Girlfriend disappearing on Fridays
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Anonymous
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To ghost completely for a full day is not a good sign, no matter what she is doing. Whether she truly is completely focusing on work (on Fridays?), seeing someone else, just desperately wanting a night to herself, or whatever -- she is pulling away from you.
It seems bizarre to me that you are in a relationship with someone who disappears on the same day every week with no texts or anything, and you haven't brought it up. Not sure why you don't know how to do so? "Hey, you have been disappearing on Fridays, and I feel uncomfortable not understanding why. Can we talk about it?" |
Anonymous
| to be honest I would just go ahead and end it- this is not normal and to just completely ignore all texts and calls for a whole day and then act normal the next day is like sociopath behavior. |
Anonymous
Right? If I were to have a work-focused evening it would be on Monday, rested after the weekend and unburdened by a week’s worth of stress, surely not on a Friday. Is she tracking for a C-suite position or something? |
Anonymous
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Can’t you just ask her? Like if you hang out on Saturday, ask how her Friday was, what was she up to? Not in an accusatory way, angry she didn’t call, but don’t you usually talk about day to day stuff? By a few months into dating, my now DH and I would definitely have some idea what the other was up to when we weren’t together, even if it’s boring stuff like a dentist appointment or client dinner or whatever, it would come up in conversation.
Can you try to make plans for a Friday? |
Anonymous
First paragraph is true. But the second is off base. Forget spying on her. You don’t need proof that will hold up in court. Your gut is telling you she’s cheating, and that’s all you need. Pull the plug. Ghost and block. |
Anonymous
PP of the post you quoted and you’re right. My friend had a long lease she was hoping to get out of with this man, whether that’s stupid or not is subjective, so definitely more at stake. |
Anonymous
| When are you seeing her on Saturdays? First thing or later in the day? |
Anonymous
What are you 12? Just have a conversation! |
Anonymous
| I see her on Saturday afternoon |
Anonymous
She is going out fridays and sidelining you. Almost certainly cheating. Even if she is not cheating, which is unlikely, this is not wife behavior. DTMFA. |
Anonymous
| Just freaking ask her. It’s a reasonable question. What makes it so hard for you? |
Anonymous
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I had a BF who was really controlling - would call every night checking on me. I am introvert and really needed to spend time on my own . I didn’t see anyone but just hanged out for hours at my gym; went to my son’s school parties with other moms etc.
He was going crazy that I wouldn’t take him with me to parties, but I felt it was just very new relationship (only 3 months). He called drunk one Friday night and broke it off. Just as we were about to go for the first trip together. I said - ok. Next day he called and apologized but that was enough drama for me. Go and follow her, OP maybe she’s just playing piano at home. This is what I would do one year post divorce and I wasn’t taking any calls when I needed time alone. |
Anonymous
| It’s weird that, even if she is busy working, she’s not touched by your texts. I, for one, would love the small break a text from my BF would bring me. Unless you’re super controlling when she’s said she needs space on Fridays. Which is it? |
Anonymous
Yep, and the same thing happened to me. Not even worth investigating deeply. Just pack it up and move on - fast. |
Anonymous
| How long have you been together? Possible she doesn’t think it’s exclusive? |