Is there a way for me to fix this?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I had a typo in my original post. We’ve been dating for just 2 weeks, but 5 dates. We give each other a good amount of time, as there is mutual attraction. It just seems so soon for asking for exclusivity. Everything is moving so fast. But I’m just gonna ask because I don’t want to have sex without it, and I’m attracted to him so ideally I just want it to work out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had a typo in my original post. We’ve been dating for just 2 weeks, but 5 dates. We give each other a good amount of time, as there is mutual attraction. It just seems so soon for asking for exclusivity. Everything is moving so fast. But I’m just gonna ask because I don’t want to have sex without it, and I’m attracted to him so ideally I just want it to work out.

Why don’t you ask if he’s having sex with anyone else or seeking it from others ? Tell him you are mono and if he does say he’s having sex with others decide accordingly
Seems like you should be at the level of openness when you can discuss these things

Also, having sex with one person at a time doesn’t mean you are in a committed relationship. You are just taking time pff from others to get to know each other.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you really like him but when it comes to sex you believe in exclusivity. If he really likes you he will agree to it. If he doesn’t agree, move on. This type of conversation happens every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about feelings? Do you have an emotional connection and think he does too? That plus sex can lead to a title and/or commitment. Seems like you are asking a big much of yourself and of him.

We have an emotional connection. We’ve both been vocal that we like one another. I don’t think it’s there yet for a title. So we are in limbo land which I can’t stand. I just think we moved too fast. I should’ve had self control and explained how I like things to evolve.

So what would you have done if you waited for the title, had sec and didn’t like it?

Just talk about it with the person. Ask him where he stands. At least make sure you’re exclusive (it seems that’s what you want.)

[Anonymous]

You already had sex. It's out there. So now you see where it goes. If it was good, he might not want to date anyone else. Ask him how he wants to proceed. But just ending it without talking about it would be really dumb.

[Anonymous]

Any updates, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you usually self sabotage? You find someone you could with and want to end it just because you didn’t follow “protocol”?

OP here. Honestly, I think of casual dating as sabotaging myself, so I try to avoid that.

We are just now in this weird space where we are sharing a lot of intimacy but not having any kind of title/commitment. I don’t do well in situations like that.

So why don't you talk to them and let them know what you are feeling?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you usually self sabotage? You find someone you could with and want to end it just because you didn’t follow “protocol”?

OP here. Honestly, I think of casual dating as sabotaging myself, so I try to avoid that.

We are just now in this weird space where we are sharing a lot of intimacy but not having any kind of title/commitment. I don’t do well in situations like that.

And what exactly is stopping you from talking to him about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go out with other men, OP. Don't tell him where you are and what you do. Schedule travels "with mom" or "friends". He will quickly ask for exclusivity men prefer to cut off other men when they sense them

Why play stupid games? Use your words OP and tell him what you want