Dating someone with a terminal illness

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cut him loose. You were nuts to talk marriage after only six months!

Agree.

[Anonymous]

You should consider marrying him. What's his life insurance situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry Op. I would personally not break up with someone I was considering marrying at a time he needs support the most. But it depends on your ability to be a friend and caregiver at this time.

Earlier this year there was a promising study of mRNA vaccines (immunotherapy) for glioblastoma at the University of Florida. The Duke Tisch center is also at the forefront of research. Glioblastoma wasn’t budging for decades from the 18 months diagnosis but it seems there is finally a little bit of progress. I wish the best to your boyfriend.

+1. This is a very difficult situation and I’m very sorry, OP. But I also would not consider breaking up with someone I was considering marrying at a time when they need me the most.

Despite how dire the prognosis seems, there do seem to be some recent advances in treatments. I wish both of you all the best.

[Anonymous]

I’d assume he’d plan to move in with a relative asap. He only has a few months and will need care. If they’re not close by, he’s going to be moving away for family support. He probably suspects you are not a close enough relationship for him to rely on you after six months of dating, which is certainly reasonable.

[Anonymous]

I would not advise you to put anything in writing just now. He's just found out. You don't know all the details. Beyond saying you're available if he feels like talking, don't push it. You also need time to process this. The worst thing you can do is make promises now that you won't be able or willing to keep later.