AP's of married men, what happens when the married husbands wife finds out and wants to work things out with their wife?
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Anonymous
| Did this ever happen to you? Did the husband continue your affair or was it easy for you to let go after the wife found out? Were there any consequences? |
Anonymous
| Not sure about this, but my brother’s AP of 3 years actually told his wife, hoping that the wife would leave him. They ended up separating for a few months, going to marriage counseling, and then tried to work it out for a few years. They did eventually get divorced, because (of course) he cheated again. But he never went back to the original AP. And her husband left her at the start of this as well, which I don’t think she lived because she was in live with my good-for-nothing brother. |
Anonymous
| Dropped me and went no contact. |
Anonymous
| Dumped me and went to therapy. Then apparently confessed…and then my spouse was notified. My spouse divorced me. |
Anonymous
| We ended the relationship for a few months because I didn’t want the drama in my life. We eventually ended back together around 6 months later and are still together. |
Anonymous
| He didn't see me for 3 months after she found out and then we started up again. He eventually left her for me. |
Anonymous
| No contact. Never saw him again. |
Anonymous
| Wife found out and told my husband and my life completely imploded. Consequences? Divorced now. Financially very strained. Lost the house. Had to find a job. |
Anonymous
Birth control oopsie |
Anonymous
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Not me but my friends:
Friend 1: Dumped her, wife told H, kicked out of house, moved to apartment, lost custody of kids (got visitation because kids didn't want to go to the apartment, ages 1 middle school, 1 HS, 1 college), met a new guy, got a degree in social work, saw kids once a week until they went to college, moved to FLA, see kids occasionally Friend 2: Got fired (he was her boss), no contact for 2 years, started up again lasted 2 years, became a sex for money situation, felt dirty accepting money, lost the sparkle, went to intense therapy, H is a saint found out but kept her, doing well as a lawyer for another firm. Friend 3: He begged his wife to stay with him, she said no, she got the "prize", they married 1 year after D-day, he had cancer but didn't tell her until after they were married, was okay for 1 year, was very sick for 7 years, died this year, left the house and all his money (~10M) to his only son who is in his 20's, she had to sell the house because she could not afford it and 1/2 was the son's, moved to a townhouse in Frederick. Her 2 adult sons don't speak to her. Friend 4: got married to AP, has 2 wonderful kids and 1 step child from his 1st marriage who hates her, in and out of rehab. |
Anonymous
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In one case I know, the AP basically outed the husband TO his wife hoping they would end up together. What actually happened is that the couple divorced, he ditched the AP, and he ended up with someone else entirely - someone from his past.
In another case the married people tried to work it out but hearts were not in it and he ended up with AP still to this day. |
Anonymous
You need classier friends. |
Anonymous
| He ghosted the AP after the wife found out. AP got married five years later to an older widower. She is 43 and has not been able to get pregnant yet. |
Anonymous
Wow! So did he stay with her then? |
Anonymous
This sounds fabricated about Friend 3 unless she signed an usual prenup. Spouses are entitled to a 30-50% elective share that they can pursue in court if they are not adequately provided for otherwise. |