Bragging about tall kids

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Anonymous wrote:Insecure parents with short kids are annoying. Especially sports parents with anxiety. I have a 13 year old who is 5’11. I’ve never bragged about him being tall. Why? Because it is basically irrelevant to me. In fact, he did hit puberty early and I don’t expect him to get much taller. I’m so sick of these parents suggesting that my kid excels in his sport because he is tall. Um. Wrong. My kid has always excelled in his sport - even prior to his growth spurt. If anything, growing so tall so fast made it harder for his body to adjust. I can’t tell you how many parents on his team push their anxiety onto me with their suggestions that my kid somehow has an unfair advantage. I then have to comfort them about my kids early growth spurt, etc. It’s exhausting. Just chill the f out about your kids height. It will be what it will be.

Your kid is gonna top out at 13 though

Yes. Possibly. Maybe not. His older brother is 6’1. Maybe he’ll get that tall. Maybe he won’t. Maybe he’ll get even taller. And what’s your point? My point is that he excels at his sport and always has whether or not he’s tall so chill out and stop blaming everyone because your kid is short. Did you bother to actually read my post?

Gosh you seem really dense. The advantage in sports has little to do with height and everything to do with pubertal development which for boys adds tremendous strength, speed, coordination, lung capacity, etc. so yes your kid has benefitted from early puberty athletically. Others will catch up.

Actually you are the dense one and clearly can’t read. This post from the beginning has nothing to do with puberty and everything to do with height. Why are you now adding in variables that have nothing to do with this discussion? I’ll say it again. The kids on my 13 year olds team who get the attention are the best skilled players. Tall, short, and everything in between. Why do the coaches notice them? Because they are good. Any good coach recognizes that boys at 13 are literally all over the map in terms of height and puberty. So again. Get the chip off your shoulder, stop assuming my kid gets favored because he is tall and take your weird anxiety elsewhere.

It’s hilarious that you think your kid is good because he’s “just good” when by your own account he is like a grown man among little boys. Do you really think his ability has nothing to do with that? So dumb.

My kid was good long before he got tall or hit puberty. And that’s why he gets playing time. Sorry you can’t handle the truth. You sound jealous and painfully insecure. But go ahead. Sit on the bench. Cry to your kid’s coach ( or better yet the parents who have taller kids) and whine and complain that your snowflake isn’t getting playing time because - he’s short! He hasn’t hit puberty! You favor Johnny because he’s tall! Boo hoo. 😢 Let me know how that works out for you. One of the best kids at my son’s development camp also happened to be one of the smallest. He got plenty of playing time and accolades from coaches. Why? Because he is good and 13 and coaches know not to just focus on size. Grow up. Stop complaining. Work on your insecurity and anxiety.

Gracious, you are really really invested in this, aren’t you? Terrified your kid will be passed and forgotten when the others catch up in size and development in the next year or two. So worried people will think he’s only good because he’s big. Calm down, it will be okay.

Nope. Only invested in responding to the crazy posters in this thread who let their jealously and anxiety get the best of them.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- just let it play out. My boys were late growers. Several of the 5’7”-5’8” 6th-7th graders were still that height Senior year of HS. Then, several 5’4” 9th graders were 6 feet Senior year, and a few like mine grabbed two more inches in college.

The exceptions are the friends who had BOTH parents way above average in height-of course their daughters were 5’11-6 feet plus and sons 6’3-6’10”.

I just wished for average to make things easier for them.

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This is what I have seen as well, in two cohorts of teen boys.

It will always be more difficult for late blooming boys and early maturing girls- as a general rule. Maturing at an average time tends to be the ideal.

It’s the ridiculous (can’t believe it comments) you get from some people.

I had neighbors, teammate’s parents, preschool parents make negative comments about my boy’s lack of height on the early/middle school years. It’s really a “wtf? Did you just say that out loud to me?”

And the best part was when my kid ended up 3-5 inches taller than their sons by JS graduation. Several of which never made it close to 6 feet.

I never clapped back- and even when they were small my kids held their own on the athletic field-but the posturing by parents with early bloomers who clearly weren’t tall themselves was outright crazy.

Yes!!! Absolutely. This is the crux of this entire thread - anyone struggling with the point of the original post should read this.

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Anonymous wrote:Insecure parents with short kids are annoying. Especially sports parents with anxiety. I have a 13 year old who is 5’11. I’ve never bragged about him being tall. Why? Because it is basically irrelevant to me. In fact, he did hit puberty early and I don’t expect him to get much taller. I’m so sick of these parents suggesting that my kid excels in his sport because he is tall. Um. Wrong. My kid has always excelled in his sport - even prior to his growth spurt. If anything, growing so tall so fast made it harder for his body to adjust. I can’t tell you how many parents on his team push their anxiety onto me with their suggestions that my kid somehow has an unfair advantage. I then have to comfort them about my kids early growth spurt, etc. It’s exhausting. Just chill the f out about your kids height. It will be what it will be.

Your kid is gonna top out at 13 though

Yes. Possibly. Maybe not. His older brother is 6’1. Maybe he’ll get that tall. Maybe he won’t. Maybe he’ll get even taller. And what’s your point? My point is that he excels at his sport and always has whether or not he’s tall so chill out and stop blaming everyone because your kid is short. Did you bother to actually read my post?

Gosh you seem really dense. The advantage in sports has little to do with height and everything to do with pubertal development which for boys adds tremendous strength, speed, coordination, lung capacity, etc. so yes your kid has benefitted from early puberty athletically. Others will catch up.

Actually you are the dense one and clearly can’t read. This post from the beginning has nothing to do with puberty and everything to do with height. Why are you now adding in variables that have nothing to do with this discussion? I’ll say it again. The kids on my 13 year olds team who get the attention are the best skilled players. Tall, short, and everything in between. Why do the coaches notice them? Because they are good. Any good coach recognizes that boys at 13 are literally all over the map in terms of height and puberty. So again. Get the chip off your shoulder, stop assuming my kid gets favored because he is tall and take your weird anxiety elsewhere.

It’s hilarious that you think your kid is good because he’s “just good” when by your own account he is like a grown man among little boys. Do you really think his ability has nothing to do with that? So dumb.

My kid was good long before he got tall or hit puberty. And that’s why he gets playing time. Sorry you can’t handle the truth. You sound jealous and painfully insecure. But go ahead. Sit on the bench. Cry to your kid’s coach ( or better yet the parents who have taller kids) and whine and complain that your snowflake isn’t getting playing time because - he’s short! He hasn’t hit puberty! You favor Johnny because he’s tall! Boo hoo. 😢 Let me know how that works out for you. One of the best kids at my son’s development camp also happened to be one of the smallest. He got plenty of playing time and accolades from coaches. Why? Because he is good and 13 and coaches know not to just focus on size. Grow up. Stop complaining. Work on your insecurity and anxiety.

Sounds like we found the parent of the mean tall kid. Wonder where he gets it from?

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Anonymous wrote:Insecure parents with short kids are annoying. Especially sports parents with anxiety. I have a 13 year old who is 5’11. I’ve never bragged about him being tall. Why? Because it is basically irrelevant to me. In fact, he did hit puberty early and I don’t expect him to get much taller. I’m so sick of these parents suggesting that my kid excels in his sport because he is tall. Um. Wrong. My kid has always excelled in his sport - even prior to his growth spurt. If anything, growing so tall so fast made it harder for his body to adjust. I can’t tell you how many parents on his team push their anxiety onto me with their suggestions that my kid somehow has an unfair advantage. I then have to comfort them about my kids early growth spurt, etc. It’s exhausting. Just chill the f out about your kids height. It will be what it will be.

Your kid is gonna top out at 13 though

Yes. Possibly. Maybe not. His older brother is 6’1. Maybe he’ll get that tall. Maybe he won’t. Maybe he’ll get even taller. And what’s your point? My point is that he excels at his sport and always has whether or not he’s tall so chill out and stop blaming everyone because your kid is short. Did you bother to actually read my post?

Gosh you seem really dense. The advantage in sports has little to do with height and everything to do with pubertal development which for boys adds tremendous strength, speed, coordination, lung capacity, etc. so yes your kid has benefitted from early puberty athletically. Others will catch up.

Actually you are the dense one and clearly can’t read. This post from the beginning has nothing to do with puberty and everything to do with height. Why are you now adding in variables that have nothing to do with this discussion? I’ll say it again. The kids on my 13 year olds team who get the attention are the best skilled players. Tall, short, and everything in between. Why do the coaches notice them? Because they are good. Any good coach recognizes that boys at 13 are literally all over the map in terms of height and puberty. So again. Get the chip off your shoulder, stop assuming my kid gets favored because he is tall and take your weird anxiety elsewhere.

It’s hilarious that you think your kid is good because he’s “just good” when by your own account he is like a grown man among little boys. Do you really think his ability has nothing to do with that? So dumb.

My kid was good long before he got tall or hit puberty. And that’s why he gets playing time. Sorry you can’t handle the truth. You sound jealous and painfully insecure. But go ahead. Sit on the bench. Cry to your kid’s coach ( or better yet the parents who have taller kids) and whine and complain that your snowflake isn’t getting playing time because - he’s short! He hasn’t hit puberty! You favor Johnny because he’s tall! Boo hoo. 😢 Let me know how that works out for you. One of the best kids at my son’s development camp also happened to be one of the smallest. He got plenty of playing time and accolades from coaches. Why? Because he is good and 13 and coaches know not to just focus on size. Grow up. Stop complaining. Work on your insecurity and anxiety.

Gracious, you are really really invested in this, aren’t you? Terrified your kid will be passed and forgotten when the others catch up in size and development in the next year or two. So worried people will think he’s only good because he’s big. Calm down, it will be okay.

Nope. Only invested in responding to the crazy posters in this thread who let their jealously and anxiety get the best of them.

OMG! DP here. I couldn’t be less “jealous” of you! Having a temporary advantage in sports and being this invested in it and super defensive is crazy! Calm down please.

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My kid is tall but has no interest in team sports and isn't good at them, maybe that is why it's easier for me to not see height as being such a big deal. My son's self esteem was never wrapped up in sports.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- just let it play out. My boys were late growers. Several of the 5’7”-5’8” 6th-7th graders were still that height Senior year of HS. Then, several 5’4” 9th graders were 6 feet Senior year, and a few like mine grabbed two more inches in college.

The exceptions are the friends who had BOTH parents way above average in height-of course their daughters were 5’11-6 feet plus and sons 6’3-6’10”.

I just wished for average to make things easier for them.

+1

This is what I have seen as well, in two cohorts of teen boys.

It will always be more difficult for late blooming boys and early maturing girls- as a general rule. Maturing at an average time tends to be the ideal.

It’s the ridiculous (can’t believe it comments) you get from some people.

I had neighbors, teammate’s parents, preschool parents make negative comments about my boy’s lack of height on the early/middle school years. It’s really a “wtf? Did you just say that out loud to me?”

And the best part was when my kid ended up 3-5 inches taller than their sons by JS graduation. Several of which never made it close to 6 feet.

I never clapped back- and even when they were small my kids held their own on the athletic field-but the posturing by parents with early bloomers who clearly weren’t tall themselves was outright crazy.

Yes!!! Absolutely. This is the crux of this entire thread - anyone struggling with the point of the original post should read this.

Nobody commented on OP’s kid. OP is outraged about people commenting on THEIR OWN kids.

I don’t know what OP *thinks* her point was but what she was actually communicating is jealousy and insecurity.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I get where you are coming from. I posted a hand wringing thread about my tiny late blooming son and sports at some point, though he was younger than yours. There have been other threads about this too.

Because that is what you are really getting at, right? Sports? Most sports will not be possible to play at the high school level for very late blooming boys. It isn’t even about height, but about physical maturity. I’m sorry, but it is true. And your DS is even later blooming than mine was. I will tell you from experience that you just need to accept this in your mind and move on. Your DS will figure things out on his own- just be encouraging of him in whatever he wants to do.

My DS (now a senior and 6’1”) dropped team sports freshman year and found other things to do. At that time he was 5’5” maybe 110lbs? and it was clearly going to be quite awhile before he “caught up” physically. He decided to move on and focus on other interests. Anyway- as a Senior, he is a great student, plays golf and tennis recreationally, goes to the gym three times/wk, has a part time job, does volunteer work, had friends and is happy. Sports are not everything. And it isn’t other people’s fault that your kid, and mine, got a bum deal in the puberty lottery. It is just life, and it really does not matter in the long run.

OP again, actually no, he’s not particularly into sports (never has been) so that’s not the issue. It’s just me with a rant about the weird bragging and a comment on the meanness that seems to sometimes accompany the dominant tall kids which the parents are seemingly unaware of.

You haven’t given any examples of meanness. You started off this bizarre thread with a rant about some random mom posting on her own (presumably) social media account that her Johnny is tall.

The only mean-spirited comments in your original post came from you.

I’m curious about this too. OP what are the tall kids saying/doing to your kid? IME with my late blooming kid- it was more that he was ignored by a lot of the mature boys than anything else. They were just on different wavelengths and had different interests. He wasn’t picked on or bullied.

Not OP - I’ll give a non sports related answer. My son is a late bloomer he’s 14 and 5’3”. We did cotillion when he was 12. The boys had to ask the girls to dance. So many of the girls were taller than him, and some by a lot at nearly 6 feet tall. 12 is that awkard age where the girls have hit puberty and the boys are just starting. Several of the girls laughed at him and told him no because he was too short. This was for like a 90 second song. He wasn’t aking them to marry him. A little kindness would have gone a long way.

I wonder how many “ugly” girls your son asked to dance? Thinks are awkward and unfair all over.

Oh sure. That has to be it . The girls were rude, period. Examples were asked for and given.

You missed the point completely. Think about it a little more before you accidentally raise some entitled incel.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- just let it play out. My boys were late growers. Several of the 5’7”-5’8” 6th-7th graders were still that height Senior year of HS. Then, several 5’4” 9th graders were 6 feet Senior year, and a few like mine grabbed two more inches in college.

The exceptions are the friends who had BOTH parents way above average in height-of course their daughters were 5’11-6 feet plus and sons 6’3-6’10”.

I just wished for average to make things easier for them.

+1

This is what I have seen as well, in two cohorts of teen boys.

It will always be more difficult for late blooming boys and early maturing girls- as a general rule. Maturing at an average time tends to be the ideal.

It’s the ridiculous (can’t believe it comments) you get from some people.

I had neighbors, teammate’s parents, preschool parents make negative comments about my boy’s lack of height on the early/middle school years. It’s really a “wtf? Did you just say that out loud to me?”

And the best part was when my kid ended up 3-5 inches taller than their sons by JS graduation. Several of which never made it close to 6 feet.

I never clapped back- and even when they were small my kids held their own on the athletic field-but the posturing by parents with early bloomers who clearly weren’t tall themselves was outright crazy.

Yes!!! Absolutely. This is the crux of this entire thread - anyone struggling with the point of the original post should read this.

Get over yourself. Of course if mom is 5’10 and dad is 6’4 and Larlo is the shortest boy in the class people are going to comment on it.

You’re no better and just as annoying as them, gloating about how your kid ended up over 6’.

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Anonymous wrote:Insecure parents with short kids are annoying. Especially sports parents with anxiety. I have a 13 year old who is 5’11. I’ve never bragged about him being tall. Why? Because it is basically irrelevant to me. In fact, he did hit puberty early and I don’t expect him to get much taller. I’m so sick of these parents suggesting that my kid excels in his sport because he is tall. Um. Wrong. My kid has always excelled in his sport - even prior to his growth spurt. If anything, growing so tall so fast made it harder for his body to adjust. I can’t tell you how many parents on his team push their anxiety onto me with their suggestions that my kid somehow has an unfair advantage. I then have to comfort them about my kids early growth spurt, etc. It’s exhausting. Just chill the f out about your kids height. It will be what it will be.

Your kid is gonna top out at 13 though

Yes. Possibly. Maybe not. His older brother is 6’1. Maybe he’ll get that tall. Maybe he won’t. Maybe he’ll get even taller. And what’s your point? My point is that he excels at his sport and always has whether or not he’s tall so chill out and stop blaming everyone because your kid is short. Did you bother to actually read my post?

Gosh you seem really dense. The advantage in sports has little to do with height and everything to do with pubertal development which for boys adds tremendous strength, speed, coordination, lung capacity, etc. so yes your kid has benefitted from early puberty athletically. Others will catch up.

Actually you are the dense one and clearly can’t read. This post from the beginning has nothing to do with puberty and everything to do with height. Why are you now adding in variables that have nothing to do with this discussion? I’ll say it again. The kids on my 13 year olds team who get the attention are the best skilled players. Tall, short, and everything in between. Why do the coaches notice them? Because they are good. Any good coach recognizes that boys at 13 are literally all over the map in terms of height and puberty. So again. Get the chip off your shoulder, stop assuming my kid gets favored because he is tall and take your weird anxiety elsewhere.

It’s hilarious that you think your kid is good because he’s “just good” when by your own account he is like a grown man among little boys. Do you really think his ability has nothing to do with that? So dumb.

My kid was good long before he got tall or hit puberty. And that’s why he gets playing time. Sorry you can’t handle the truth. You sound jealous and painfully insecure. But go ahead. Sit on the bench. Cry to your kid’s coach ( or better yet the parents who have taller kids) and whine and complain that your snowflake isn’t getting playing time because - he’s short! He hasn’t hit puberty! You favor Johnny because he’s tall! Boo hoo. 😢 Let me know how that works out for you. One of the best kids at my son’s development camp also happened to be one of the smallest. He got plenty of playing time and accolades from coaches. Why? Because he is good and 13 and coaches know not to just focus on size. Grow up. Stop complaining. Work on your insecurity and anxiety.

Sounds like we found the parent of the mean tall kid. Wonder where he gets it from?

Sure. Feel better now? My kid is mean because he’s tall? Or are you insecure and anxious?

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OP I think people are reacting strongly to your post because it reads like “short boys are kinder than tall boys and they’ll outgrow your tall sons anyway.”
There are some short and tall kids who get picked on for their height. There are boys in both categories who don’t. I have a short son who is starting to grow. As far as I know he’s never been picked on for it and still gets ample playing time in his sport.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I think people are reacting strongly to your post because it reads like “short boys are kinder than tall boys and they’ll outgrow your tall sons anyway.”
There are some short and tall kids who get picked on for their height. There are boys in both categories who don’t. I have a short son who is starting to grow. As far as I know he’s never been picked on for it and still gets ample playing time in his sport.

I think you mean “tall boys are meaner than short ones, and the short ones will outgrow your tall sons anyway”.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is tall but has no interest in team sports and isn't good at them, maybe that is why it's easier for me to not see height as being such a big deal. My son's self esteem was never wrapped up in sports.

Same here, my kid prefers individual sports.
He has some natural athletic ability but uses it for sports
he can do for fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Insecure parents with short kids are annoying. Especially sports parents with anxiety. I have a 13 year old who is 5’11. I’ve never bragged about him being tall. Why? Because it is basically irrelevant to me. In fact, he did hit puberty early and I don’t expect him to get much taller. I’m so sick of these parents suggesting that my kid excels in his sport because he is tall. Um. Wrong. My kid has always excelled in his sport - even prior to his growth spurt. If anything, growing so tall so fast made it harder for his body to adjust. I can’t tell you how many parents on his team push their anxiety onto me with their suggestions that my kid somehow has an unfair advantage. I then have to comfort them about my kids early growth spurt, etc. It’s exhausting. Just chill the f out about your kids height. It will be what it will be.

It’s irrelevant because you have zero experience with a late blooming boy. You have no idea what you’re talking about or what other people’s experiences are. An early blooming 13 yr old boy has everything sports related handed to him on a platter. The other kids have to work 2x as hard to get in the game and have the coach notice him. The coaches seem to only see the buoys.

I’m the pp you are talking to. Nonsense. The best kids short or tall get the playing time. My kid happens to be tall for his age. So what? He gets playing time because he is good. Many of the players also getting the most playing time are not tall. They get playing time because they are good. Grow up and stop making excuses.

A-hole parent of tall kid right here. This is the attitude everyone’s talking about.

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Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the thing, “popular” kids are more likely to be tall. They are also more likely to be mean. They are “popular” not because they are actually well liked (they are not) but because they are dominant and have status. And that status comes to some extent from early puberty and height. Shorter kids are ignored and marginalized by these groups, if not actually bullied. Not all tall kids are mean but some are, and the “popular” crowd almost entirely are. And the parents are oblivious to it.

This isn’t always true. My 5’7 12 year old is friends with his 4’9 classmate.
This kid is really funny and well liked. He is popular with his peers.
Somebody might say that he developed his sense of humor to cope with his shorter height.
If so then it worked for him.