. Lingerie isn't just for men to enjoy.

I've bought lingerie for three women and they all loved it. So did I. It usually didn't stay on for very long but stayed on long enough.

Here are my thoughts about what to buy:

1. Choose a color that will look good on the woman's skin. Hair color also may matter. Black usually works if you can't figure that out.

2. Pick a cut that will look good on her body. For women with mom bellies, a nighty and panties or a camisole and panties may be the way to go. You want her to feel good about herself, not worried that she doesn't have a good enough body.

3. Pick a fabric that feels nice to you and to her and still looks good. I like the smooth silky stuff. Some women prefer lace.

4. Pick something that fits her personality, not just her body. The really raunchy stuff won't work for some women. The more demure stuff won't work for others.

Warning. After you do a little online shopping, you'll be bombarded with advertising lingerie companies. That may be a good thing or a bad thing depending on your situation.

I agree with all of this!
I also like a garter belt and stockings because it covers my mom belly and c-section scars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a middle aged man. My ex wife never wore lingerie and I was fine with that. I liked removing her regular flannel pajamas. She also was a bit chubby and wouldn't have looked great in most lingerie, although I think some styles would have been very nice.

A few women I've dated since my divorce have been really into lingerie. I got into it because of them. Part of it is the fun and sexiness in the moment but part of it is the memories I have later.

It's pretty obvious that some women feel more confident and get more excited when they're wearing lingerie. Lingerie isn't just for men to enjoy.

I've bought lingerie for three women and they all loved it. So did I. It usually didn't stay on for very long but stayed on long enough.

Here are my thoughts about what to buy:

1. Choose a color that will look good on the woman's skin. Hair color also may matter. Black usually works if you can't figure that out.

2. Pick a cut that will look good on her body. For women with mom bellies, a nighty and panties or a camisole and panties may be the way to go. You want her to feel good about herself, not worried that she doesn't have a good enough body.

3. Pick a fabric that feels nice to you and to her and still looks good. I like the smooth silky stuff. Some women prefer lace.

4. Pick something that fits her personality, not just her body. The really raunchy stuff won't work for some women. The more demure stuff won't work for others.

Warning. After you do a little online shopping, you'll be bombarded with advertising lingerie companies. That may be a good thing or a bad thing depending on your situation.

Very well put

[Anonymous]

A bodysuit looks good on any woman - skinny, normal, and beefy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm dating a new guy who like lingerie. It's never been my thing but I'm happy to give it a go. But I don't get it. I realize it's visual for the man. But after I put the babydoll or bustier on, then what? Do we go about making dinner? Watch a movie? I seriously can't put on a piece of clothing only for it to be taken off 10 min later--or is that the point? I need someone to explain this to me like I'm 3 and don't understand why I need to wear a coat in the winter when we're going from the house to the car.

All lingerie looks better on the floor

— All men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a middle aged man. My ex wife never wore lingerie and I was fine with that. I liked removing her regular flannel pajamas. She also was a bit chubby and wouldn't have looked great in most lingerie, although I think some styles would have been very nice.

A few women I've dated since my divorce have been really into lingerie. I got into it because of them. Part of it is the fun and sexiness in the moment but part of it is the memories I have later.

It's pretty obvious that some women feel more confident and get more excited when they're wearing lingerie. Lingerie isn't just for men to enjoy.

I've bought lingerie for three women and they all loved it. So did I. It usually didn't stay on for very long but stayed on long enough.

Here are my thoughts about what to buy:

1. Choose a color that will look good on the woman's skin. Hair color also may matter. Black usually works if you can't figure that out.

2. Pick a cut that will look good on her body. For women with mom bellies, a nighty and panties or a camisole and panties may be the way to go. You want her to feel good about herself, not worried that she doesn't have a good enough body.

3. Pick a fabric that feels nice to you and to her and still looks good. I like the smooth silky stuff. Some women prefer lace.

4. Pick something that fits her personality, not just her body. The really raunchy stuff won't work for some women. The more demure stuff won't work for others.

Warning. After you do a little online shopping, you'll be bombarded with advertising lingerie companies. That may be a good thing or a bad thing depending on your situation.

Doing god's work on DCUM today.

[Anonymous]

If you just want to dip your toe in the lingerie pool, you could try a silk pajama short and top set. That isn't exactly lingerie but it's similar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so pathetic

What part?

All of it. Changing your personality for the guy your dating.

And the general being a personal sex doll inspired by porn and thinking it makes you sexy, sex positive

Wow the moral bible thumping control freak has entered the chat.

[Anonymous]

I love lingerie especially when the woman wearing them is confident about her body. My favourite ones are the crotchless type hehe.

If they had lingerie for men I would wear one so I can experience the same excitement that my GF gets when she wears one for him lol. Luckily though I am of average size 6 inch so when erect my regular boxes leave little to the imagination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love lingerie especially when the woman wearing them is confident about her body. My favourite ones are the crotchless type hehe.

If they had lingerie for men I would wear one so I can experience the same excitement that my GF gets when she wears one for him lol. Luckily though I am of average size 6 inch so when erect my regular boxes leave little to the imagination.

Helped you out
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[Anonymous]

Any color thigh high stockings and a pair of patent stilettos will do it, plus it can all stay on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm dating a new guy who like lingerie. It's never been my thing but I'm happy to give it a go. But I don't get it. I realize it's visual for the man. But after I put the babydoll or bustier on, then what? Do we go about making dinner? Watch a movie? I seriously can't put on a piece of clothing only for it to be taken off 10 min later--or is that the point? I need someone to explain this to me like I'm 3 and don't understand why I need to wear a coat in the winter when we're going from the house to the car.

All lingerie looks better on the floor

— All men

DH would disagree. He would say it eventually looks better on the floor but getting to that point should take a while. He likes to be teased and seduced and then when he gets to his breaking he just takes me, the best.