Feel so tired of kids behavior and unappreciated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are normal. I always laugh at the people who love to run to post on these sorts of threads, claiming ‘my kids would NEVER blah blah’. Sorry, but they’re lying or delusional

Nobody is saying their kids would never but they are saying it doesn't go without correcting and pushback and refusal to be a servant (Aka walk dog.)

I have 3 teens and they are not perfect, but they know very well that their phones and other devices are my property since I pay for them. Chores must get done and absolutely no rudeness!

+1000

Meanwhile, OP rewards her kids' bad behavior by doing advent calendars for them...

[Anonymous]

Kids are rude. I was rude as a teenager. There have to be consequences. Just last night I was told I was the meanest mom ever...cool. you have to accept that.
Remember the thread here about the teen girl who spent hundreds at Sephora and the mother was afraid to make her return any of it? Is that who you want to be?

[Anonymous]

Kids can be hard to deal with but it honestly sounds like you’ve brought almost all of this on yourself. If you can’t see what you’re doing wrong, you need a parenting coach. Because it’s a lot (like basically everything).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three kids from 9-20 years old. I work a full time job- often even late at night on computer-now I’m trying to pull off usual magic of Christmas / clean house- take care of pets— you know the normal 30 hour a day job—-and this morning im about over the top angry at all three of them.

My daughter rarely helps with her dog- she gets up this AM to work out and leaves the dog for me to take out- all her breakfast food on the counter- peanut butter - honey all sticky lids off. Asks me to turn her car on to heat it up.

My 9 year old comes home from neighbor sleepover because church pants he packed too small- talks to me rudely- has tshirt with pants- I tell him to wear a change shirt too and he won’t listen- looks like a goof— asks where the elf is— then runs back to neighbor.

My 20 year old was out last night with his friends (home from college) and must have had snack food on counter- not put up- the laundry room looks like a tornado and the dog door wide open.

I mean- I got up early to get their advent calendar ready and it’s only 8 am and I’m furious at all three!

They do well at school and people think they are great kids—- but at home, I feel like I’m always so aggravated with them- I hate to start the morning yelling at but they don’t help or clean up or do chores. They are all selfish and I’m so sick of it. What should I do??? Is this just normal kids?? I have tried everything to get them to help and do their part- had counselor that told me to just be thankful they are great kids—- but it’s so hard!!

This is on you. Why didn't you start from the get go teaching your children to clean/pickup up after themselves? Your 20 yr old should be doing a lot of things to keep house in order when he is home and he absolutely needs to clean up any mess he and his friends make. As for daughter and her dog either she is 100% in charge of dog then the dog goes. She also needs to be my helping you keep house clean and as always cleans up after herself. The same goes for your 9 year old. Your children are lazy slobs because you have allowed them to be useless.

You need a meeting with them and lay down the law. Personally, I would cancel Christmas because they don't deserve Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three kids from 9-20 years old. I work a full time job- often even late at night on computer-now I’m trying to pull off usual magic of Christmas / clean house- take care of pets— you know the normal 30 hour a day job—-and this morning im about over the top angry at all three of them.

My daughter rarely helps with her dog- she gets up this AM to work out and leaves the dog for me to take out- all her breakfast food on the counter- peanut butter - honey all sticky lids off. Asks me to turn her car on to heat it up.

My 9 year old comes home from neighbor sleepover because church pants he packed too small- talks to me rudely- has tshirt with pants- I tell him to wear a change shirt too and he won’t listen- looks like a goof— asks where the elf is— then runs back to neighbor.

My 20 year old was out last night with his friends (home from college) and must have had snack food on counter- not put up- the laundry room looks like a tornado and the dog door wide open.

I mean- I got up early to get their advent calendar ready and it’s only 8 am and I’m furious at all three!

They do well at school and people think they are great kids—- but at home, I feel like I’m always so aggravated with them- I hate to start the morning yelling at but they don’t help or clean up or do chores. They are all selfish and I’m so sick of it. What should I do??? Is this just normal kids?? I have tried everything to get them to help and do their part- had counselor that told me to just be thankful they are great kids—- but it’s so hard!!

This is on you. Why didn't you start from the get go teaching your children to clean/pickup up after themselves? Your 20 yr old should be doing a lot of things to keep house in order when he is home and he absolutely needs to clean up any mess he and his friends make. As for daughter and her dog either she is 100% in charge of dog then the dog goes. She also needs to be my helping you keep house clean and as always cleans up after herself. The same goes for your 9 year old. Your children are lazy slobs because you have allowed them to be useless.

You need a meeting with them and lay down the law. Personally, I would cancel Christmas because they don't deserve Christmas.

I was thinking she should cancel Christmas too! I actually did that once when my kids were younger and being brats. Gave the presents the next year. I suspect she does it for her though, not for them. So probably wouldn’t do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three kids from 9-20 years old. I work a full time job- often even late at night on computer-now I’m trying to pull off usual magic of Christmas / clean house- take care of pets— you know the normal 30 hour a day job—-and this morning im about over the top angry at all three of them.

My daughter rarely helps with her dog- she gets up this AM to work out and leaves the dog for me to take out- all her breakfast food on the counter- peanut butter - honey all sticky lids off. Asks me to turn her car on to heat it up.

My 9 year old comes home from neighbor sleepover because church pants he packed too small- talks to me rudely- has tshirt with pants- I tell him to wear a change shirt too and he won’t listen- looks like a goof— asks where the elf is— then runs back to neighbor.

My 20 year old was out last night with his friends (home from college) and must have had snack food on counter- not put up- the laundry room looks like a tornado and the dog door wide open.

I mean- I got up early to get their advent calendar ready and it’s only 8 am and I’m furious at all three!

They do well at school and people think they are great kids—- but at home, I feel like I’m always so aggravated with them- I hate to start the morning yelling at but they don’t help or clean up or do chores. They are all selfish and I’m so sick of it. What should I do??? Is this just normal kids?? I have tried everything to get them to help and do their part- had counselor that told me to just be thankful they are great kids—- but it’s so hard!!

This is on you. Why didn't you start from the get go teaching your children to clean/pickup up after themselves? Your 20 yr old should be doing a lot of things to keep house in order when he is home and he absolutely needs to clean up any mess he and his friends make. As for daughter and her dog either she is 100% in charge of dog then the dog goes. She also needs to be my helping you keep house clean and as always cleans up after herself. The same goes for your 9 year old. Your children are lazy slobs because you have allowed them to be useless.

You need a meeting with them and lay down the law. Personally, I would cancel Christmas because they don't deserve Christmas.

I was thinking she should cancel Christmas too! I actually did that once when my kids were younger and being brats. Gave the presents the next year. I suspect she does it for her though, not for them. So probably wouldn’t do it.

My sister once cancelled a child's birthday party because kid was acting up so bad. Following through on threats works wonders on bad behavior.