Adult child stoned …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adult child with family spends much of the day high. Says he can function, although he has had quite a few enormous set backs in life (think, the biggest ones). DS and I are concerned that we enable and now we are concerned that the level of THC ingested has done and will continue to do damage to his health, ability to help support his family and overall quality of life.

Is there anything we can do? We have been smoking weed for forever … so we aren’t examples of abstinence and we feel so full of shame that we have perhaps opened the door to this unhealthy crutch.

They learned it by watching YOU!

LOL. Classic. Still remember this

[Anonymous]

The good news is stopping THC is easier than nicotine or alcohol, but of course he will only change if he wants to. There are probably very minimal if any long term effects of the THC on his body, aside from the effects of inhaling smoke. There is no point in feeling bad about the possibility that your THC usage caused him to use. You’ll never know the true answer and it’ll only cause you to feel bad. The best you can do is support and encourage him.

[Anonymous]

Let him. He won't get help unless he thinks he needs it which might be never. Be prepared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My DH (age 52) has friends who smoked a lot of weed in high school in the 80's. They came from nice upper middle class families and had a lot of potential. Unfortunately, their decision to have fun and smoke weed has had a harmful impact on the trajectory of their lives.

Whatever. I and my friends smoked a lot of weed in high school in the 80s and 90s. We all became successful lawyers, doctors, financiers etc.

[Anonymous]

Boomers screwed us with the “it not addictive” lie and now our kids have to walk past dispensaries on route to school, see friends lighting up before school and ingesting in bathrooms in high schools etc. Anyone who has teenagers understands that this drug is dangerous. It is POTENT and hopefully will be seen the way it ought to be - NOT helpful, NOT safe and it needs to be heavily regulated. It is outrageous…and the boomers with their ridiculous know it all elitism did this to us and our kids.

OP, perhaps you ought to treat the cannabis dependency as what it is and if you care about your child’s health and wellness, call it what it is and quit yourselves.

[Anonymous]

Amen

[Anonymous]

Kick him out immediately. What a loser!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adult child with family spends much of the day high. Says he can function, although he has had quite a few enormous set backs in life (think, the biggest ones). DS and I are concerned that we enable and now we are concerned that the level of THC ingested has done and will continue to do damage to his health, ability to help support his family and overall quality of life.

Is there anything we can do? We have been smoking weed for forever … so we aren’t examples of abstinence and we feel so full of shame that we have perhaps opened the door to this unhealthy crutch.

They learned it by watching YOU!

+1

OP, were you unaware of the research on weed?

[Anonymous]

Research into cigarette smokers in the 1970s led to the Stages of Change/Transtheoretical model. I think it’s an excellent model in describing why some people cling to unhelpful habits.

If your adult child isn’t ready to make a change in his life, there’s not much you can do. You can let him experience natural consequences. When he talks about regrets or failures you can, as kindly as possible, mirror back to him where he failed to meet his responsibilities. If he reaches the pre-contemplation or contemplation stage, you can throw your support behind making positive changes, whether that’s pursuing therapy, getting a new job, cutting back on THC, or quitting cannabis altogether.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adult child with family spends much of the day high. Says he can function, although he has had quite a few enormous set backs in life (think, the biggest ones). DS and I are concerned that we enable and now we are concerned that the level of THC ingested has done and will continue to do damage to his health, ability to help support his family and overall quality of life.

Is there anything we can do? We have been smoking weed for forever … so we aren’t examples of abstinence and we feel so full of shame that we have perhaps opened the door to this unhealthy crutch.

Yeah, I mean, you reap what you sow.

What a loser. Only losers use marijuana.

Losers procreated and produced bigger losers.

Just don't drive while high, OK? Otherwise, I don't give a shit about you being a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boomers screwed us with the “it not addictive” lie and now our kids have to walk past dispensaries on route to school, see friends lighting up before school and ingesting in bathrooms in high schools etc. Anyone who has teenagers understands that this drug is dangerous. It is POTENT and hopefully will be seen the way it ought to be - NOT helpful, NOT safe and it needs to be heavily regulated. It is outrageous…and the boomers with their ridiculous know it all elitism did this to us and our kids.

OP, perhaps you ought to treat the cannabis dependency as what it is and if you care about your child’s health and wellness, call it what it is and quit yourselves.

Boomers? I am a 62 year old boomer and no one I know smokes weed or allowed their kids to. I don't think my generation is the one pushing the legalization agenda. Most of us complain about the smell of pot all over downtown DC, and now in MD too.

[Anonymous]

Older boomers - the hippie gen - thought weed was harmless, which gave way to the downstream legalization. In between the 60s /70s was the horrific “war on drugs,” and the backlash to those misguided and racist policies were to embrace the weed because the boomers declared it “harmless.” Now thank you boomers we have a mess.

[Anonymous]

I can see why you would say that, PP. But my parents are boomers and they didn’t smoke or ingest and no one in their friend group did either. Their kids aren’t weed users, FWIW, perhaps as a result.

OP, sorry you are going through something seemingly serious with your adult child. Hope it has gotten better since the post.

[Anonymous]

Does this loser still live at home? If so, kick him out as soon as possible and cut off any financial support. What a turd.

[Anonymous]

Thought by title this was going to be about an adult woman in a foreign country being stoned to death.