No RSVP = No Goodie Bag

[Anonymous]

I am 32 and grew up in the suburbs and we never had goody bags. It just wasn't done. They are not important enough to worry about either way.

[Anonymous]

Aaahh, another goody bag thread. How refreshing!

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP! You need a hobby or something. That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Punish the children because the parents have no manners? Niiiiice. How will your children ever learn manners when you are so clearly unable to model good manners? What happened to being a gracious host?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kids were so excited that there was something for them, too, even if it didn't have their name on it.

Excited? Ha! They freaking EXPECT them these days! A bunch of cheap plastic toys imported from china that break and make them cry, and candy they don't need and may even cause fights w/parents and/or siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just open my eyes wide with a surprised face and say very loud "wow I'm so glad you decided to come! we didn't hear from you so I was wondering if we should
count you for the goodie bags.. you know the kids love it [wink]"

Why is it so necessary to be all passive aggressive about the situation? What's wrong with saying "OK, but next time please RSVP. I might be short on food". If someone is rude enough to not RSVP AND show, they should be able to hear that simple truth told directly to them.

I agree with PP - enough of the passive aggressive bullshit- call a spade a spade or don't say it!

[Anonymous]

What about putting NICE things in goody bags. There's no law that says they have to be filled with cheap plastic toys and hard candy. I gave out caramel apples in a bag with a helium filled balloon tied to it for DDs October birthday.

[Anonymous]

What happened to "Today is Sally's birthday. She receives b'day presents and games will played and then cake and ice cream will be served." This is her day and only the birthday girl receives presents. There will be nogoodie bags."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about putting NICE things in goody bags. There's no law that says they have to be filled with cheap plastic toys and hard candy. I gave out caramel apples in a bag with a helium filled balloon tied to it for DDs October birthday.

oh - I love this idea! I bet the kids really liked it.

[Anonymous]

So, are we talking siblings showed up? Then, I'm kind of on board with the no goodie bag. You could always phrase it like you only have one goodie bag for each family.

We planned extra in case of siblings, we we had a small party and only one invitee had a sibling. So it wasn't that inconvenient (irony is that the boy who had the siblign didn't show up either)

[Anonymous]

God. I. Hate. These. Bitches.

[Anonymous]

We have always made extra bags. I see no value in making a kid feel bad because of no RSVP. There have been times where a parent thinks they RSVP by email and I did not get it. Mistakes happen. Hope you never make a mistake.

BTW- I also pay for movies for kids invited at the last minute or when a group of boys decides they want to go to lunch. Better to make all feel included and welcome then leave people out. I like to encourage social gatherings that are safe and supervised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have always made extra bags. I see no value in making a kid feel bad because of no RSVP. There have been times where a parent thinks they RSVP by email and I did not get it. Mistakes happen. Hope you never make a mistake.

BTW- I also pay for movies for kids invited at the last minute or when a group of boys decides they want to go to lunch. Better to make all feel included and welcome then leave people out. I like to encourage social gatherings that are safe and supervised.

Will you be my Mommy?

[Anonymous]

I usually take extra bags for a party, however, if there were more kids there bc their parents did not RSVP, I would tell them that I will put a goody bag in their cubby on Monday (which I would really do).

[Anonymous]

I say give the non-responders a stapler or other random stuff you found around the house. This will let the mother know how rude she was not to rsvp because they got a stapler instead of a plastic toy...oh wait...maybe the mom will be happier and then she'll continue her rude ways, hmmmm

[Anonymous]

Email and tell the parent(s) that you'd like to know if the kids are coming or not. If they still don't RSVP then no goody bag.