Shaving legs

[Anonymous]

My 12YO has shaved under her arms for a year or two. I noticed she tried shaving her bikini line this summer after she had some serious razor burn. So I gave her a few pointers and I haven't seen any more major issues. She does not shave her legs but we haven't really talked about it. She is blond and only has a few dark leg hairs around her knees and the rest is light.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.

OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.

Maybe the hair doesn't bother her. A way to bring it up casually if you watch TV and see a shaving ad could say "if you want to shave you can but if you don't want to that's totally okay, lots of girls and women don't shave." Then don't bring it up agsin unless she does.
Or if you’re watching a movie where there's a shaving scene. Could say above after the movie is over, especially if you talk about the movie after.

Lots don’t shave?? Just wrong. I don’t know a single teen or woman that doesn’t shave.

DP. I do, and I see more and more out and about all the time. Was on a college campus recently and saw a girl in a pretty sundress holding her boyfriend’s hand, walking around with hairy legs. I agree it looks shocking to us middle aged ladies, but it’s not that a big a deal for the teens and young adults.

[Anonymous]

I think I will bring it up. She definitely does not seem the type to not shave as she gets older so I don't want her to feel pressure to start sooner than she thinks is needed. Fortunately, there is no underarm hair yet and if she has any pubic hair at all, it is not poking out of her bathing suit or undies at all.

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Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.

OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.

Maybe the hair doesn't bother her. A way to bring it up casually if you watch TV and see a shaving ad could say "if you want to shave you can but if you don't want to that's totally okay, lots of girls and women don't shave." Then don't bring it up agsin unless she does.
Or if you’re watching a movie where there's a shaving scene. Could say above after the movie is over, especially if you talk about the movie after.

Lots don’t shave?? Just wrong. I don’t know a single teen or woman that doesn’t shave.

DP. I do, and I see more and more out and about all the time. Was on a college campus recently and saw a girl in a pretty sundress holding her boyfriend’s hand, walking around with hairy legs. I agree it looks shocking to us middle aged ladies, but it’s not that a big a deal for the teens and young adults.

May depend on the wokeness of your circle. This is just not true at all at our school and EC’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD just returned from summer camp. She stayed with a same-age (high school) friend who does not shave at all.

DD was a bit shocked at how much hair stuck out from the other girl’s bikini bottom. And the other girls unshaven pits were also a bit much at the pool.

DD is definitely sticking to shaving, or at least trimming, sensitive areas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I noticed one day that my 4th grader no longer had hair on her legs! She had used a random razor she found in the house. We talked about why that’s not safe. Now she shaves regularly during shorts season but not much other times. Because she does shave her legs, I did once ask her if she wanted to shave her underarms. She has some fine longer hair there. She said no and that’s fine with me. If she hadn’t started shaving on her own, I would not have asked her. I just have always been open that I shave and she could start whenever she wanted.

I had so much drama with my own mother about that and upper lip etc. I’ll support my child in whatever she wants to do and whenever, as it relates to this!

4th grade? wow. times have changed.

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Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.

People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.

It IS "normal" for many to not shave. Just because most in your experience do, doesn't make not shaving abnormal.
It's like saying most girls and women in my experience don't put weird colors in their hair, but people act like it's normal to do so. It IS!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.

People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.

It IS "normal" for many to not shave. Just because most in your experience do, doesn't make not shaving abnormal.
It's like saying most girls and women in my experience don't put weird colors in their hair, but people act like it's normal to do so. It IS!

Or "most people I know pierce their ears, but people act like it's normal not to."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.

People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.

It IS "normal" for many to not shave. Just because most in your experience do, doesn't make not shaving abnormal.
It's like saying most girls and women in my experience don't put weird colors in their hair, but people act like it's normal to do so. It IS!

No sorry. You and your nonshaving teen are weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.

OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.

Maybe the hair doesn't bother her. A way to bring it up casually if you watch TV and see a shaving ad could say "if you want to shave you can but if you don't want to that's totally okay, lots of girls and women don't shave." Then don't bring it up agsin unless she does.
Or if you’re watching a movie where there's a shaving scene. Could say above after the movie is over, especially if you talk about the movie after.

Lots don’t shave?? Just wrong. I don’t know a single teen or woman that doesn’t shave.

DP. I do, and I see more and more out and about all the time. Was on a college campus recently and saw a girl in a pretty sundress holding her boyfriend’s hand, walking around with hairy legs. I agree it looks shocking to us middle aged ladies, but it’s not that a big a deal for the teens and young adults.

This is my daughter. I hate the look but not my decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.

People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.

It IS "normal" for many to not shave. Just because most in your experience do, doesn't make not shaving abnormal.
It's like saying most girls and women in my experience don't put weird colors in their hair, but people act like it's normal to do so. It IS!

No sorry. You and your nonshaving teen are weird.

I don’t understand it but more girls are not shaving now. I have a teen and am a HS teacher. My daughter is hairy and used hair removal cream in 4th grade. She used it less and less the past two years and I don’t think has it all this summer. She doesn’t seem bothered by her underarms either. I ask her all of the time about the pool and she tells me I am the one with the issue if I care about hair. Last spring I saw many of my students in sleeveless shirts or dresses with unshaven armpits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.

People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.

It IS "normal" for many to not shave. Just because most in your experience do, doesn't make not shaving abnormal.
It's like saying most girls and women in my experience don't put weird colors in their hair, but people act like it's normal to do so. It IS!

No sorry. You and your nonshaving teen are weird.

I don’t understand it but more girls are not shaving now. I have a teen and am a HS teacher. My daughter is hairy and used hair removal cream in 4th grade. She used it less and less the past two years and I don’t think has it all this summer. She doesn’t seem bothered by her underarms either. I ask her all of the time about the pool and she tells me I am the one with the issue if I care about hair. Last spring I saw many of my students in sleeveless shirts or dresses with unshaven armpits.

I just spent the last two weeks at two different busy beach resorts out of state and didn’t see a single solitary female with leg or armpit hair at any age. Sure I wouldn’t have noticed stubble, but nobody was au natural. Literally no one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My rising 7th grade DD hasn’t asked yet. She is blond and her hair is fine so it’s not very noticeable.

Her 9 year old very thick, dark haired sister is already asking when she can start. I will probably let her in 4th grade. I remember my sister being teased mercilessly for having “monkey legs” at the same age. My parents let her shave, thankfully. I’m sure I’ll be shelling out for laser hair removal eventually!

If she’s asking, let her start now. That seems cruel not to let her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.

This is very early. I have a rising 5th grade DD and none of her friends are shaving. I can think of a few girls in her grade who maybe are, but it's FAR from the norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.

People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.

It IS "normal" for many to not shave. Just because most in your experience do, doesn't make not shaving abnormal.
It's like saying most girls and women in my experience don't put weird colors in their hair, but people act like it's normal to do so. It IS!

No sorry. You and your nonshaving teen are weird.

I don’t understand it but more girls are not shaving now. I have a teen and am a HS teacher. My daughter is hairy and used hair removal cream in 4th grade. She used it less and less the past two years and I don’t think has it all this summer. She doesn’t seem bothered by her underarms either. I ask her all of the time about the pool and she tells me I am the one with the issue if I care about hair. Last spring I saw many of my students in sleeveless shirts or dresses with unshaven armpits.

I just spent the last two weeks at two different busy beach resorts out of state and didn’t see a single solitary female with leg or armpit hair at any age. Sure I wouldn’t have noticed stubble, but nobody was au natural. Literally no one.

Are you really looking that closely at people on crowded beach resorts?