kids birthday party-They never cut/served the cake.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they were saving the cake for a family party later that day?!

Very, very strange. And I’m shocked none of the guests clamored for cake. OP, was some other treat served like cupcakes?

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Anonymous wrote:I have friends who did this. They’re really weird about dye and sugar but want to have the party look right, so the cake is whisked away right after singing. My secret theory is that the parents binged on it later.

This is something you’ll see up through kindergarten, but by 1st grade most parents have chilled out and are more realistic about their ability to control kids’ behavior (theirs and others) by controlling food intake.

Your explanation makes no sense. They are grown adults who have had birthday parties themselves and gone to many. Nothing happens when children eat a piece of cake. And if they have a problem with sugar or whatever the latest scary ingredient then make something else that everyone can eat. That’s just some rude hostessing.

And why were there so many adults there?

Huh? My kid is in first grade. Every single birthday party they've attended has had one or both parents of each child stay for the entire party.

At that age we always stayed and we had parents stay for all of our elemetary school parties. It was rare a parent dropped off and we always had large parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's strange! I do think it's weird that some people have gone back to blowing out candles on a cake though, it's pretty gross. Most people I know do cupcakes or if they have a cake, they have the birthday child blow out a candle on a cupcake to avoid spreading germs.

Never been to a kid’s birthday party where they didn’t bow out the candles. What kind of people are you friends with?

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OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.

[Anonymous]

Never ever heard of that. It seems like they just forgot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.

It seems like a stretch, but maybe there was some sort of allergy issue?

Though, it's not like egg allergies are like peanuts, so I don't know why they wouldn't be able to serve a cake for everyone else. I get separate cupcakes for kids that have allergies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.

This is really odd time of year to have a park party. It's cold.

Also, usually park parties have the best food, like good pizza, trays of snacks, fancy cupcakes, good homemade things, because there's no restrictions on outside food.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.

This is really odd time of year to have a park party. It's cold.

Also, usually park parties have the best food, like good pizza, trays of snacks, fancy cupcakes, good homemade things, because there's no restrictions on outside food.

It was a couple weeks ago when it was oddly warm for the time of year-there was a back up plan of it was too cold. But yes-it is a weird time of year to even plan for an outside party. My husband and I were just talking about it this morning which is why I posted today. It just seems so odd to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.

Maybe money was an issue and they were saving the cake for later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.

This is really odd time of year to have a park party. It's cold.

Also, usually park parties have the best food, like good pizza, trays of snacks, fancy cupcakes, good homemade things, because there's no restrictions on outside food.

It was a couple weeks ago when it was oddly warm for the time of year-there was a back up plan of it was too cold. But yes-it is a weird time of year to even plan for an outside party. My husband and I were just talking about it this morning which is why I posted today. It just seems so odd to me.

I find it odd that you are complaining about it weeks later online. I wouldn't think twice and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow if my kid was at that party like that at age 4 she would be loudly asking when they get to have cake and would be upset if we left without cake. I'd probably wind up agreeing to buy her a cupcake on the way home just to get her out of there because her association is that birthday=cake, so attending a birthday party and seeing a cake but not being served any would be very hard for her to deal with at age 4.

By age 7 or 8 we'd be able to get her out of there without a problem but we'd be hearing about it for weeks. "Why do you think Joey's parents had that cake and didn't serve it? Do you think that was a fake cake? Do you think the cake tasted bad and that's why they didn't serve it? Will we be serving cake at my birthday because if not I don't want to have a party. Do you think Billy's birthday party next week will have cake and will they serve it and how big will the pieces be and can I have two pieces of cake since I didn't have any cake at Joey's party last month?"

I have to assume these people have no other children.

LOL I could have written the same paragraph verbatim!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The kids were definitely confused and yes did ask-but they asked their parents and actually pretty quietly. My kid definitely asked and I just kept saying I’m sure they will serve it-maybe they are just not ready to do it yet.

It was at a park so the parents just kind of moved the kids back over to the play structure when it became obvious the cake was not being served.

Nobody asked the parents-probably because it felt intrusive to ask (That’s why I didn’t-cus I don’t really know them).

To answer the question about if there were other treats-yes but like chip bags/fruit snacks that were out on display the whole party. They also didn’t really have real food either-They had a fruit tray that had some cheeses but it was very small and not enough for the amount of people that were there. The food thing is less weird to me at this point though because after 3 kids i’ve seen pretty much everything-except this cake thing. This is new.

This is really odd time of year to have a park party. It's cold.

Also, usually park parties have the best food, like good pizza, trays of snacks, fancy cupcakes, good homemade things, because there's no restrictions on outside food.

It was a couple weeks ago when it was oddly warm for the time of year-there was a back up plan of it was too cold. But yes-it is a weird time of year to even plan for an outside party. My husband and I were just talking about it this morning which is why I posted today. It just seems so odd to me.

I find it odd that you are complaining about it weeks later online. I wouldn't think twice and move on.

Yeah it’s been a busy couple of weeks-there were a couple holidays 😜 and I just haven’t had a chance to really think about it and it just came up this morning. Just never have experienced something like that before. I meant to ask one of the other parents who I know a little better after but it was right before preschool break and I just got caught up with other stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have friends who did this. They’re really weird about dye and sugar but want to have the party look right, so the cake is whisked away right after singing. My secret theory is that the parents binged on it later.

This is something you’ll see up through kindergarten, but by 1st grade most parents have chilled out and are more realistic about their ability to control kids’ behavior (theirs and others) by controlling food intake.

How wasteful!

Maybe there wasn’t a cake under the icing maybe it was a cardboard box or something like that?

[Anonymous]

I bet they found out that one of the children has a severe allergy, and they didn’t bring anything for that child, so they panicked and decided the best thing to do was to serve cake to no one. But they also didn’t want to mention it because then it singles the allergy kid out. But their kid still wants to have everyone sing happy birthday, so they told their kid they would do the singing and then he could have cake at home. And it was a poor solution but the best they could think of in the moment.

Assume the best of people, OP.

[Anonymous]

I would’ve asked the parents. Because it’s weird and confusing. And no I don’t think it would’ve been rude to quietly ask—“hey the kids are wondering about cake—do you need help cutting it?”