Low Libido -- advice appreciated

[Anonymous]

I am actually not anywhere bear perimenopause (saw MK at 27 or so) and I saw her for about a year. I took the hormones for about 4months, and we did pre and post testing.

[Anonymous]

Where can I find maca supplement for my DH and me??

[Anonymous]

try exercise and eating better. hire a personal trainer if you can swing it. working on your body will really impact your body image and self esteem, not to mention your circulation. all this is important for libido. not to mention you will be in better shape during and after any future pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

(OP posting) ... Those are good reminders, for now and the future. Thanks for mentioning, PP. I know for sure that exercise does make me feel better in general, so that should help with everything. I honestly wish these natural, "regular life" approaches would do the magic and "fix" my trouble. Unfortunately, it seems to be more complicated than that ... Again, though, improving lifestyle, etc, I would imagine can only help. I don't have a weight issue, but the body image trouble is there, so I know that's been a factor all along.

[Anonymous]

Have you always had libido issues or have there been times like when you and DH first met when you had a higher libido?

We fell out of the habit of regular sex when DH was sick for a pro-longed period of time (about a year). It sounds silly, but it was really hard for us to get our rhythm back and for me to get in the mood. We went to therapy for it and I tried supplements, but the biggest thing that helped was just planning on having regular sex for a while. There were a lot of times I didn't want to but I tried to relax, tried to do a lot of foreplay, etc... and eventually once things got going I found myself enjoying it. The next couple of times it was still hard to get in the mood, but I found that knowing that tonight was the night helped me mentally prepare for it throughout the day. Eventually we found we didn't need to schedule it anymore and it just happened more naturally and I found it much easier to get in the mood.

It was not easy at first though. We got into fights about who wasn't trying enough and sometimes it felt like we were high school kids who had no idea how to have sex. Do what you can to make things easy on yourselves, get a lubricant you like, keep the lights out if that helps you feel more comfortable about your body, don't eat foods ahead of time that will make you feel bloated, etc...

I didn't stick with it so I can't say how well it works, but Whole Foods makes a women's libido supplement.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

OP here. PP, thanks for sharing your view, too, and congrats to you and your DH for getting everything to work out well ... It's always great to hear that progress can happen, even if it takes a lot of hard work. For me, unfortunately, I've always had my libido problem, and intertwined with that, an inability to really relax. So, it's been a long struggle.