Anyone else hope their kid stays close to home for college?

[Anonymous]

^ overly dramatic

[Anonymous]

Nope, I love that they’re both 200 miles away and can’t come home on a whim. Loving the empty nest!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mine have gone far and I'm more than okay with it. My goal is for them to realize how cool DC is and come back but make sure it is their choice. If they find someplace cooler and stay - we'll visit a lot! It's actually very gratifying to see the independence.

Both of mine are 2,000 miles away, and I'm totally fine with it. We never mentioned a location preference when they were looking at schools. Honestly, we didn't have one. We wanted them to go wherever they thought the right place for them was.

+1

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're being overly dramatic - that's provincial thinking. And it's a mindset other people avoid. They spread their wings and head out into the big, wide world.

It's always why Americans are increasingly lonely and we've seen a collapse of the family unit. Existing as islands in the big, wide world has had disastrous effects on society.

OP, I agree with you. Will push for my kids to stay on this coast. I moved away from home and it has been hard on my parents. My DH is not from the US and he finds the entire system completely insane.

I agree. And ppl don’t think enough about this, esp as they age. There is an epidemic of loneliness in this country. And it’s in large part bc people move away from family, even if they don’t have to.

I wish we had more family close. But our jobs -taken when we were young- are not transferable to out small midwestern area.

[Anonymous]

We told our DD’s they have to go within a 6 hour drive and preferably less. I need to be able to get to/from school easily in one day by car. They know if they go instate or get merit aid they can have the extra money for grad school or a house.

They are both fine with this and not put out at all. There are tons of great schools near here. But they go to an ordinary public high school without too many super entitled peers.

[Anonymous]

No! If they want to go somewhere close, that's ok, but I'm not actively encouraging it. I love my kids dearly and will miss them, of course ... but we have lived in one place their whole lives, and college is the best opportunity imaginable to try a different climate or culture for a few years, without making an unending commitment. I want them to get out there and experience someplace totally different. If they want to come back closer to us later, great! If not, I can travel to visit them. But their choice on where to live should be their pick out of the whole wide world, not just settling here because it's all they know.

[Anonymous]

3 hr plane flight to the best school.I got into T5 at the time. Mom came up.once or twice for a weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're being overly dramatic - that's provincial thinking. And it's a mindset other people avoid. They spread their wings and head out into the big, wide world.

It's always why Americans are increasingly lonely and we've seen a collapse of the family unit. Existing as islands in the big, wide world has had disastrous effects on society.

OP, I agree with you. Will push for my kids to stay on this coast. I moved away from home and it has been hard on my parents. My DH is not from the US and he finds the entire system completely insane.

I agree. And ppl don’t think enough about this, esp as they age. There is an epidemic of loneliness in this country. And it’s in large part bc people move away from family, even if they don’t have to.

I wish we had more family close. But our jobs -taken when we were young- are not transferable to out small midwestern area.

I moved far away from home for school and it was the best thing I ever did. My family is extremely toxic and I couldn't get away fast enough. Never had the desire to live close to any of them.

[Anonymous]

My kid’s T10 is a 7-hour drive- but only a cheap 50 minute flight and very convenient to two small/easy airports on each end. 5 min Uber to campus and 5 min Uber home.

It’s very easy to fly up there last minute…plane literally goes up for takeoff and it feels like you are immediately coming back down for landing. It takes longer to drive 8 miles in DC rush hour than fly to the school. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine have gone far and I'm more than okay with it. My goal is for them to realize how cool DC is and come back but make sure it is their choice. If they find someplace cooler and stay - we'll visit a lot! It's actually very gratifying to see the independence.

Both of mine are 2,000 miles away, and I'm totally fine with it. We never mentioned a location preference when they were looking at schools. Honestly, we didn't have one. We wanted them to go wherever they thought the right place for them was.

+1


Same here.

That is fine for wealthy snoots.

[Anonymous]

LOL at people thinking hours away is close. My kid drives 15 minutes to get to UMBC, a highly rated STEM school. We pay in-state tuition and zero for boarding. (We did buy a meal plan since he spends a lot of time on campus.)

[Anonymous]

Going to school farther than an easy drive doesn’t mean you hate your family.

I am an only child who is close to my parents. I don’t have to live down the street to prove it. They are coming next week so my husband and I can move our big one to get school while the little one has school here in VA.

We did try to move closer to my ILs at one point and my family was coming with us. That didn’t work out in the end, but we have good communication with his family, too.

The internet has made the world smaller. I expect we will be doing video calls and getting a bunch of texts while our kiddo is at school. She should be fine. And if she isn’t happy, she comes home.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine have gone far and I'm more than okay with it. My goal is for them to realize how cool DC is and come back but make sure it is their choice. If they find someplace cooler and stay - we'll visit a lot! It's actually very gratifying to see the independence.

Both of mine are 2,000 miles away, and I'm totally fine with it. We never mentioned a location preference when they were looking at schools. Honestly, we didn't have one. We wanted them to go wherever they thought the right place for them was.

+1


Same here.

That is fine for wealthy snoots.

Not wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, the school farthest away ended up being the cheapest due to financial aid package.

[Anonymous]

i never thought that way, but my kid just left for college and he happened to choose a school close to home (4hrs). i am beyond grateful for that now!!!