Age-appropriate chores for teen girls

[Anonymous]

JFC. Clean the bathroom. But doesn’t matter who uses it. It matters that it’s part of the house that needs to be cleaned. Everyone takes responsibility for being respectful for the house (so not peeing on the toilet and leaving it) and everyone participates in cleaning.

Just because some other family is not to teach their kids responsibility has nothing to do with you. Stop trying to parent by consensus.

[Anonymous]

I agree with others that bathroom responsibility should be shared by those that use it. Other than that small detail, I think your list of chores OP is perfect and will set her up well for the future.

My teens take turns weekly cleaning their shared bathroom (I still have to remind every week) and help out a lot with all other everyday chores (this they pitch in as requested without complaint for the most part).

I have found it helpful to have a Saturday list of to-dos if I feel everyone is not pulling their own weight. Each person (including parents) initials a few items and then takes care of them.

[Anonymous]

Why is the bathroom disgusting?
Have the people that use it clean it.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, but age-appropriate chores for teenagers?

It’s all of the chores. Every chore I do they do as well, including bathrooms.

[Anonymous]

My kids clean their own bathrooms. Ages 9, 13, 16. They also do a lot of other chores which started at 5. To me, your DD sounds lazy.

[Anonymous]

Appropriate chores for girls include cleaning the bathrooms, helping with cooking, any sewing, dusting, scrubbing the floors, babysitting, etc.

[Anonymous]

My teens are responsible for cleaning their bathrooms. It involves a LOT of nagging from me but luckily I have a separate bathroom. They also unload the dishwasher, walk the dog, vacuum the most frequently used part of the house once a week, and help some with their laundry (I do most of the laundry because I really don’t want to have to buy them all new clothes or a new washer if they leave something dumb in their pockets).

[Anonymous]

OP, we don't have enough detail here.

First, why did you specify gender in your post title? Do you think different genders of the same age should be held to different standards? That's a problem if so.

Second, does she have siblings? how old? what are their chores?

Third, who else uses this bathroom? If it's hers alone, of course she should clean it. But if she shares with another family member, they should rotate who cleans. She should not be the only person cleaning a shared bathroom.

Your expectation that she is the only person to clean the shared bathroom is particularly bad if she shares it with brothers.

[Anonymous]

OP's cleaning routine/schedule is intense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently added cleaning the (2) bathrooms to my daughter (13)'s list of chores, but she has proven extremely hostile to the idea, labeling it as 'disgusting' (which it admittedly is) and has been complaining to her friends about it, and claims they don't have to do many chores at all and that I am being unreasonable.

For some basic detail I expect her to: scrub the inside of the toilets with bleach and wipe down the mirrors and sink twice a week, and scrub the floors and the shower over the weekends. The bathroom is admittedly filthy most of the time, which makes cleaning it a fairly unpleasant task and one that I will not be missing, though I suspect this is mostly down to her and I suspect it will become miraculously cleaner once she realizes it is her job to clean it. Her other chores consist of walking and cleaning up after her dog; cleaning her room (though this is more a suggestion as it only affects her if it is filthy); making a meal once a week just so she learns how to; and emptying the bins around the house. I don't give her an allowance but I do pay for most things she wants provided she keeps on top of her chores.

Overall I just want to check that I am being reasonable as her reaction has made me doubt myself slightly.

Reasonable but if want to cave limit it to her bathroom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:have her mow the yard instead. She will soon like the 10 min required to clean an air conditioned bathroom.

+1 My tween boy just spent 2 hours mowing our small lawn (he's not very good at it yet).

[Anonymous]

I think that is reasonable given that she isn't asked to do much else.

I actually wish my mother had expected more of me in the cleaning department. Because 1) I would have learned more about cleaning than I did, and 2) I think it is good to learn that as a family everyone who lives there pitches in to care for the home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the posters above and yes teach the "filthy" boys and men that they are responsible for cleaning up after themselves.

We have a housekeeper and DH has had them literally all his privileged life but I have educated him/ shamed him into cleaning up after himself. How entitled to leave a mess for "someone else" anywhere- in a hotel, etc. That's disgusting and commoner behavior.

WTF lady with your deranged rantings. OP has not mentioned any men/boys she could be a single mom of girls for all you know.
Oh and unless her DD doesn’t use any of the other bathrooms hello her friends using the powder room, she can share in the cleaning of bathrooms in her own home. We are not talking about public toilets!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Idont make my kids clean the bathrooms as I think it’s gross. I don’t want them exposed to harsh chemicals either.

Who does clean them? Someone you pay to be exposed to harsh chenicals?

[Anonymous]

If tween uses the bathroom and makes it dirty, perfectly reasonable. If she uses the second bathroom, also reasonable--she doesn't have that many chores.