Bragging about tall kids

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

JFC some of you need to grow the hell up. You’re not in high school anymore. You should know by now that who is or is not popular in high school just does.not.matter instead of passing your lingering insecurities on to your own children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

JFC some of you need to grow the hell up. You’re not in high school anymore. You should know by now that who is or is not popular in high school just does.not.matter instead of passing your lingering insecurities on to your own children.

Let me guess, you think height has no bearing on success for men at all. Right? The 5’2” guy is just as likely to be successful as the 6’2” Everyone is wrong but you have it figured out?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

JFC some of you need to grow the hell up. You’re not in high school anymore. You should know by now that who is or is not popular in high school just does.not.matter instead of passing your lingering insecurities on to your own children.

Let me guess, you think height has no bearing on success for men at all. Right? The 5’2” guy is just as likely to be successful as the 6’2” Everyone is wrong but you have it figured out?

Non sequitur

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

JFC some of you need to grow the hell up. You’re not in high school anymore. You should know by now that who is or is not popular in high school just does.not.matter instead of passing your lingering insecurities on to your own children.

Let me guess, you think height has no bearing on success for men at all. Right? The 5’2” guy is just as likely to be successful as the 6’2” Everyone is wrong but you have it figured out?

Non sequitur

Hardly. You’re just gaslighting in here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

JFC some of you need to grow the hell up. You’re not in high school anymore. You should know by now that who is or is not popular in high school just does.not.matter instead of passing your lingering insecurities on to your own children.

Let me guess, you think height has no bearing on success for men at all. Right? The 5’2” guy is just as likely to be successful as the 6’2” Everyone is wrong but you have it figured out?

Non sequitur

Hardly. You’re just gaslighting in here.

High school popularity =/= Professional success

[Anonymous]

Kids with good social skills and personalities can be popular no matter their height. Plenty of short kids are good at deflecting teasing about their height if it’s happening to them. I definitely think parents project their own issues onto their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Insecure parents with short kids are annoying. Especially sports parents with anxiety. I have a 13 year old who is 5’11. I’ve never bragged about him being tall. Why? Because it is basically irrelevant to me. In fact, he did hit puberty early and I don’t expect him to get much taller. I’m so sick of these parents suggesting that my kid excels in his sport because he is tall. Um. Wrong. My kid has always excelled in his sport - even prior to his growth spurt. If anything, growing so tall so fast made it harder for his body to adjust. I can’t tell you how many parents on his team push their anxiety onto me with their suggestions that my kid somehow has an unfair advantage. I then have to comfort them about my kids early growth spurt, etc. It’s exhausting. Just chill the f out about your kids height. It will be what it will be.

Your kid is gonna top out at 13 though

Yes. Possibly. Maybe not. His older brother is 6’1. Maybe he’ll get that tall. Maybe he won’t. Maybe he’ll get even taller. And what’s your point? My point is that he excels at his sport and always has whether or not he’s tall so chill out and stop blaming everyone because your kid is short. Did you bother to actually read my post?

Gosh you seem really dense. The advantage in sports has little to do with height and everything to do with pubertal development which for boys adds tremendous strength, speed, coordination, lung capacity, etc. so yes your kid has benefitted from early puberty athletically. Others will catch up.

Actually you are the dense one and clearly can’t read. This post from the beginning has nothing to do with puberty and everything to do with height. Why are you now adding in variables that have nothing to do with this discussion? I’ll say it again. The kids on my 13 year olds team who get the attention are the best skilled players. Tall, short, and everything in between. Why do the coaches notice them? Because they are good. Any good coach recognizes that boys at 13 are literally all over the map in terms of height and puberty. So again. Get the chip off your shoulder, stop assuming my kid gets favored because he is tall and take your weird anxiety elsewhere.

It’s hilarious that you think your kid is good because he’s “just good” when by your own account he is like a grown man among little boys. Do you really think his ability has nothing to do with that? So dumb.

My kid was good long before he got tall or hit puberty. And that’s why he gets playing time. Sorry you can’t handle the truth. You sound jealous and painfully insecure. But go ahead. Sit on the bench. Cry to your kid’s coach ( or better yet the parents who have taller kids) and whine and complain that your snowflake isn’t getting playing time because - he’s short! He hasn’t hit puberty! You favor Johnny because he’s tall! Boo hoo. 😢 Let me know how that works out for you. One of the best kids at my son’s development camp also happened to be one of the smallest. He got plenty of playing time and accolades from coaches. Why? Because he is good and 13 and coaches know not to just focus on size. Grow up. Stop complaining. Work on your insecurity and anxiety.

Sounds like we found the parent of the mean tall kid. Wonder where he gets it from?

Sure. Feel better now? My kid is mean because he’s tall? Or are you insecure and anxious?

I think you are the insecure one. You seem very angry and defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids with good social skills and personalities can be popular no matter their height. Plenty of short kids are good at deflecting teasing about their height if it’s happening to them. I definitely think parents project their own issues onto their kids.

This. My DD just found out two different boys like her and I teased her, "Look at you, you're as rizzed up as Larlo!" She scoffed and said, "I wish."

Larlo is her friend, shortest in the grade by a wide margin. And everyone knows he is untouchably "cool." Luckily he's also really nice. And a respected and talented athlete.

So many qualities go into how a person (not just a teen) is perceived and treated. Everyone is lucky in some ways and unlucky in others.

And a lot of it- way more than DCUM will have you believe- is within your control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids with good social skills and personalities can be popular no matter their height. Plenty of short kids are good at deflecting teasing about their height if it’s happening to them. I definitely think parents project their own issues onto their kids.

That can certainly be true. But it can also be true that being tall can lead to more confidence, and the converse being small as a teen can be a blow to self esteem for boys.

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Anonymous wrote:Kids with good social skills and personalities can be popular no matter their height. Plenty of short kids are good at deflecting teasing about their height if it’s happening to them. I definitely think parents project their own issues onto their kids.

This. My DD just found out two different boys like her and I teased her, "Look at you, you're as rizzed up as Larlo!" She scoffed and said, "I wish."

Larlo is her friend, shortest in the grade by a wide margin. And everyone knows he is untouchably "cool." Luckily he's also really nice. And a respected and talented athlete.

So many qualities go into how a person (not just a teen) is perceived and treated. Everyone is lucky in some ways and unlucky in others.

And a lot of it- way more than DCUM will have you believe- is within your control.

Whose control??? The parent?

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

JFC some of you need to grow the hell up. You’re not in high school anymore. You should know by now that who is or is not popular in high school just does.not.matter instead of passing your lingering insecurities on to your own children.

Let me guess, you think height has no bearing on success for men at all. Right? The 5’2” guy is just as likely to be successful as the 6’2” Everyone is wrong but you have it figured out?

Non sequitur

Hardly. You’re just gaslighting in here.

High school popularity =/= Professional success

Really? Are you sure or just guessing. Being tall, like being beautiful has benefits. Those are things society values. People who don’t have those qualities may suffer from low self esteem and feelings of selfdoubt. Confidence plays a role in how well liked a popular person might be. Do you see how all these things might be connected and carry through to later in life success? Or are you just going to keep invalidating others experiences?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

This isn’t always true. My 5’7 12 year old is friends with his 4’9 classmate.
This kid is really funny and well liked. He is popular with his peers.
Somebody might say that he developed his sense of humor to cope with his shorter height.
If so then it worked for him.

They are 12. The short friend can grow.

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

This isn’t always true. My 5’7 12 year old is friends with his 4’9 classmate.
This kid is really funny and well liked. He is popular with his peers.
Somebody might say that he developed his sense of humor to cope with his shorter height.
If so then it worked for him.

They are 12. The short friend can grow.

Many 12 yr old boys haven’t even started puberty. Come back when they are 17 and see where things are at.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- just let it play out. My boys were late growers. Several of the 5’7”-5’8” 6th-7th graders were still that height Senior year of HS. Then, several 5’4” 9th graders were 6 feet Senior year, and a few like mine grabbed two more inches in college.

The exceptions are the friends who had BOTH parents way above average in height-of course their daughters were 5’11-6 feet plus and sons 6’3-6’10”.

I just wished for average to make things easier for them.

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This is what I have seen as well, in two cohorts of teen boys.

It will always be more difficult for late blooming boys and early maturing girls- as a general rule. Maturing at an average time tends to be the ideal.

It’s the ridiculous (can’t believe it comments) you get from some people.

I had neighbors, teammate’s parents, preschool parents make negative comments about my boy’s lack of height on the early/middle school years. It’s really a “wtf? Did you just say that out loud to me?”

And the best part was when my kid ended up 3-5 inches taller than their sons by JS graduation. Several of which never made it close to 6 feet.

I never clapped back- and even when they were small my kids held their own on the athletic field-but the posturing by parents with early bloomers who clearly weren’t tall themselves was outright crazy.

What’s even better is when those parents assume your kid is better and only getting playing time because he is taller. Then fast forward a few years and the short kids also got taller and guess what? They still aren’t as good.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- just let it play out. My boys were late growers. Several of the 5’7”-5’8” 6th-7th graders were still that height Senior year of HS. Then, several 5’4” 9th graders were 6 feet Senior year, and a few like mine grabbed two more inches in college.

The exceptions are the friends who had BOTH parents way above average in height-of course their daughters were 5’11-6 feet plus and sons 6’3-6’10”.

I just wished for average to make things easier for them.

+1

This is what I have seen as well, in two cohorts of teen boys.

It will always be more difficult for late blooming boys and early maturing girls- as a general rule. Maturing at an average time tends to be the ideal.

It’s the ridiculous (can’t believe it comments) you get from some people.

I had neighbors, teammate’s parents, preschool parents make negative comments about my boy’s lack of height on the early/middle school years. It’s really a “wtf? Did you just say that out loud to me?”

And the best part was when my kid ended up 3-5 inches taller than their sons by JS graduation. Several of which never made it close to 6 feet.

I never clapped back- and even when they were small my kids held their own on the athletic field-but the posturing by parents with early bloomers who clearly weren’t tall themselves was outright crazy.

What’s even better is when those parents assume your kid is better and only getting playing time because he is taller. Then fast forward a few years and the short kids also got taller and guess what? They still aren’t as good.

You seem awfully defensive about your tall kid. If he was that good his ability would speak for itself and parents wouldn’t need to make assumptions.