Bumble is the stupidest crap of all time

[Anonymous]

Those aren’t woman who want to date any one they are looking for OF $$$$ or they are a 14 year old boy in Nigeria who is going get you to give them a D pic and blackmail you with it.

[Anonymous]

OP is the horrible date we’ve all been on at least once. He tries to act nice, but he’s already sooooo angry at you. And when you try to slowly back away, he turns on a dime and if you’re lucky, he’s just yelling or stewing while you walk away. Or you get a lot of angry texts about how he just wants to understand what happened because you laughed at his jokes but then didn’t want another date and he did his part so why are you defective.

[Anonymous]

Originally women got sick of getting spammed by online losers. Some men send thousands of messages without getting a date. So Tinder implemented the mutual match system, where the woman must swipe right.

This is where the apps ran into human nature. Women entertain themselves by looking at many profiles, and swiping right on 14%. Then these women complain about getting too many messages!

Men are 75% of Tinder users, so the sites cater to women. Women want messages from pre-approved or curated men. So Bumble listed school and occupation. Other sites list height, but never weight. Bumble also made women send the first message within 24 hours of a match. IME this message was a lame "Hi", or sometimes a self-congratulatory "What are you up to? Gosh, I worked hard to compose this message."

Some women are on apps for attention, or to boost their Instagrams. I remember scammers on Tinder advertising "only 100 roses per hour." But they were not prostitutes; they directed you to paid messaging sites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my H on Bumble. I had zero problem with messaging first. The issue was that most men don’t really have anything to message about - profiles are generic, sparse, negative, etc. I would only message men who had something worth talking about.

There is a title for this type of woman - "Mrs." Seriously, there are a lot of sensible women lurking on DCUM who don't make a fuss. This poster was smart and reflective to make an authentic connection. Spinsters make many hostile posts.

Give that men outnumber women on apps, the generic profiles create a bigger burden on men to find something worth messaging about. Men swipe right on around one third of the profiles, because women reject over 90%. Most women's profiles are generic, which makes it impossible to find enough women's profiles with any detail.

EHarmony tried limiting matches to one per day, but didn't have critical mass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So Bumble is supposed to be a platform to 'empower' women in the dating world. But the geniuses who invented this moronic platform overlooked the simple fact that the vast majority of women hate to be the ones who send messages first to a potential match. So they recently have been trying to come up with ways to avoid women actually having to message first. Most of the time it is now a woman who matches with you and she has her instagram handle in her bio and say something to the effect of..."i don't message first if you want to reach me try instagram".

This obviously defeats the entire purpose of the whole platform! Why should any man sign up and pay for this absurdity of all it amounts to is message womenon insta? Utterly incompetent company managment and the stupidest platform ever invented. If you're going to give women all of the power for selection and communication, then they better communicate and kick it off, otherwise why would any man waste money on this platform?

I wrote about Bumble and their failed premise a few months ago. Women complain about dating sites and the poor quality of responses they get from crude men, but women are also very lazy on dating sites. Because they can be. I don't blame them. The experience for women is 180º the experience for men on any dating site. They have their pick of 100s of men hitting them up in their first week or so on the site.

Now comes Bumble and their bright idea that women should make the first move, send the first message and it has failed because, they really are spoiled and lazy when it comes to online dating or dating in general. They don't want to make the first move and they don't want to search profiles for men they may match with or write even a few sentences to a man. Why bother when they don't even have the time to sort through all the messages in their inbox?

The most I usually got in a message from a women on Bumble was, Hi. That's it. They know that's enough to get a response if the guy likes her profile. So Bumble had to come up with ways to get around this failed business idea by inventing clever ways for a man to actually make the first contact by complimenting a photo. It's a shame because their app is ahead of the really bad apps out there like, Tinder, or POF which seems like it was developed in the late 90s and hasn't evolved since that time. They also do a better job than others at keeping out scammers. As far as a women posting to contact her on Instagram, that's an obvious scam and you need to block all those accounts. If you can't spot scammers on dating sites, you really don't belong there.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, the main theme I am inferring from the complaints about Bumble from the men's side is that they feel entitled to a woman's attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So Bumble is supposed to be a platform to 'empower' women in the dating world. But the geniuses who invented this moronic platform overlooked the simple fact that the vast majority of women hate to be the ones who send messages first to a potential match. So they recently have been trying to come up with ways to avoid women actually having to message first. Most of the time it is now a woman who matches with you and she has her instagram handle in her bio and say something to the effect of..."i don't message first if you want to reach me try instagram".

This obviously defeats the entire purpose of the whole platform! Why should any man sign up and pay for this absurdity of all it amounts to is message womenon insta? Utterly incompetent company managment and the stupidest platform ever invented. If you're going to give women all of the power for selection and communication, then they better communicate and kick it off, otherwise why would any man waste money on this platform?

I wrote about Bumble and their failed premise a few months ago. Women complain about dating sites and the poor quality of responses they get from crude men, but women are also very lazy on dating sites. Because they can be. I don't blame them. The experience for women is 180º the experience for men on any dating site. They have their pick of 100s of men hitting them up in their first week or so on the site.

Now comes Bumble and their bright idea that women should make the first move, send the first message and it has failed because, they really are spoiled and lazy when it comes to online dating or dating in general. They don't want to make the first move and they don't want to search profiles for men they may match with or write even a few sentences to a man. Why bother when they don't even have the time to sort through all the messages in their inbox?

The most I usually got in a message from a women on Bumble was, Hi. That's it. They know that's enough to get a response if the guy likes her profile. So Bumble had to come up with ways to get around this failed business idea by inventing clever ways for a man to actually make the first contact by complimenting a photo. It's a shame because their app is ahead of the really bad apps out there like, Tinder, or POF which seems like it was developed in the late 90s and hasn't evolved since that time. They also do a better job than others at keeping out scammers. As far as a women posting to contact her on Instagram, that's an obvious scam and you need to block all those accounts. If you can't spot scammers on dating sites, you really don't belong there.

From the article:
"But the unintended result of that was that women started to feel burdened by having to think of what to say, having to always keep the conversation going," Hoffman said.

Awww, it's such a burden to figure out how to write two sentences and actually converse. This sounds like saying, I'm a women so math is hard to me. This is the problem that Bumble is struggling to overcome. As much as women complain, and rightly so about the messages they receive on dating sites, when you put the power in their hands to make the first move, most of them find it too burdensome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So Bumble is supposed to be a platform to 'empower' women in the dating world. But the geniuses who invented this moronic platform overlooked the simple fact that the vast majority of women hate to be the ones who send messages first to a potential match. So they recently have been trying to come up with ways to avoid women actually having to message first. Most of the time it is now a woman who matches with you and she has her instagram handle in her bio and say something to the effect of..."i don't message first if you want to reach me try instagram".

This obviously defeats the entire purpose of the whole platform! Why should any man sign up and pay for this absurdity of all it amounts to is message womenon insta? Utterly incompetent company managment and the stupidest platform ever invented. If you're going to give women all of the power for selection and communication, then they better communicate and kick it off, otherwise why would any man waste money on this platform?

Dating sites in the last decade or so have been INTENTIONALLY changed to keep people single and avoiding any possible matches on them.

Part of the "depopulation agenda" that is pushed.

[Anonymous]

Why are you so angry? If you think it's dumb or sucks or doesn't work, stop subscribing / paying and move to other sites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, the main theme I am inferring from the complaints about Bumble from the men's side is that they feel entitled to a woman's attention.

Dumb women invariably describe men having preferences as "entitlement".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, the main theme I am inferring from the complaints about Bumble from the men's side is that they feel entitled to a woman's attention.

Dumb women invariably describe men having preferences as "entitlement".

The complaints I see here are from a man or men annoyed that they are not hearing from women, without taking into account the fact that the women just might not be interested. Or the men think the app is to blame because surely the women would be responding and messaging them if not for the way the app is structured. That is entitlement. It has nothing to do with men's preferences. That doesn't even make sense in the context of this thread.

[Anonymous]

I watched a video by the speech prof about this and I will try to summarize.

Men think that swiping on every woman will lead to more matches, but it only overwhelms the women and a lot of times the man isn't even into the women that end up matching.

Imaging you are unemployed and want to find a job. You apply for every job on the internet without even looking at the job description. Plumber, CEO, home inspector, taxi driver. You send out 1000 applications, and are mad that you aren't getting "enough" or "proper" responses. Meanwhile, there might be jobs you actually were interested in and qualified for, but they don't even see your application because they've been spammed by the other 1,000s of men blindly applying to every job.

Men think that by swiping on everyone they will have more success - but it really doesnt work that way. Men are ruining dating apps for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I watched a video by the speech prof about this and I will try to summarize.

Men think that swiping on every woman will lead to more matches, but it only overwhelms the women and a lot of times the man isn't even into the women that end up matching.

Imaging you are unemployed and want to find a job. You apply for every job on the internet without even looking at the job description. Plumber, CEO, home inspector, taxi driver. You send out 1000 applications, and are mad that you aren't getting "enough" or "proper" responses. Meanwhile, there might be jobs you actually were interested in and qualified for, but they don't even see your application because they've been spammed by the other 1,000s of men blindly applying to every job.

Men think that by swiping on everyone they will have more success - but it really doesnt work that way. Men are ruining dating apps for themselves.

Ha! True.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you so angry? If you think it's dumb or sucks or doesn't work, stop subscribing / paying and move to other sites.

DP but all the sites are controlled by the same group of people.

Similar to the mainstream "news" corporations are all controlled by the same small group of people, which is why they all say and spout the same propaganda.