Age-appropriate chores for teen girls

[Anonymous]

We rotate cleaning duty for the shared bathroom off of family room, and each cleans their own bathroom. Each gets a turn cleaning the shared one. I see no problem with it.

[Anonymous]

My kid is 12. Cleaning her own room and walking/playing with the dog are not chores in our house, that’s just part of being part of a family.
She does not clean any bathrooms, she wipes her mirror if I ask her to because it gets splatters on it. We have a cleaner every 2 weeks who does the other cleaning.
What she does do: empties dishwasher, loads it as well if asked, brings in the recycling bins and trash cans, brings the mail in, makes dinner once a week. The dinner thing just started at the new school year but is going well.
She will also move laundry along if asked, and puts her own laundry away although I mostly do her laundry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I wouldn't make my DD clean a bathroom used by her dad or brother. Why should she need to wipe their pee of the floor and toilet seat?

I might have her make dinner once a month, not weekly.

I agree with this. She should clean her own bathroom. I specifically do not allow my DD to clean up after the men/boys in the house or she will think she is supposed to clean up after men her whole life.

[Anonymous]

We have two bathrooms in our house, the master that DH and I share, and a hallway bathroom that my teens share. They’ve been switching off cleaning their own bathroom since they were 12. I told them that they aren’t leaving my house without knowing how to clean a bathroom. And yes, their bathroom is disgusting most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 12 year old son does his laundry, cleans his bathroom (I do a deeper clean once a month or so but he uses Clorox wipes daily) vacuums a few times a week, takes out recycling. All of this started at 12 FWIW

Same with my boys starting at age 8ish. One vacuums one does the dusting, they both clean the bathroom (which has been great practice for college suites). They pitch in for dinner clean up too, we kind of all do that together. They are teens, and I'd say, the bedrooms, bathroom, laundry, dishes, and trash are routine to them now. I haven't asked or reminded in years. Their bedrooms can be messy, but they don't leave their stuff around the house at all, even the one with ADHD, for whom the routines have been very helpful.

[Anonymous]

I make my boys (currently 13 and 15, but started around 8 and 10) each clean a bathroom. One is theirs and the other is shared and they alternate. I don’t make them clean mine. How many people live in the house? If you have more than 1 kid it should be shared chore despite of age. Also I would not have a kid wash a bathroom they do not use.

[Anonymous]

She should not be cleaning a space she does not use! How is this even a question. She is not her brother's maid.

[Anonymous]

Agree with the posters above and yes teach the "filthy" boys and men that they are responsible for cleaning up after themselves.

We have a housekeeper and DH has had them literally all his privileged life but I have educated him/ shamed him into cleaning up after himself. How entitled to leave a mess for "someone else" anywhere- in a hotel, etc. That's disgusting and commoner behavior.

[Anonymous]

Idont make my kids clean the bathrooms as I think it’s gross. I don’t want them exposed to harsh chemicals either.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the consensus here. It’s entirely appropriate to have her clean her own bathroom/the bathroom she uses and the other chores you e assigned sound fine. My teen DS also does the dishes each night and vacuums when we’re busy with other things.

It’s completely inappropriate to have her clean siblings’ bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the posters above and yes teach the "filthy" boys and men that they are responsible for cleaning up after themselves.

We have a housekeeper and DH has had them literally all his privileged life but I have educated him/ shamed him into cleaning up after himself. How entitled to leave a mess for "someone else" anywhere- in a hotel, etc. That's disgusting and commoner behavior.

WTF lady with your deranged rantings. OP has not mentioned any men/boys she could be a single mom of girls for all you know.
Oh and unless her DD doesn’t use any of the other bathrooms hello her friends using the powder room, she can share in the cleaning of bathrooms in her own home. We are not talking about public toilets!

[Anonymous]

My 9 and 11 year old share the cleaning of the bathroom they share. I break it into toilet, mirror, inside of sink, countertop, floor. They rotate who chooses what to clean first. They also take out and bring back in the trash cans, take care of their own trash cans in their rooms, clean their rooms and the play room. The 11 year old has a hamster whose daily care is his responsibility.

Twice a week sounds a bit much though for multiple bathrooms. Were you cleaning it twice a week before?

[Anonymous]

If there are people in the house other than the two of you, particularly males, you are being unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn good job mom. Getting a teen to do all of this is good parenting.

I don't think it's unreasonable

She can also do her her laundry.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's appropriate. My daughter's been cleaning her bathroom since she was 10. Also washing her dishes and taking out the garbage. Maybe you should have started training when she was younger. I would say if she complains then she either loses something she likes, or has to do an extra chore.