Advice: He bought me a birthday gift…and we broke up before my birthday

[Anonymous]

By this logic my ex wife should be sending me a Starbucks card with a little under $2mil on it.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure you made the right decision by breaking up w/this guy??

I mean…..the fact that he hasn’t asked you to reimburse him for the pricey massage 💆🏻‍♀️ illustrates that he is a decent, stand up kinda guy.

All kidding aside - if it will make YOU feel intrinsically better then you can always offer to give him the money for the massage but it really isn’t necessary.

After all it was a gift and you know how people always say…
To never look a gift horse in the mouth..

[Anonymous]

This has nothing to do with the gift. You want the last glimpse of him. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Treating people the way you'd want to be treated is usually a good strategy. Return the money. PP's gift card suggestion is a good plan.

Letting go of people doesn't have to mean hurt feelings and bad blood, and giving him the money back could go a long way toward preventing resentments. You'd appreciate it, were the roles reversed, so do the right thing.

I would be offended if someone tried to give me cash for a gift in this scenario. How hard up do they think I am and why are they bringing money into our dynamic and breakup? We're talking about a gift certificate for a massage here, not some heirloom or big ticket item.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Treating people the way you'd want to be treated is usually a good strategy. Return the money. PP's gift card suggestion is a good plan.

Letting go of people doesn't have to mean hurt feelings and bad blood, and giving him the money back could go a long way toward preventing resentments. You'd appreciate it, were the roles reversed, so do the right thing.

I would be offended if someone tried to give me cash for a gift in this scenario. How hard up do they think I am and why are they bringing money into our dynamic and breakup? We're talking about a gift certificate for a massage here, not some heirloom or big ticket item.

Oh, and besides being kind of miffed, I would think they were EXTREMELY tacky.