DD planning to have first child

[Anonymous]

I had my kids at 27 and 30. None of my friends had kids until after my second was born, so it was a bit lonely in that sense but we had lots of grandparent help so we could still see our friends (and attend all their weddings). I still think it was a great age even though we were almost always the youngest parents around, but I have a great partner and we make a lot of money for our age so are financially very secure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My question is- do you think socially / in this area that having your first kid by 28 is too young to have your first these days?

Socially and in the DC area, I think it's fine. There's more of a range of maternal ages here than you probably realize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone who had kids in their mid 20s and mid 30s, it was easier for me to “bounce back” the first go around. I hate that term but I lost pregnancy weight faster and had an easier delivery even though it was my first. I also just had more energy then. It’s a personal decision, people will judge no matter what. It’s not like she’s having a baby in her teenage years

Total opposite for me. My 2nd at 38 was my easiest delivery and was back to pre-pregnancy weight by 3 months.

[Anonymous]

Only in this area would 28 be considered too young. Out west ir south it’s completely different

[Anonymous]

Anytime after 25 and before 35 is ideal for having first baby and there is no need to delay just to keep up with the trend or achieving lifestyle to keep up with the Jonses, better to keep up with the biology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the egg troll back again?

This is 100% a troll/rage bait post

[Anonymous]

I had my first at 28, and now am in my 40’s. I was the youngest of all my “mom” friends, but most were only a few years older, and I’m still very close with some of them 14 years later. I never felt like 28 was too young, and I easily found friends to go through all the early parenting stuff with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the egg troll back again?

This is 100% a troll/rage bait post

I don’t think it is. People are like this IRL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister had her kids at 27 and 29. I had my kids at 38, 40, and 43. I can see upsides and downsides to each pattern.

(fWIW I didn’t I tend to have kids so late. We started trying at 30 and it took until 38 to be successful with IVF and we got lucky with our other frozen embryos.)

My sister definitely has an easier life now that we are in our 50s. Her youngest is out of college and I have a Kindergartner. She has been able to transition to a different and easier career because she just has to coast to retirement at this point and I have many years of kid expenses still before me.


What is interesting to me is that she is only two years older than me, but she feels like an elderly aunt to my kids. Her life has the rhythms of a person much older than me, so she seems much older. She is healthy and active but just has a middle aged life. My life is busier and I have to stay in a younger mindset because our family is still in the building phase.

I wouldn’t choose those 8 years of infertility because they were horrible, but the upside is that I am 50 and still have a lot of family life to look forward to. My sister is now looking back on things already finished. That is one upside of being an older parent.

But, if your daughter is ready now, she should go for it. She might end up like me and be an older parent anyway. You don’t always get to choose and you make the best of whatever situation you end up with.

This is one of the funniest things I've read today. Do you say this to your sister's face or is this just how you make things up in your brain. You are middle-aged too my friend.

[Anonymous]

I think 28 is fine physically because I had my firstborn at 25. I did feel a little lonely because pretty much everyone I met had their first kid at 30 or later. Also, as another PP mentioned, my first kid is the only one with special needs. I had my last, 5th child at 40 and I was stressed out and working like crazy but she’s 15 now and neurotypical with no health issues. 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

I had my 3rd child at 28 and we are doing fine. If your daughter is ready for kids I wouldn't worry about the age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the egg troll back again?

This is 100% a troll/rage bait post

I don’t think it is. People are like this IRL.

It has all the hallmark phrases of a troll. Peak fertility, bouncing back, autism reference, etc.

[Anonymous]

MYOB
We had two by 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the egg troll back again?

This is 100% a troll/rage bait post

I don’t think it is. People are like this IRL.

It has all the hallmark phrases of a troll. Peak fertility, bouncing back, autism reference, etc.

Also the daughter is single and just telling her mom she wants to have a kid in her late 20s, and the mom thinks that might be too young but also might be too old?

give me a breeeeak.

[Anonymous]

I did similar research and landed at 28 min this area for my first kid no regrets.