Bragging about tall kids

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not bragging about his feet so much as looking for sympathy. Size 14 shoes are hard to find in stores and expensive AF.

And as a PP said, he’s just really freaking tall. It’s an objective fact. And your son may be kinder or smarter than him, but he’s definitely not going to be taller than him.

You’re the one making a big deal out of it.

How old is your kid? And how tall? Kids who are 5’5” at 15 and delayed can end up tall. Especially if they have tall parents as OP indicated. My 6’4” brother is a case in point.

Just turned 14 and he’s 6’4” (and also has tall parents). I don’t dispute other kids his age can still grow and also get tall, but the vast majority of the older, shorter kids aren’t catching up and they’re almost certainly not surpassing his height.

And that’s fine, but “my kid will be taller than your kid someday” is a weirdly competitive statement by OP and probably not something she’ll want to hang her hat on.

Well he may well be stopping growing now or soon. A kid with a growth delay May continue to grow until 20. Kids who start puberty later tend to be taller on average than kids who have early puberty.

Okay? I thought the point was 'stop making a big deal about height,' not 'don't count my kid out of the tall person contest!!'

Er, I was responding to your certainty that your kid was going to win a contest against a kid you don’t know. Like I said my brother (and several cousins too) would disprove that.

My kid is a 17 year old girl who is done growing and is a completely average height. I just think you're being weirdly competitive about this while shaming other people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Isn't "look how big you're getting!" like a pretty common thing to say to babies/children? Chill tf out, you have a lot of years left and they're going to be rough if you get heated over stupid stuff.

OP here. What makes you think I’m heated?

Your post reads like a parent overly sensitive to your kids height. OP’s dig to all other parents of mine will ultimately be taller than yours drives it home that OP DOES think being tall matters.

[Anonymous]

Btdt. my boys were late bloomers. had no idea how much puberty, growing late impacted boys until I had them. Boys who grow early are at such an advantage for sports etc. And yes those who hit puberty early can end up on the short side by the end of high school. I was sensitive to those "brags" as well and it got under my skin. ok to vent here!

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Anonymous wrote:Btdt. my boys were late bloomers. had no idea how much puberty, growing late impacted boys until I had them. Boys who grow early are at such an advantage for sports etc. And yes those who hit puberty early can end up on the short side by the end of high school. I was sensitive to those "brags" as well and it got under my skin. ok to vent here!

+1

Me too. I grew up with only sisters and hadn’t ever thought about this- until I had a very delayed puberty son. It really stinks for them, especially if they want to play sports. My oldest DS (with very delayed puberty) had a very very different experience than my DS2 (who is going through puberty on an average timetable). High school was rough for my late bloomer. And yes- he ended up taller than nearly all of the “tall kids” in the end. I totally get the sensitivity.

That said, people talk about their kids’ milestones and it isn’t directed at you or even “bragging” necessarily. They don’t have any more control over their kid’s size/puberty than you do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Isn't "look how big you're getting!" like a pretty common thing to say to babies/children? Chill tf out, you have a lot of years left and they're going to be rough if you get heated over stupid stuff.

OP here. What makes you think I’m heated?

You're getting triggered by benign stuff. Heated. Chill out.

[Anonymous]

In support of OP, there is a hierarchy among teen boys based on height and size — particularly if they play sports.

My DS is 14 and 5’10 1/2. He will be 6’3 to 6’5 by the time he’s done growing, based on father and grandfather’s heights and growth patterns.

He has same-aged friends who are 5’2” and 5’4” and they are hazed and bullied by the bigger, taller kids. Coaches rule them out, especially in basketball and football.

I also do see dad in particular (I’m a mom) bragging on how big their kid is. It’s a tough time for a 5’4” 15 yr old.

Encourage your boys to be kind.

[Anonymous]

Do they tend to mention their heights or just that they grew X number of inches? A coworker just told me her 15 year old son grew 14 inches in a year and I was envisioning a super tall kid, but he grew to 5'8". So a lot of growing but not tall.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not bragging about his feet so much as looking for sympathy. Size 14 shoes are hard to find in stores and expensive AF.

And as a PP said, he’s just really freaking tall. It’s an objective fact. And your son may be kinder or smarter than him, but he’s definitely not going to be taller than him.

You’re the one making a big deal out of it.

How old is your kid? And how tall? Kids who are 5’5” at 15 and delayed can end up tall. Especially if they have tall parents as OP indicated. My 6’4” brother is a case in point.

Just turned 14 and he’s 6’4” (and also has tall parents). I don’t dispute other kids his age can still grow and also get tall, but the vast majority of the older, shorter kids aren’t catching up and they’re almost certainly not surpassing his height.

And that’s fine, but “my kid will be taller than your kid someday” is a weirdly competitive statement by OP and probably not something she’ll want to hang her hat on.

Well he may well be stopping growing now or soon. A kid with a growth delay May continue to grow until 20. Kids who start puberty later tend to be taller on average than kids who have early puberty.

Also a valid point. Keep in mind, however, that unless you’re seeing man-sized muscle mass and/or a full beard or something, you have very little information about when some random tall kid started puberty. Height itself is not indicative of early puberty. My tall kid has literally always been tall.

Some people are just tall. Just like some people are just smart, or beautiful, or artistic, etc.

Being smart, beautiful, artistic are all positive traits. Being tall is not in the same category.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In support of OP, there is a hierarchy among teen boys based on height and size — particularly if they play sports.

My DS is 14 and 5’10 1/2. He will be 6’3 to 6’5 by the time he’s done growing, based on father and grandfather’s heights and growth patterns.

He has same-aged friends who are 5’2” and 5’4” and they are hazed and bullied by the bigger, taller kids. Coaches rule them out, especially in basketball and football.

I also do see dad in particular (I’m a mom) bragging on how big their kid is. It’s a tough time for a 5’4” 15 yr old.

Encourage your boys to be kind.

Someone mentioned tall boys being a-holes. Unfortunately that is true more often than it should be. If we could all do a better job of encouraging our kids to be kind we’d be in a better place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In support of OP, there is a hierarchy among teen boys based on height and size — particularly if they play sports.

My DS is 14 and 5’10 1/2. He will be 6’3 to 6’5 by the time he’s done growing, based on father and grandfather’s heights and growth patterns.

He has same-aged friends who are 5’2” and 5’4” and they are hazed and bullied by the bigger, taller kids. Coaches rule them out, especially in basketball and football.

I also do see dad in particular (I’m a mom) bragging on how big their kid is. It’s a tough time for a 5’4” 15 yr old.

Encourage your boys to be kind.

+1 totally agree

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not bragging about his feet so much as looking for sympathy. Size 14 shoes are hard to find in stores and expensive AF.

And as a PP said, he’s just really freaking tall. It’s an objective fact. And your son may be kinder or smarter than him, but he’s definitely not going to be taller than him.

You’re the one making a big deal out of it.

How old is your kid? And how tall? Kids who are 5’5” at 15 and delayed can end up tall. Especially if they have tall parents as OP indicated. My 6’4” brother is a case in point.

Just turned 14 and he’s 6’4” (and also has tall parents). I don’t dispute other kids his age can still grow and also get tall, but the vast majority of the older, shorter kids aren’t catching up and they’re almost certainly not surpassing his height.

And that’s fine, but “my kid will be taller than your kid someday” is a weirdly competitive statement by OP and probably not something she’ll want to hang her hat on.

Well he may well be stopping growing now or soon. A kid with a growth delay May continue to grow until 20. Kids who start puberty later tend to be taller on average than kids who have early puberty.

Okay? I thought the point was 'stop making a big deal about height,' not 'don't count my kid out of the tall person contest!!'

Er, I was responding to your certainty that your kid was going to win a contest against a kid you don’t know. Like I said my brother (and several cousins too) would disprove that.

The immediate PP is not the one with the tall 14 year old (that’s me) but your brother (who is the same height as a kid who hasn’t started high school yet) doesn’t remotely “disprove” my assertion that a kid a year older and a foot shorter is not going to end up taller. Sorry that bothers you, but it’s pretty obvious.

Reading comprehension. I mentioned my brother because at 15 he was 5’4”. Actually he may have been shorter than that. And he’s not an anomaly. He had delayed puberty, as do many short kids with tall families. Then they grow. So you have no idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:bragging about kindness is bragging too....so should we just not talk at all about others? thats why we can talk about the weather-and the humidity is not much to talk about either

It’s ok to be proud of positive accomplishments and traits like generosity and kindness. It’s stupid to brag about height or blue eyes or curly hair. They are different

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a fully grown son who is 5'5" and I'll be the first to tell you that you're overreacting, OP.

Parents are awed by the growth spurts on some kids! That's all. Some people grow in little bits and dribbles, and others just have one huge growth spurt (that can come with scoliosis and other issues). Those take you by surprise and it's understandable that parents would post about it, since they Insta their entire lives

This!! My friend and mom of her 5 ft 4 son couldn’t stop talking about his muscles when he hit puberty in 6th/7th grade. I thought it was downright creepy. But I rolled my eyes and understood she was just in aww of her baby becoming a man.

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Anonymous wrote:Take a deep breath. People are not "bragging" that their kids grew, they usually are just in kind of shock. And you yourself are putting value on height with "he’ll be taller than most of you when he does grow"

Some are bragging. Especially shorter parents.

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Anonymous wrote:In support of OP, there is a hierarchy among teen boys based on height and size — particularly if they play sports.

My DS is 14 and 5’10 1/2. He will be 6’3 to 6’5 by the time he’s done growing, based on father and grandfather’s heights and growth patterns.

He has same-aged friends who are 5’2” and 5’4” and they are hazed and bullied by the bigger, taller kids. Coaches rule them out, especially in basketball and football.

I also do see dad in particular (I’m a mom) bragging on how big their kid is. It’s a tough time for a 5’4” 15 yr old.

Encourage your boys to be kind.

Someone mentioned tall boys being a-holes. Unfortunately that is true more often than it should be. If we could all do a better job of encouraging our kids to be kind we’d be in a better place.

A lot are, but not all. Kind of a silly story but-

Back when my DS was in 7th grade he was the smallest and worst kid (5’0” 85lbs) on a travel sports team he played on. Most of the taller boys were kind of mean to him- but the biggest and best player on the team (6’0” 180lbs+) was always so incredibly nice to him. Lost track of that kid as he went to a different school. Junior year, big kid walks into my DS’s English class on the first day of school. The family transferred/moved. My DS is now also 6’0”, same as the “big kid”. They became quick friends and DS was able to introduce him around etc. Both quit original sport before high school, but play other sports.

These size differences often turn around fairly quickly, and even if they don’t- no reason to pick on people. Never know when you will see them again!