Dating a single dad

[Anonymous]

Depends. Does he share custody? I wouldn’t get a sitter for my custodial days, in general. I try to maximize my time with the kids.

If he’s truly single parenting then I think it’s healthy for him to balance his own needs within reason. A partner could ultimately add a lot to his child’s life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares. Nbd

If it’s a little kid they go to bed at 7:30pm so head out then.

If it’s a big kid they have sports and

homework so do whatever.

OP, this is the red flag you are looking for.

[Anonymous]

I'm single mom (ex passed away) dating single dad. He came over last night right after work. His kids are old enough to be home couple of hours without him. Ex wife may pick up the kids some weekends. My own kid is at relative's house most weekends.
Single parents don't need to see anyone more than 1-2 times a week. If you want more, this will be a problem til kids are older.

[Anonymous]

If you are single and childless and want to have your children, don't date a single dad. The rear doesn't matter as you should draw a hard line on that issue. You want someone who can prioritize you and the children you have together.

[Anonymous]

If he shares custody and only gets the kids part of the time I’d say huge red flag. My XH would leave our son to go on dates to the point where my son just asked to stay with me all the time because the whole point of him being there was to spend time with his dad.

But if the guy has full custody it’s a different story.

[Anonymous]

Green flag and offer to pay half for sitter.

[Anonymous]

I guess this goes back to the whole awful
Thread about “single mothers”. How single is he?

If he has 100% custody, the he has no option but to get a babysitter, and it’s a green flag. If he only has every other weekend, and is putting his kids aside to see you, then that to me would be an issue.

[Anonymous]

I’m dating a single dad and he gets babysitters. His kids love it because they spoil them. He has them 100% of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are single and childless and want to have your children, don't date a single dad. The rear doesn't matter as you should draw a hard line on that issue. You want someone who can prioritize you and the children you have together.

+1. Single dad here. Kids come first and second
. Any woman that comes into the picture will be a distance third or fourth. If my daughter calls me while we are on a date not only will I answer but I will stay on the phone with her as long as she needs me to.

For now I am just happy with a hookup on a call.

Post divorced I dated a single and childless woman who I had warned that she won't be my priority. Somehow (surprise surprise right ) she thought she could change me and make her a priority as well. Could of months later after many unreturned calls (I was busy with my kids), changed plans at last minutes, not being available most weekends, not making her a priority in my life, she decided to move on.

So yes if you are a single and childless woman make sure the single dad you are interested in will be willing to make time for you

[Anonymous]

I think women want to be desired far more than men I feel in a relationship. Of course you have men who compete for that attention, but I honestly think with women unless you can make them priority #1 they will feel like something is missing in the relationship. So for a single dad it can be a challenge especially if he has a daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are single and childless and want to have your children, don't date a single dad. The rear doesn't matter as you should draw a hard line on that issue. You want someone who can prioritize you and the children you have together.

+1. Single dad here. Kids come first and second
. Any woman that comes into the picture will be a distance third or fourth. If my daughter calls me while we are on a date not only will I answer but I will stay on the phone with her as long as she needs me to.

For now I am just happy with a hookup on a call.

Post divorced I dated a single and childless woman who I had warned that she won't be my priority. Somehow (surprise surprise right ) she thought she could change me and make her a priority as well. Could of months later after many unreturned calls (I was busy with my kids), changed plans at last minutes, not being available most weekends, not making her a priority in my life, she decided to move on.

So yes if you are a single and childless woman make sure the single dad you are interested in will be willing to make time for you

You sound a bit strange and not very likable. I would ofc prioritize my children as well, but to tell the person you are dating that they’re a distant third is just obnoxious. No wonder no one is dating you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Green flag and offer to pay half for sitter.

Absolutely not pay half. The children are his responsibility alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are single and childless and want to have your children, don't date a single dad. The rear doesn't matter as you should draw a hard line on that issue. You want someone who can prioritize you and the children you have together.

+1. Single dad here. Kids come first and second
. Any woman that comes into the picture will be a distance third or fourth. If my daughter calls me while we are on a date not only will I answer but I will stay on the phone with her as long as she needs me to.

For now I am just happy with a hookup on a call.

Post divorced I dated a single and childless woman who I had warned that she won't be my priority. Somehow (surprise surprise right ) she thought she could change me and make her a priority as well. Could of months later after many unreturned calls (I was busy with my kids), changed plans at last minutes, not being available most weekends, not making her a priority in my life, she decided to move on.

So yes if you are a single and childless woman make sure the single dad you are interested in will be willing to make time for you

As a truly single mom, I support this message!! Kids come first. Period. I find it attractive when a parent actually prioritizes their kids, and yes I would help pay the sitter.
If you know, you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If this man was worth it, the wife would not have broken the marriage, especially if children were involved.

Some woman, who had kids with this man, decided that she is better off being divorced from him. MAJOR RED FLAG.

But, red flag only if you want a relationship. Green flag if you only want to use his Arnold Palmer appendage and he is medically clean.

This person isn't asking if the man is worth dating in the first place! Lots of great people get divorced. Sometimes it's better for both of them. Back down!

OP, my kids' pediatrician would always ask me, if I was the one who took in my kid, when my last date night was. She was old-school in most ways AND she recognized that one key to a happy family is sustaining the relationship outside the house. And just plain sustaining YOURSELF outside the house--otherwise, you'd go bananas, or at least I would! Of course this guy should spend time with you without his kids. Every parent should.

[Anonymous]

Both a dealer breaker and red flag.
Move on..