Neighbor introduced me to her FIL, “Big Daddy”. What do I call him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If he introduced himself by that name, then that's what you call him.

I call my mother's cousin's husband by a similar name because that's what everyone calls him.

Don't overthink it.

I only call my husband daddy in bed when we have sex. There is no way I would call another grown man daddy. I don’t care what anyone wants me to call them. It is my right not to do so. With that being said, just don’t call him anything.

[Anonymous]

Did the man actually say this to you?

“Hello, I’m Big Daddy.”

If yes, call him Big Daddy and then ask him how he got that name.

[Anonymous]

Omg of course you should call him Big Daddy! Please engage with this man! He sounds delightful!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did the man actually say this to you?

“Hello, I’m Big Daddy.”

If yes, call him Big Daddy and then ask him how he got that name.

Op here. Yes, this is exactly how he introduced himself. He went straight into details about his family being from (insert Deep South town) and how long it had been since he had come up to where we live. I would say he’s probably mid seventies, maybe 75-ish or so. Absolutely the Southern extroverted grandpa you would picture with the nickname. Large frame, big smile, charismatic, loves to talk and tell you stories about the old days type of person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
If he introduced himself by that name, then that's what you call him.

I call my mother's cousin's husband by a similar name because that's what everyone calls him.

Don't overthink it.

I only call my husband daddy in bed when we have sex. There is no way I would call another grown man daddy. I don’t care what anyone wants me to call them. It is my right not to do so. With that being said, just don’t call him anything.

I call my husband daddy all the time. Started when my first kid was born - now it’s a habit.DH calls me momma as well. MIL makes a tongue in cheek joke when he says it and she’s around, but he reminds her that she graduated and is now “Grandmommy”

[Anonymous]

Does he love the smell of mendacity in the morning?

Also, how long have you known your husband is gay? And where do you buy your slips?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
If he introduced himself by that name, then that's what you call him.

I call my mother's cousin's husband by a similar name because that's what everyone calls him.

Don't overthink it.

I only call my husband daddy in bed when we have sex.

We did not need to know this

OP, I’d go with Sir

[Anonymous]

Call him Mr. Ives.

[Anonymous]

I feel like grandparents names become lifetime monikers after a while. I would just call him Big Daddy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Id definitely call him "Big Daddy". Here's your chance to pretend to be in a dysfunctional southern Gothic family and I would take it OP!

Exactly! Really get into it!

you can be maggie the cat
of cat on a hot tin roof

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0051459/characters/nm0412322

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

This was a good movie. I think that is the old man on Summer Magic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just ask him. "Hi Big Daddy, good to see you. By the way, I forgot to ask last time what I should call you."

The answer is Big Daddy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mr. Her husband’s last name.

Or Sir

+1 it's not hard to avoid using people's names. Just like what you do if you don't know or forget your name.

I would not be calling someone this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks PPs!!

For the first one, she did not take her husbands last name when they married so they have two different last names in their household. I’m not sure if the husband and father share a last name.

I’m not sure if Mr. Daddy or Big Daddy makes me feel more awkward . I may have to lean into Big Daddy on that one.

He seems to be greatly admired in their family. He definitely hopped right into family stories and his life experiences.

Why would the father and son have different last names, what does that have to do with whether the neighbor wife changed her last name?

In this fancy Southern family it's extremely unlikely the son of that generation would have his mom's last name instead!

But thanks for starting this delightful thread that none of us knew we needed. Truly!

[Anonymous]

Mr Big obviously. Eat your heart out, Carrie.