Husband asked me to keep extra weight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a new one for me and I don’t know what to do. Most people want their partners to lose weight but mine wants me to keep the extra weight. I’ve always been pretty skinny until I had my first. I have 10lbs to go until I’m back to my normal weight and my husband said he likes it and I should keep it on. I’m very flattered but I don’t like being 10lbs bigger. Do I keep the weight to make him happy or lose the weight to make myself happy?

Losing or keeping weight is a personal choice. Its sweet of him to say he likes you as you are but its not his choice to make.

That being said, if its not a health issue, just a personal preference then you can choose to indulge him.

[Anonymous]

Don't try to lose weight, just eat healthy and work out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see op answered the weight question. I think it is insane to obsess over 10 lbs. when she is skinny as is.

She's 5'1". 10 pounds is a significant change at that size. I'm 5' tall myself and a 10 pound gain means I need an entire new wardrobe. It's several pant sizes when you're short.

Right. 10lbs isn’t much to a taller woman but it is when you’re short. I don’t like the way my clothes fit and I feel chunky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't try to lose weight, just eat healthy and work out.

I do and I’ve always been around 110lbs. Keeping the 10lbs on would mean very little exercise and consuming more calories than I need.

[Anonymous]

My DH is like this too. But for me 10lbs probably makes much less of a difference as I'm 5'8", so I basically acquiesced a bit. You have to do what's best for you. Also, I'm older, so a bit more weight is better for my face.

[Anonymous]

Your body your choice. For sure.

[Anonymous]

I currently weigh about ten pounds more than the weight I consider ideal. It's not an obssssion but it's a "nice to have" thing for me. I'd like to get back to that weight. I might get back to it. I'm not going to beat myself up if I don't. My current boyfriend met me when I was at my thinnest- 18 years ago. He likes me as I am now. So that's good.

What's harder for me - he would like me to keep my hair very long. I've put off cutting it, but I really want to chop about 6" off. He's into the prairie woman look. I am not. And as it gets hotter, I do not want all that hair on my neck. Ick. So I get where you are coming from- what compromises do we make with our appearances because our partners like them? Where is the line between that and a Kanye/Bianca relationship??

[Anonymous]

If you want to lose then lose, but with the confidence and comfort of knowing you look good where you are? And if and when you lose, throw him a bone by dressing to accentuate curves

[Anonymous]

Personally I'd keep it. My man likes me a little bit curvier than my ideal and I am happy to loosen the reigns on my diet a bit to appease him.
I'm also probably able to have this perspective because I'm bisexual and when it comes to women I completely agree with most men, where I prefer the curves over the "stick figures". So even though I personally love feeling very skinny, I know there's nothing more feminine than a bit of jiggle and softness, so I'm able to see things from his perspective.

[Anonymous]

He's probably sick of hearing you talk about your weight and dieting when he thinks you look fine. Just shut up about it, then you can weigh what you want.

[Anonymous]

Bigger the waistband the deeper the quicksand. Or so I have heard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a new one for me and I don’t know what to do. Most people want their partners to lose weight but mine wants me to keep the extra weight. I’ve always been pretty skinny until I had my first. I have 10lbs to go until I’m back to my normal weight and my husband said he likes it and I should keep it on. I’m very flattered but I don’t like being 10lbs bigger. Do I keep the weight to make him happy or lose the weight to make myself happy?

Losing or keeping weight is a personal choice. Its sweet of him to say he likes you as you are but its not his choice to make.

That being said, if its not a health issue, just a personal preference then you can choose to indulge him.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's probably sick of hearing you talk about your weight and dieting when he thinks you look fine. Just shut up about it, then you can weigh what you want.

Precisely

[Anonymous]

Just tell him it is likely you will naturally gain weight with age — which is definitely true.

[Anonymous]

He probably worried about your health at 110 pds.