Restored husband's broken phone and discovered things I don't want to know...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Managing his communications” while he travels? What does that mean?

Yeah, what on earth does that mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here: lol. This is clearly a guy who is not cheating, but has some opinions he is discreet about, apparently for good reason. He might even—-heaven forfend—dislike Kamala Harris. FWIW, I would not take it too literally when he banters over text with his guy friends, much of it is tongue in cheek in my experience.

Yeah — I immediately thought “He secretly voted for Trump.”

[Anonymous]

Haha the internet ruined another perfectly good relationship. Effin internet.

[Anonymous]

This thread is funny to me. If my wife had full unfettered access to my phone, she’d be f king appalled. But my guess that’s true for most men, and most women are realistic enough to know this implicitly.

I don’t cheat, and don’t really text other women. But with the lads? Absolute carnage… jokes, politics, women, word choice. It’s a different universe. That’s before you even get to bizarre web searches and questionable purchases.

The lesson? MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is funny to me. If my wife had full unfettered access to my phone, she’d be f king appalled. But my guess that’s true for most men, and most women are realistic enough to know this implicitly.

I don’t cheat, and don’t really text other women. But with the lads? Absolute carnage… jokes, politics, women, word choice. It’s a different universe. That’s before you even get to bizarre web searches and questionable purchases.

The lesson? MYOB.

Thanks for reminding me why I’m single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here: lol. This is clearly a guy who is not cheating, but has some opinions he is discreet about, apparently for good reason. He might even—-heaven forfend—dislike Kamala Harris. FWIW, I would not take it too literally when he banters over text with his guy friends, much of it is tongue in cheek in my experience.

Yeah — I immediately thought “He secretly voted for Trump.”

Hey, if I discovered that my dh had voted for Trump, I would leave him.

Not sure what I would do if I discovered cheating. I guess it would depend on the details. But if I learned he voted for Trump, I would tell him to get out today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he's a complete d*ck to his coworkers?

Or he's an Andrew Tate fan. A good friend recently discovered her husband loved Tate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here: lol. This is clearly a guy who is not cheating, but has some opinions he is discreet about, apparently for good reason. He might even—-heaven forfend—dislike Kamala Harris. FWIW, I would not take it too literally when he banters over text with his guy friends, much of it is tongue in cheek in my experience.

Yeah — I immediately thought “He secretly voted for Trump.”

Hey, if I discovered that my dh had voted for Trump, I would leave him.

Not sure what I would do if I discovered cheating. I guess it would depend on the details. But if I learned he voted for Trump, I would tell him to get out today.

Well, bye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here: lol. This is clearly a guy who is not cheating, but has some opinions he is discreet about, apparently for good reason. He might even—-heaven forfend—dislike Kamala Harris. FWIW, I would not take it too literally when he banters over text with his guy friends, much of it is tongue in cheek in my experience.

Yeah — I immediately thought “He secretly voted for Trump.”

Hey, if I discovered that my dh had voted for Trump, I would leave him.

Not sure what I would do if I discovered cheating. I guess it would depend on the details. But if I learned he voted for Trump, I would tell him to get out today.

Yeah, I’d leave my DH if I found out he’d secretly voted for Trump. And for me, that isn’t that far-fetched, given that he is a lifetime Republican, who actually did vote for Harris. At least that is what he said, lol. Cheating? Meh. Trump? GTFO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here: lol. This is clearly a guy who is not cheating, but has some opinions he is discreet about, apparently for good reason. He might even—-heaven forfend—dislike Kamala Harris. FWIW, I would not take it too literally when he banters over text with his guy friends, much of it is tongue in cheek in my experience.

Yeah — I immediately thought “He secretly voted for Trump.”

Hey, if I discovered that my dh had voted for Trump, I would leave him.

Not sure what I would do if I discovered cheating. I guess it would depend on the details. But if I learned he voted for Trump, I would tell him to get out today.

Yeah, I’d leave my DH if I found out he’d secretly voted for Trump. And for me, that isn’t that far-fetched, given that he is a lifetime Republican, who actually did vote for Harris. At least that is what he said, lol. Cheating? Meh. Trump? GTFO.

Typical male Harris voter. Terrified of his wife

[Anonymous]

It's too bad he doesn't feel like he can share the real him with you. That said, most of us are different people to different people. My wife is very different with some of her more ghetto work mates than the woman I know and I'm fine with that. It doesn't shock my delicate sensibilities.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your husband is a gentleman and has manners. Some conversation
S arent meant for women.

Just like women have spaces, men have them too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As for what I've read, it's a shocking mix of crass talk with certain buddies interspersed with messages to different people he meets on his trips that leave me wondering who is this guy?

Men who aren't capable of being a "bad boy" don't get married - they take Holy Orders or become incels. It sounds like you're very sheltered to male nature, as even practicing Christian men can get crass when they get together with their buddies. Especially the older generations.

The fact he has friends he speaks candidly with and also makes friends on his overseas travels are green flags - if he were straight-laced, boring, and antisocial instead, you wouldn't have married the guy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here: lol. This is clearly a guy who is not cheating, but has some opinions he is discreet about, apparently for good reason. He might even—-heaven forfend—dislike Kamala Harris. FWIW, I would not take it too literally when he banters over text with his guy friends, much of it is tongue in cheek in my experience.

Yeah — I immediately thought “He secretly voted for Trump.”

Hey, if I discovered that my dh had voted for Trump, I would leave him.

Not sure what I would do if I discovered cheating. I guess it would depend on the details. But if I learned he voted for Trump, I would tell him to get out today.

Yeah, I’d leave my DH if I found out he’d secretly voted for Trump. And for me, that isn’t that far-fetched, given that he is a lifetime Republican, who actually did vote for Harris. At least that is what he said, lol. Cheating? Meh. Trump? GTFO.

Typical male Harris voter. Terrified of his wife

Typical ignorant response from a Trumper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is funny to me. If my wife had full unfettered access to my phone, she’d be f king appalled. But my guess that’s true for most men, and most women are realistic enough to know this implicitly.

I don’t cheat, and don’t really text other women. But with the lads? Absolute carnage… jokes, politics, women, word choice. It’s a different universe. That’s before you even get to bizarre web searches and questionable purchases.

The lesson? MYOB.

Thanks for reminding me why I’m single.

Well, that’s not why.