Are women offended if a man says he prefers a natural woman who doesn't wear makeup?

[Anonymous]

I've noticed a pattern with men I've dated. I attract them in settings where I'm dolled up -- full makeup, hair styled, form-fitting clothing. And then after we've been together a year or so, they start saying how they prefer a natural woman, no makeup, wearing sweatpants and a t-shirt. Meanwhile, they still salivate over sexy bombshell celebrities. 🙄

It strikes me as negging, at worst. At best, I think they've slipped into the "let's be comfortable now so I can also stop putting in effort and can just take you for granted" phase. What men fail to realize is that, for most women, *feeling* attractive is the biggest libido booster there is -- and that doesn't necessarily mean what's attractive to her partner, it's more so what's considered attractive societally, it's turning strangers' heads all day and then bringing that energy back home. Men seem to think women will be relieved to be told "you don't have to put in effort, I like natural," but it's a slippery slope to dumpyville, and that benefits no one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed a pattern with men I've dated. I attract them in settings where I'm dolled up -- full makeup, hair styled, form-fitting clothing. And then after we've been together a year or so, they start saying how they prefer a natural woman, no makeup, wearing sweatpants and a t-shirt. Meanwhile, they still salivate over sexy bombshell celebrities. 🙄

It strikes me as negging, at worst. At best, I think they've slipped into the "let's be comfortable now so I can also stop putting in effort and can just take you for granted" phase. What men fail to realize is that, for most women, *feeling* attractive is the biggest libido booster there is -- and that doesn't necessarily mean what's attractive to her partner, it's more so what's considered attractive societally, it's turning strangers' heads all day and then bringing that energy back home. Men seem to think women will be relieved to be told "you don't have to put in effort, I like natural," but it's a slippery slope to dumpyville, and that benefits no one.[/quote]

I learned something interesting about women tonight. Thanks for sharing

[Anonymous]

I’m sure they also prefer a woman who eats and is naturally tiny with seemingly no effort. Just like you may like a full head of hair and a six pack but not someone who is into their looks or spends time at the gym.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not offended because I don’t wear makeup.😀

Same here. Someone once told me that if you wear makeup correctly, you should look like you don’t have any on at all.

So I figured I’d skip all the work and not wear makeup.

Living a pretty good life without it!

[Anonymous]

I think he isn’t attracted to the Kardashian types.

[Anonymous]

I was once complimented at work for being "natural." A colleague told me that a man had mentioned that I am "really pretty, but natural" in a conversation they were having about somebody who wears bright lipstick and heavy, contoured foundation (they were not fans of that look).

On a daily basis, I wear: mascara, eyeliner, light eyeshadow, lip balm. I only wear mascara on my top lashes, but I'm not exactly light with it.

Bless his heart.

Men can't tell if you are wearing makeup unless you are wearing bright lipstick or your face is a different color than your neck. When people say that makeup should look like you aren't wearing makeup, that's what they mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not offended because I don’t wear makeup.😀

Same here. Someone once told me that if you wear makeup correctly, you should look like you don’t have any on at all.

So I figured I’d skip all the work and not wear makeup.

Living a pretty good life without it!

You misunderstood.

You would look a lot better with a little makeup. Try it for a week and report back: you will see that people treat you better in most circumstances.

[Anonymous]

https://www.perriconemd.com/c/no-makeup/?srsltid=AfmBOor_LlS5YZXNDcIl3nV2mKMS1ATo7-b7-neccPWfB55klacb6ztj

This thread is making me laugh so hard!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed a pattern with men I've dated. I attract them in settings where I'm dolled up -- full makeup, hair styled, form-fitting clothing. And then after we've been together a year or so, they start saying how they prefer a natural woman, no makeup, wearing sweatpants and a t-shirt. Meanwhile, they still salivate over sexy bombshell celebrities. 🙄

It strikes me as negging, at worst. At best, I think they've slipped into the "let's be comfortable now so I can also stop putting in effort and can just take you for granted" phase. What men fail to realize is that, for most women, *feeling* attractive is the biggest libido booster there is -- and that doesn't necessarily mean what's attractive to her partner, it's more so what's considered attractive societally, it's turning strangers' heads all day and then bringing that energy back home. Men seem to think women will be relieved to be told "you don't have to put in effort, I like natural," but it's a slippery slope to dumpyville, and that benefits no one.[/quote]

I learned something interesting about women tonight. Thanks for sharing

Nah, you didn't though. This is far from "most women". Yes, some women crave external validation this way, and good for them, and may they find it. But for me? Being oogled all day would give me the same feeling as being pawed at by a toddler all day (similar energy, really): I'd be "touched out" and want nothing more than to be left the fsck alone.

Also, the "slippery slope to dumpyville" comment lets you know what side the pp is really on. They sound like a natural-hating doll-type.

It's fine to like what you like, unless what you like is negging other people for what they like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, if no makeup is laser treatments, botox, microblading, permanent eyeliner, lash tinting, lip fillers.

I've never done any of this stuff, and won't. So there's at least a few of us who really do mean "natural".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not offended because I don’t wear makeup.😀

Same here. Someone once told me that if you wear makeup correctly, you should look like you don’t have any on at all.

So I figured I’d skip all the work and not wear makeup.

Living a pretty good life without it!

You misunderstood.

You would look a lot better with a little makeup. Try it for a week and report back: you will see that people treat you better in most circumstances.

I’m treated quite well. I’m very successful in my career and I’ve been happily married for many years. I have a very active social life. I can’t see how makeup would improve anything.

I believe I look great as I am. Whether others agree isn’t my problem. Those are their insecurities; not mine.

Want to try things my way? It’s cheaper!

[Anonymous]

I think a man saying he “prefers” women doing anything would be a red flag for me. Not a huge one, but it would give me the ick. It sounds like he’s shopping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men are stupid. They will see a woman with a pound of makeup on her face and say "See? She looks beautiful and natural!"

+1. I’m not offended but I would not think he was very smart or observant.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over a third of women don't wear make-up so all the posters insisting its impossible for a man to fid a woman who doens't wear make-up attracive and they are all just dumb unobservant losers who actually are only attracted to women with make-up that they can't tell....

You do realize that that 30% of women who don't wear make-up also find partners and boyfriends and husbands who do find them attractive. Women who wear make-up absolutely hate women who don't - hence all the comments about how no man has ever been attracted to women without make-up, to them it is unfathomable and that is why you have all the posts insisting the women men are attracted to are all wearing make-up and they just can't tell.

No one has said it is “impossible” for a man to find a woman who doesn’t wear makeup attractive. (Nice straw man, btw). What we are saying is that many of us have had enough encounters with men proclaiming to love the natural look while actually showing us that they don’t understand what’s natural.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are stupid. They will see a woman with a pound of makeup on her face and say "See? She looks beautiful and natural!"

Men are not stupid. You sound like you are, though