When did you tell your parents that you were expecting?

[Anonymous]

First pregnancy, we told our parents at 6 weeks. They didn’t tell anyone. At 16 weekly, I had a miscarriage. My mom was devastated, mostly sad for me.

Second pregnancy, we told them at 16 weeks. We just didn’t want them to worry about us and the baby.

Baby was born at 36 weeks, one month early but spunky as hell. He is a happy, healthy, well adjusted teenager ready to go to college soon.

[Anonymous]

4 pregnancies, 2 live births, lots of iui and ivf along the way.... my mom knew immediately each of 4 pregnancies ( 2 iui, 1 natural, 1 ivf) but I also wanted her support for the miscarriages....told our mil around week 8 or so of the 2 that got that far, didn't tell siblings or friends until after nipt and nt results ( around week 13)

[Anonymous]

PP w/ problematic local MIL. Also didn’t tell her until after our first had been born. There was no time (wink,wink) and I made certain DH delayed the call until the baby and I were nicely settled an hour later.

My poor SIL made the rookie mistake of alerting the ILs that she was in labor and then was shocked and disappointed that my ILs sat vigil with her parents for hours. She didn’t think they’d race to the hospital.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine telling my mom any later than 10 minutes after I see the pregnant line but that’s my relationship with my mom.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP w/ problematic local MIL. Also didn’t tell her until after our first had been born. There was no time (wink,wink) and I made certain DH delayed the call until the baby and I were nicely settled an hour later.

My poor SIL made the rookie mistake of alerting the ILs that she was in labor and then was shocked and disappointed that my ILs sat vigil with her parents for hours. She didn’t think they’d race to the hospital.

I'm the PP who had fast labor. We waiting about 8 hours after baby arrived to call anyone. I was so delirious after giving birth and kept blacking out every time they tried to get me to stand up to use the bathroom. Then there was concern that I was on the verge of hemorrhaging--thank goodness they got that under control and it didn't turn into an emergency. Once I got stabilized, my midwife suggested I eat lunch before making any phone calls. Hats off to every women who is coherent and functional an hour after having a baby!

[Anonymous]

20 weeks.

[Anonymous]

First pregnancy I told my mom around 5 weeks; it was her birthday. She was happy, but a little annoyed when I asked her to keep the news quiet for a few weeks. She wanted to share the news with everyone right away. I think my husband told his parents around 7 weeks, and we shared more widely at around 9 or 10 weeks. Then at 17 weeks we had a prenatal diagnosis, and that was hard. I was glad I had family to lean on for support, but sharing that news repeatedly with others was hell.

Second pregnancy we told parents around 10 weeks. Shared with siblings and close friends at around 14 weeks, after all the tests and ultrasounds had come back okay. Didn’t tell acquaintances or coworkers until about 20 weeks when it was hard to hide anymore.

Tell people you would want to support you if something were to go wrong, and wait as long as possible to tell everyone else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:15 weeks. Our mothers are relentless gossips, so the second we share anything with them they are blabbing to everyone and anyone. Doesn't matter if you ask them to keep it in confidence. They will share and overshare a d I am old enough to understand the consequences of telling them any personal information.

They're also incredibly selfish and I knew if I miscarried, it would be all about their disappointment. I needed to get to a point where I felt the risk of loss had dramatically decreased and wasn't going to be resentful that they told the whole world I was pregnant.

If you have toxic people in your life like this I would recommend lying about the due date. Advance it 2wks or even a month otherwise you will be pestered relentlessly as the due date approaches. Give you the option of giving birth in peace. I have heard of toxic in-laws asking to be in the delivery room (!!!!!) promising they will stay behind a curtain (yeah right)

I did. This was several years back. I had a due date of end of January, I told them "third week of February." I also had no plans to tell anyone I was in labor. Baby decided to come FAST and in the middle of the night, so even if I was crazy enough to tell them I was in labor, that wasn't going to happen. Water suddenly broke just after midnight I was in hard active labor 30 minutes later, and baby was out 4 hours after that (Precipitous labor 0/10, do not recommend!).

I went a week overdue and was pestered daily with contradictory advice about induction

[Anonymous]

After my first doctor's visit around 8 weeks. Told my mom first then in laws. Waited to tell anyone else after 12 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:4 pregnancies, 2 live births, lots of iui and ivf along the way.... my mom knew immediately each of 4 pregnancies ( 2 iui, 1 natural, 1 ivf) but I also wanted her support for the miscarriages....told our mil around week 8 or so of the 2 that got that far, didn't tell siblings or friends until after nipt and nt results ( around week 13)

Same here, my mom knew every step of my fertility journey after I had 2 very early miscarriages. I think. Even told her when I was ovulating lol. She got photos of the embryos we implanted as well and was along on the ride for the 2 week wait each time. My MIL knew about our IVF but was kind of baffled by all the technology…but once we got a positive pregnancy test we let her know within a couple days.

My mom was also in the delivery room when both of our boys were born. She provided full time child care when they were infants too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine telling my mom any later than 10 minutes after I see the pregnant line but that’s my relationship with my mom.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I talk to my mom ALL the time! I told my mom as soon as I told my husband… but I tell her everything.

How did your husband feel about that?