Dating a single dad

[Anonymous]

I’m dating a single dad and he’s willing to get a babysitter sometimes to go on dates with me. Dealbreaker or red flag?

[Anonymous]

Green flag. I am divorced dad and I have 2 kids. The reason I am not dating is because I can't commit to regularly going out and giving time to someone else besides my kids.

So I am red flag and the guy you are dating is a green flag. The guy is willing to hire a babysitter just so he can take you out. He clearly thinks you are worth it.

[Anonymous]

How would this be a red flag? I don’t get this post at all.

[Anonymous]

Red flag - he shouldn’t be giving up on his kids. Woah

[Anonymous]

How long have you been dating? What type of events is he getting a babysitter for? Just a random dinner or a black tie event? What is his relationship w his coparent like? How old are the kids? What % of time does he have the kids?

This isnt a black and white issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m dating a single dad and he’s willing to get a babysitter sometimes to go on dates with me. Dealbreaker or red flag?

How else would he go on a date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Red flag - he shouldn’t be giving up on his kids. Woah

Giving up on? Parents are allowed to have time away from their kids. Hiring a babysitter is a responsible way to be sure your kids are cared for while you go out and enjoy kid-free activities.

Red flags would be things like: bringing the kids on the date, leaving the kids in the car, leaving the kids home alone without supervision (unless they're old enough to responsibly handle that for a couple hours for a daytime date), leaving the kids with some random and/or irresponsible person just so they can go date...

OP, this is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m dating a single dad and he’s willing to get a babysitter sometimes to go on dates with me. Dealbreaker or red flag?

Seriously, he should focus on his children if they are still young enough to need a babysitter. You won’t understand this because you have no children.

[Anonymous]

Who cares. Nbd

If it’s a little kid they go to bed at 7:30pm so head out then.

If it’s a big kid they have sports and homework so do whatever.

[Anonymous]

Nope. If this man was worth it, the wife would not have broken the marriage, especially if children were involved.

Some woman, who had kids with this man, decided that she is better off being divorced from him. MAJOR RED FLAG.

But, red flag only if you want a relationship. Green flag if you only want to use his Arnold Palmer appendage and he is medically clean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If this man was worth it, the wife would not have broken the marriage, especially if children were involved.

Some woman, who had kids with this man, decided that she is better off being divorced from him. MAJOR RED FLAG.

But, red flag only if you want a relationship. Green flag if you only want to use his Arnold Palmer appendage and he is medically clean.

Yes especially if the kids are young like under 3. It takes a lot for a woman to break up her family at that age of the children

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Red flag - he shouldn’t be giving up on his kids. Woah

Green flag. You can put your kids to bed, the babysitter arrives and you leave. Five or six hours later you return. Kids are none the wiser.

[Anonymous]

Depends on what proportion of his time with an awake child he is missing out on. If he is a widower or has near-100% custody I don't see anything bad about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If this man was worth it, the wife would not have broken the marriage, especially if children were involved.

Some woman, who had kids with this man, decided that she is better off being divorced from him. MAJOR RED FLAG.

But, red flag only if you want a relationship. Green flag if you only want to use his Arnold Palmer appendage and he is medically clean.

It's not always so simple. Sometimes its the ex-wife that's the issue.

In any event, you can tell a lot about a single parent with how they are with their kids. If that's not their priority, that's the red flag.

[Anonymous]

So single mothers can't date either?