Dating a single dad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m dating a single dad and he’s willing to get a babysitter sometimes to go on dates with me. Dealbreaker or red flag?

What’s your concern with this? I don’t understand. Should he not date? Or not spend money on a babysitter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Red flag - he shouldn’t be giving up on his kids. Woah

So, what, a single dad isn’t allowed to have a love life? He has the kids all the time — parents hire babysitters from time to time. How is this a problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If this man was worth it, the wife would not have broken the marriage, especially if children were involved.

Some woman, who had kids with this man, decided that she is better off being divorced from him. MAJOR RED FLAG.

But, red flag only if you want a relationship. Green flag if you only want to use his Arnold Palmer appendage and he is medically clean.

OP never said there was a wife who “broke the marriage.”

She described a single dad, not a divorced one. There are lots of reasons a father might be single, from abandonment by a mother (very common) to fostering, to whatever.

[Anonymous]

Green flag.

If he is a single Dad he is a quality person. He has taken on the kid when the mother is unable or unwilling to do so for various reasons.

He is doing the right thing.

Go out on some dates and see how it goes. Have low expectations. Have a good evening. See how things go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on what proportion of his time with an awake child he is missing out on. If he is a widower or has near-100% custody I don't see anything bad about it.

A single dad by definition has 100% custody.

[Anonymous]

A single Dad, like a single Mom, is still allowed to go out on dates and have some adult time out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends. Does he share custody? I wouldn’t get a sitter for my custodial days, in general. I try to maximize my time with the kids.

If he’s truly single parenting then I think it’s healthy for him to balance his own needs within reason. A partner could ultimately add a lot to his child’s life.

He is single. Who would he share custody with? Does he have a baby mama?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm single mom (ex passed away) dating single dad. He came over last night right after work. His kids are old enough to be home couple of hours without him. Ex wife may pick up the kids some weekends. My own kid is at relative's house most weekends.
Single parents don't need to see anyone more than 1-2 times a week. If you want more, this will be a problem til kids are older.

That is a divorced dad, not a single dad.

Huge difference.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend's ex wife dropped off their 6 year old son and his dog one day and told her ex husband that she could no longer deal with the son. She moved out of state with a guy she met.

My boyfriend raised his son from age 6 as a single Dad. He is a good quality man.

Some women are just nut jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If this man was worth it, the wife would not have broken the marriage, especially if children were involved.

Some woman, who had kids with this man, decided that she is better off being divorced from him. MAJOR RED FLAG.

But, red flag only if you want a relationship. Green flag if you only want to use his Arnold Palmer appendage and he is medically clean.

You assume the wife broke it. LOL, typically man hater. Most of the time the wife is the issue and divorced fathers are better without their dead beat spouses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on what proportion of his time with an awake child he is missing out on. If he is a widower or has near-100% custody I don't see anything bad about it.

A single dad by definition has 100% custody.

No, a single dad is single and can have no custody, partial custody or full custody.