What do you think the ideal age to become a father?

[Anonymous]

20

[Anonymous]

I think it’s a broader range for men since they don’t have as many biological limits as women and are often less mature generally speaking. So 25-38? My BIL was a father at 24 and should have waited because he didn’t really grow up until he was mid/late 30s while I know some younger dads who really stepped up. For women physically 20s is best but emotionally and mentally I feel like late 28-34 is ideal. I’m an “older” mom back home and gave birth age 36-39 due to infertility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Depends on their health.
Sperm is created daily in a man, and is never older than 30 days old roughly, so age doesn't matter in regards to healthy sperm.

I love the essay, "the real biological clock is when you die." IMO, it's less about fertility and more about the time you have with your kids. If you have your kids earlier, you get more time with them, more time with potential grandkids, and your kids have more time with their grandparents. On the other hand, you shouldn't rush finding a good spouse and you have to be in a place where you want to be a good parent and are prepared to alter your lifestyle accordingly.

[Anonymous]

My husband was 32,35,38 when our kids were born (I was 29, 32, 35). Kids age you fast, so we felt old by the time we had our third. I think the ideal window is 27-35 for both men and women, but I personally know a lot of people who waited longer and seem younger to me, probably because their kids didn’t age them so dramatically in their early thirties!

[Anonymous]

I had my kids at 29, 32 and 35.

It’s been great. I’m definitely having didn’t wait until I was older. If anything, slightly younger would be better but there is an advantage to being a little more mature and having more money in your pocket.

I say between 25-30 as long as you’ve put the pieces together (education + decent job + marriage). I wouldn’t wait to “be successful” in your career. Just earning income and past the hazing (e.g., analyst banker, etc.) phase.

[Anonymous]

Ideal age for men or women to have kids is 25-35 and ideal number of kids 0-3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Depends on their health.
Sperm is created daily in a man, and is never older than 30 days old roughly, so age doesn't matter in regards to healthy sperm.

I love the essay, "the real biological clock is when you die." IMO, it's less about fertility and more about the time you have with your kids. If you have your kids earlier, you get more time with them, more time with potential grandkids, and your kids have more time with their grandparents. On the other hand, you shouldn't rush finding a good spouse and you have to be in a place where you want to be a good parent and are prepared to alter your lifestyle accordingly.

Most parents and kids waste what time they have.

You can live a lifetime in a few years, or you can waste decades with "careers" and other nonsense.

[Anonymous]

My husband was older. He had kids at 42, 44 and 47. He is in great shape and still very athletic. I have not seen a change yet (mid 50s). He takes after his mom who is still exercising and looking fabulous at 80. Fingers crossed he stays that way.

I was much younger, but I find myself more tired than he does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women’s fertility declines so most women would want to have babies ages 25-35. I had 3 kids ages 30-38.

What do you think is the ideal age for men?

Same as for women. You CAN have a baby afterwards but chances of autism and adhd go way up.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad I had kids when I was older (40). Have to maintain an exercise/sleep/nutrition habits to keep my energy levels up and cut out alcohol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The ideal age is when a man is ready to be a good partner and father. Any older than 50 is not ideal.

+1.

[Anonymous]

27-28
Have a little money by then, little more mature and still energetic through kids’ teen years.

[Anonymous]

When the guy is no longer as interested in socializing, drinking, partying, etc. When he has shown he is mature. Age can vary.

[Anonymous]

35

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:27-28
Have a little money by then, little more mature and still energetic through kids’ teen years.

I was having a blast in my 20s and not remotely ready to be a good parent