AP's of married men, what happens when the married husbands wife finds out and wants to work things out with their wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He ghosted the AP after the wife found out. AP got married five years later to an older widower. She is 43 and has not been able to get pregnant yet.

I remember you writing about this; this is your husband’s AP and you stalk her social media feeling smug about her marrying this older man and not having children. I think this says a whole lot about you.

Where’s the original thread?

There are always many discussions of this topic. But it does seem there’s a betrayed wife losing what remains of her mind on this board posting and posting all the time.

Is there only 1 poster? I hope so, this board has been scary lately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He ghosted the AP after the wife found out. AP got married five years later to an older widower. She is 43 and has not been able to get pregnant yet.

I remember you writing about this; this is your husband’s AP and you stalk her social media feeling smug about her marrying this older man and not having children. I think this says a whole lot about you.

Where’s the original thread?

There are always many discussions of this topic. But it does seem there’s a betrayed wife losing what remains of her mind on this board posting and posting all the time.

Is there only 1 poster? I hope so, this board has been scary lately.

Yeah, where is the thread you/they are talking about?

[Anonymous]

In 95% of the cases, the man drops AP like a hot potato, immediate no contact and the other woman is left shocked and traumatizes that his promises of running away together, building a life, having kids was just straight up BS to get laid.

Source: my guilty pleasure of trash entertainment is diligently following theotherwoman subreddit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In 95% of the cases, the man drops AP like a hot potato, immediate no contact and the other woman is left shocked and traumatizes that his promises of running away together, building a life, having kids was just straight up BS to get laid.

Source: my guilty pleasure of trash entertainment is diligently following theotherwoman subreddit.

Oh yes. They all believe anything. The willingness to believe. They also have bad wishes for the wife and her family. She doesnt love AP like they do. All kinds of psycho, with zero care or empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He ghosted the AP after the wife found out. AP got married five years later to an older widower. She is 43 and has not been able to get pregnant yet.

I remember you writing about this; this is your husband’s AP and you stalk her social media feeling smug about her marrying this older man and not having children. I think this says a whole lot about you.

What does it say about her? Is she supposed to wish the AP well? Just out of curiosity: Have you cheated? If so, it says everything about you thinking some sort of piety is required of someone who was betrayed, towards a person involved in hurting them.

She doesn't have to give a damn about the AP.

But clearly she does since she's stalking her online

[Anonymous]

PP here- this is just from the first page of that subreddit so all posted within the last day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He ghosted the AP after the wife found out. AP got married five years later to an older widower. She is 43 and has not been able to get pregnant yet.

I remember you writing about this; this is your husband’s AP and you stalk her social media feeling smug about her marrying this older man and not having children. I think this says a whole lot about you.

What does it say about her? Is she supposed to wish the AP well? Just out of curiosity: Have you cheated? If so, it says everything about you thinking some sort of piety is required of someone who was betrayed, towards a person involved in hurting them.

She doesn't have to give a damn about the AP.

But clearly she does since she's stalking her online

In that particular case, the AP moved on, married another man, and gets to live rent free in the pp’s head forever while she stalks her on Instagram and gloats about AP’s sad childless cat lady life on DCUM.

Not a happy ending I think.

[Anonymous]

This thread is weirdly affirming - I've never cheated or been cheated on but these boards can make it seem like everyone does and it's NBD and good things happen to bad people. But it seems like it blows up your life, as it should.

[Anonymous]

A few months after we met, AP told his wife he wasn’t happy and wanted out of the marriage. They started working towards divorce. A month later she found out about me. Two months after that the divorce was finalized (no kids). He moved to my city and we married a year later. We have a happy life. It is my understanding DH’s ex is also remarried and happy.

I make a good salary and DH is making more now than he ever has - mostly due to moving to my city with better job opportunities.

[Anonymous]

From people in my job and two friends of mine who have been through this, in every case except three the couples broke up and the husband ended up with the AP. All of those marriages are actually still going strong as far as I know.

Of the three remaining cases, in one the marriage survived. In another, the man dumped the AP, stayed with his wife but went on to another AP in a few years. In the third, he dumped them both immediately and ended up with another woman within a year or two.

[Anonymous]

In almost all of the married woman ones cheating and husband finds out—husband divorces her whether discovered on his own or told by the AP’s wife. Not a single one of those did the APs stay in contact after. The male APs completely ghosted and disappeared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here- this is just from the first page of that subreddit so all posted within the last day

Oh Christ. So typical. The drama of the fights and make up. Bipolar and histrionics. These people are all the same, they equate snd mistake strife and drama for love. They must have all come from dysfunctional families.