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How to say no to recommendation letter request?
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Anonymous
Agree. Don't be so freaking selfish. Karma. |
Anonymous
| Your letter is meaningless. Heck, just tell her you'll do it and don't. Admissions could not care less about who you "recommend." |
Anonymous
+1. I was just about to write the same thing. Letters from parents are meaningless. Say you'll do it and then don't. Admissions won't say anything or keep track of it. People think these letters are super important but they're not. Even board member letters don't do much, particularly if it's clear that it's not a meaningful connection. |
Anonymous
But why bother lying? Just say your letter would be meaningless and that admissions could care "boo" about what you think. It's 100% true. And then offer to do something more useful, like answer questions or connect them with a person who might be able to address things you know less about. |
Anonymous
| This is happening??! I cannot imagine being an admissions officer and reading a recommendation from a family who knows your kid. I would just tell them that you don't mind if they tell the school they know you....but that they should focus their recommendations on things like teachers and perhaps coaches. |
Anonymous
| Recommendations are meaningless. I always say yes to a recommendation request but am honest that I am happy to do it but the best letters are from a coach or music teacher etc. What I do see if parents like OP who are gatekeepes. They are hoping by saying no then said family will not apply. Yuck and this happens a lot. |