Adult child stoned …

[Anonymous]

Adult child with family spends much of the day high. Says he can function, although he has had quite a few enormous set backs in life (think, the biggest ones). DS and I are concerned that we enable and now we are concerned that the level of THC ingested has done and will continue to do damage to his health, ability to help support his family and overall quality of life.

Is there anything we can do? We have been smoking weed for forever … so we aren’t examples of abstinence and we feel so full of shame that we have perhaps opened the door to this unhealthy crutch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adult child with family spends much of the day high. Says he can function, although he has had quite a few enormous set backs in life (think, the biggest ones). DS and I are concerned that we enable and now we are concerned that the level of THC ingested has done and will continue to do damage to his health, ability to help support his family and overall quality of life.

Is there anything we can do? We have been smoking weed for forever … so we aren’t examples of abstinence and we feel so full of shame that we have perhaps opened the door to this unhealthy crutch.

They learned it by watching YOU!

[Anonymous]

Stop fixing his F ups other than a trip to rehab. That and lead by example.

[Anonymous]

Casual drinkers can have children who are alcoholics, and it isn’t because of the wine at holidays. This is no different. If anything, some would say a less extreme stance on weed should have helped.

You start with addiction treatment for the whole family. It is a disease. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Casual drinkers can have children who are alcoholics, and it isn’t because of the wine at holidays. This is no different. If anything, some would say a less extreme stance on weed should have helped.

You start with addiction treatment for the whole family. It is a disease. Good luck!

Occasional weed smoking is neither an addiction nor a disease.

Also, she is talking about her adult son. Other than expressing concern there is nothing to be done.

[Anonymous]

Kids learn a lot from example, not necessarily all good things. You can set up another example by quitting and rehabbing yourself and hope they notice and follow.

[Anonymous]

People assume that occasional drinking, smoking, weeding, druging, gambling, cheating etc is harmless fun but in reality it's not.

[Anonymous]

That’s really between him and his family (spouse?).

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he might need rehab. He’s an adult—you can’t force him to go. But you can suggest programs, provide resources if feasible, and be a supportive presence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Casual drinkers can have children who are alcoholics, and it isn’t because of the wine at holidays. This is no different. If anything, some would say a less extreme stance on weed should have helped.

You start with addiction treatment for the whole family. It is a disease. Good luck!

Occasional weed smoking is neither an addiction nor a disease.

Also, she is talking about her adult son. Other than expressing concern there is nothing to be done.

Oh I totally agree. She is a casual smoker; her kid is an addict (if her description is accurate). Addiction treatment involves the whole household but OP won’t have to abstain completely or anything- addict have to learn to live in a world with temptation.

[Anonymous]

You all assume he is addicted.
He may have medicinal needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People assume that occasional drinking, smoking, weeding, druging, gambling, cheating etc is harmless fun but in reality it's not.

It's obviously not harmless when you're doing it around somebody who has an addiction! Imagine inviting a recovered alcoholic over to a boozy New Year's party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all assume he is addicted.
He may have medicinal needs.

Yeah, we tried that with opiates and chronic pain. Did not have great results.

[Anonymous]

Very sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all assume he is addicted.
He may have medicinal needs.

Medicinal needs?