Neighbor introduced me to her FIL, “Big Daddy”. What do I call him?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend whose kids call her mom Big Momma

She is Momma and so her mom is Big Momma.

But I know her first name! I wouldn't call her Big Momma or this man Big Daddy. I would just ask him his name. You are a random neighbour he just met, I am sure he will tell you his name.

[Anonymous]

I’d call him Biggie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If he introduced himself by that name, then that's what you call him.

Nope.

Someone can choose whether they prefer to be called by their first or last name or by a normal nickname. But if they go be called "Big Daddy" or "Maestro," you get to pass. You don't have to join them in their delusions.

[Anonymous]

If he identifies as “Big Daddy” then that’s what you call him. Don’t dead-name the geezer.

[Anonymous]

I would call him Big Daddy.

In fact I would go further and start calling every older man in your life Big Daddy, and every older woman Big Momma. This will normalize/desexualize it.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I had the opportunity to ask as we have row homes so their porch is right outside my front door. I did ask what I should call him and as some of you guessed, he replied Big Daddy. 😆 Saying everyone calls him Big Daddy. I am in my thirties and he said he has grandchildren older than me. (He did not ask my age, just went right into them being older than me)

I can now say I have been able to call him Big Daddy and it’s every bit as awkward for me inside but they don’t bat an eye at it and to be honest, it seems like I am a part of some tradition that my family never had.

If anything this has made my Monday a bit cheerier.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. I have an ex that called me big daddy. After that I couldn’t call another man big daddy. It would just be uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Maybe OP could use synonyms: Huge Father. Papa Massif. Padre Grande.

[Anonymous]

To the extent this is a real question, I would never call someone “Big Daddy,” just like I wouldn’t call my neighbor’s FIL “Grandpa” or “Pop Pop” or whatever.

Don’t use a name or else call him Mr. So and So (ask your neighbor her FIL’s last name).

[Anonymous]

Big D

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mr. Her husband’s last name.

Or Sir

+1. Obviously.

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of the Juvenile song “Back that thang up”. Lol. If the chorus is not his ringtone, it should be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s the kind of thread title that makes dcum hard to quit, op.

I would call him Mr. neighbor’s last name.

So glad I logged on today. I needed this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Big D

That's actually worse.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a state where nicknames are common; so common, in fact, that they are often included in obituaries. If someone says, call me "X," as long as it isn't vulgar, I will because that is what they prefer and like me enough to be on a first name basis.