Did you want a new relationship after your divorce and did it happen for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been divorced for 2 years now. I am 47. I am tall attractive sexy rich friendly great hobbies charismatic etc. I am one of the rare men that still get approached by women of all ages.

But I am single. I have no desire for romantic or even FWB relationship. Having given 120% of myself to my ex wife and still ended divorce I have no appetite to go down the path of another relationship again. I am enjoying raising my children, the rare hookups I get when I am very horny, and my hobbies.

I have heard that men rush into relationships post divorce and honestly I am surprised that men are so quick to rush into devoting themselves to another woman again.

They are users. They aren't looking to "devote themselves" they are extracting value.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP- Date, date, date and then date some more. Boost your ego, have a fling, take up golf & go to happy hour afterwards, travel and meet men, do what you want because you CAN. Here's the thing- later in life (45+) men NEED women more than the other way. Women need men in their 20s and 30s. You will meet many, many lonely men out there. If you date a little older than your age range, be wary of becoming someone's nurse... IFYKYK

I did not need a man in my 20s or 30s. Odd statement. I did not even date very much because I didn’t feel like I needed a man at all. I did end up getting married and by early 30s and divorced in my early 40s. I’ve been single most of my adult life and it’s infinitely better than being married. Men don’t add much value.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OP- Date, date, date and then date some more. Boost your ego, have a fling, take up golf & go to happy hour afterwards, travel and meet men, do what you want because you CAN. Here's the thing- later in life (45+) men NEED women more than the other way. Women need men in their 20s and 30s. You will meet many, many lonely men out there. If you date a little older than your age range, be wary of becoming someone's nurse... IFYKYK

This. I’m 46 and I know 6-7 amazing available men and only one amazing available woman. It’s the opposite of what it was when we were early 30s.

Where are they??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been divorced for 2 years now. I am 47. I am tall attractive sexy rich friendly great hobbies charismatic etc. I am one of the rare men that still get approached by women of all ages.

But I am single. I have no desire for romantic or even FWB relationship. Having given 120% of myself to my ex wife and still ended divorce I have no appetite to go down the path of another relationship again. I am enjoying raising my children, the rare hookups I get when I am very horny, and my hobbies.

I have heard that men rush into relationships post divorce and honestly I am surprised that men are so quick to rush into devoting themselves to another woman again.

I’m 46 (F) and although I also gave myself to my ex H I have no bitterness about that. I think there’s no reason why it couldn’t work with someone else. I like people and am excited to find a great partner for the second half of life… still a lot ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I divorced in my early 30s but already had 3 kids. I never found anyone partly because I was busy working and supporting three kids, but also because most quality men could choose a woman my age without kids. I guess I could have looked for much older men or military men - but I am fine. Divorce is about the end of a relationship; it doesn’t contain a promise for another one. That said, if that’s what you want, make time for it. It won’t get easier with time.

did you ever find someone? and if not are you at peace with that?
I feel like i OUGHT to be ok with just being single forever now and that makes me sad.