ILs are upset we don’t invite them on our vacations

[Anonymous]

My MIL threw a tantrum when I told her we would no longer be taking vacations with her & BIL & SIL. I explained that we needed vacation time to bond as an immediate family and I had to say it because MIL is borderline and DH has major issues saying no to her after suffering her abuse for years. MILs tantrum was awful but good news: we’ve never taken another vacation with them. You have to say something or it won’t change.

[Anonymous]

Id just ignore it. My ILs say the same s*** too, but we all know nothing will come of it. They just like to complain.

I’m guessing something happen d recently to cause this - perhaps one of their friends did a multi-generational trip and made some comment to them. Don’t take it to heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Id just ignore it. My ILs say the same s*** too, but we all know nothing will come of it. They just like to complain.

I’m guessing something happen d recently to cause this - perhaps one of their friends did a multi-generational trip and made some comment to them. Don’t take it to heart.

Yeah ignore. If they bring it up or point out their friends trip, lay out what you expect from them. I mean if they’re willing to pay their way and follow your schedule and be as helpful and supportive as you and your spouse are planning to be to help the other, why not? Of course they don’t want to do that.

[Anonymous]

If you don’t want to travel with them, why do you care that they don’t invite you on their travels?

I would just ignore and let DH handle.