How to respond to this from MIL?

[Anonymous]

"Noted. Anyway, how are [renovations in your condo building going or whatever other topic shift moves things off the subject]?"

[Anonymous]

The person who said go grey rock had great advice. I would personally completely ignore her when she says these things. Act like she’s not even talking or not even there. No acknowledgement at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother is the same. She always adds "my doctor" in front of things. Like "my doctor told me I have the perfect diet."

I have started being rude since it is narcissistic. My response "I have never had a doctor say things to me like is said to you. He must be super special."

She's just going to think your doctor is a quack and refer you to hers. Dumb response.

Sigh. She's making it up. No doctor says that. It's blathering--she's not going to recommend her imaginary doctor.

[Anonymous]

“Uh-uh” said in the deadest tone possible. Then change subject. Or, when applicable, “It’s not a competition.”

[Anonymous]

I would head it off before she says it - "I know you never got the flu, but DD has it."

Or if she says it before you say - "Well isn't that nice."

[Anonymous]

Or some people need to know they are winning. So tell her when she makes a comment say -"well you win"

[Anonymous]

I will admit that in the past I’ve said “wow, you’re the one, huh?” And she literally responses with a little fake embarrassed chuckle. She is the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother is the same. She always adds "my doctor" in front of things. Like "my doctor told me I have the perfect diet."

I have started being rude since it is narcissistic. My response "I have never had a doctor say things to me like is said to you. He must be super special."

She's just going to think your doctor is a quack and refer you to hers. Dumb response.

Sigh. She's making it up. No doctor says that. It's blathering--she's not going to recommend her imaginary doctor.

Old people spend a lot of time at the doctor. For sure she has one at the ready.

[Anonymous]

This is my mother to an extent. “I used to wake up at 5 am every day and make all the food from scratch.” Every time she makes one of these pronouncements my DH started replying with “would you like a medal for that?” Yes, rude, I know, but it’s the only thing that shuts it down.

[Anonymous]

Just give the same response every single time. Do it quickly and every time. If she asks why you keep saying that, just respond with, “Well I figured you wanted some congratulations since you keep sharing how you were better at something. Is there some other reason you keep telling us how you are better?”

Anonymous wrote:My MIL consistently and persistently says things such as the following:

Noticing the kids have a pimple: “I never had a pimple in my life.”
Sounds like you’re the pimple winner of the family. Congratulations!”

When babies fuss: “My boys never fussed. They were perfect.”
“Sounds like you’re the winner at mothering in the family. Congratulations!”

About herself: “I’ve always had an incredibly flat stomach.”
“Sounds like you’re the winner of the flattest stomach in the family. Congratulations!”

Daughter is moody: “I’m always in a good mood. My sons were never moody.”
“Sounds like you’re the winner in mood regulation. Congratulations!”

When people have freckles or any kind of blemish: “I’ve never had such a thing. They’re just awful.”
“Sounds like you’re the winner with clear skin. Congratulations!”

“My guys never had sugar. I made everything from scratch.”
“Sounds like you were the best mom on the planet. Congratulations!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"No one is asking your opinion or experience, Miriam."

I prefer to go with “You win! You are the best” at whatever. With the “I never had the flu” I would probably suggest she enroll in some medical studies so others could learn from her genetic superiority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is my mother to an extent. “I used to wake up at 5 am every day and make all the food from scratch.” Every time she makes one of these pronouncements my DH started replying with “would you like a medal for that?” Yes, rude, I know, but it’s the only thing that shuts it down.

Love this!

[Anonymous]

Grin like the Cheshire cat and respond "How wonderful."

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be able to ignore. I’d probably always respond with “if you say so.” Just repeated it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL consistently and persistently says things such as the following:

Noticing the kids have a pimple: “I never had a pimple in my life.”

When babies fuss: “My boys never fussed. They were perfect.”

About herself: “I’ve always had an incredibly flat stomach.”

Daughter is moody: “I’m always in a good mood. My sons were never moody.”

When people have freckles or any kind of blemish: “I’ve never had such a thing. They’re just awful.”

“My guys never had sugar. I made everything from scratch.”

I cannot. I cannot stand her. I have to just mmmmmm, don’t I. There’s nothing else to be said. It’s just so. Hard.

she's a narcissist