Goody Bags, are they still in?

[Anonymous]

They are common everywhere outside of DCUM. Here, you have all of the uptight parents who demand only exactly what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely goody bags if they've received them from others. When in Rome...

Doesn't have to be over the top though. Think pirate themed party and a treasure chest full of dollar store / party city booty for 7 and unders. Could be filled with anything. Also great times for the ride home.

Anything plastic from the dollar store is total junk and don't let my kids take it. You can avoid being over the top while also not giving out landfill garbage.

So at pickup, you have your kid take a goody bag, rifle through it, and if there’s “total junk” in it you throw it back to the host? Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m fine with favors as long as they are not the cheap plastic junk. Don’t waste your money on that - a cookie, candy, hair ties, a book, even a notebook and pen, will all get used.

This year, we had a painting party and the painting was their favor.

Agreed. We’re giving pencils, stickers, temporary tattoos, and a dumdum. DS asked for the plastic junk and I explained that it was just useless plastic that would end up in the trash and he totally understood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m fine with favors as long as they are not the cheap plastic junk. Don’t waste your money on that - a cookie, candy, hair ties, a book, even a notebook and pen, will all get used.

This year, we had a painting party and the painting was their favor.

Agreed. We’re giving pencils, stickers, temporary tattoos, and a dumdum. DS asked for the plastic junk and I explained that it was just useless plastic that would end up in the trash and he totally understood.

That’s junk that will go to to trash too.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and my 4 year old DD loves them.

[Anonymous]

Kids love them and expect them. So if you don't have them, kids will ask where they are (teach your kids not to ask!).

My kid is 12 but as a much younger child after one time he cluelessly asked about a goodie bag when there was none, I learned to tell him not to do that. And after the initial expectation is quashed I truly don't think kids care.

[Anonymous]

Yes, always. Kids love them. I try to get some interesting items, like a small bag of rocks, a small lego-like project etc. But I am not above cheap plastic stuff too. Kids get so excited about it.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing my kid has received at a party that hasn’t ended up in the trash eventually. Please skip it… kids are fine without it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids love them and expect them. So if you don't have them, kids will ask where they are (teach your kids not to ask!).

My kid is 12 but as a much younger child after one time he cluelessly asked about a goodie bag when there was none, I learned to tell him not to do that. And after the initial expectation is quashed I truly don't think kids care.

I STILL feel shame about asking the parent hosting the party about a party favor. "I didn't get a party favor...?" She glared at me. "We're not doing them this year, and that was RUDE."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are common everywhere outside of DCUM. Here, you have all of the uptight parents who demand only exactly what they want.

Actually we want nothing. That is the easiest thing of all to give!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids love them and expect them. So if you don't have them, kids will ask where they are (teach your kids not to ask!).

My kid is 12 but as a much younger child after one time he cluelessly asked about a goodie bag when there was none, I learned to tell him not to do that. And after the initial expectation is quashed I truly don't think kids care.

I STILL feel shame about asking the parent hosting the party about a party favor. "I didn't get a party favor...?" She glared at me. "We're not doing them this year, and that was RUDE."

Well she wasn’t wrong. My kids know not to ask for or about party favors. Some people do them, but a lot don’t and it is rude to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m fine with favors as long as they are not the cheap plastic junk. Don’t waste your money on that - a cookie, candy, hair ties, a book, even a notebook and pen, will all get used.

This year, we had a painting party and the painting was their favor.

Agreed. We’re giving pencils, stickers, temporary tattoos, and a dumdum. DS asked for the plastic junk and I explained that it was just useless plastic that would end up in the trash and he totally understood.

Agreed. We stopped handing them out. Gave a take away cupcake or some other treat or something kids/families could actually use. (Did custom chocolate mold pops one year)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are common everywhere outside of DCUM. Here, you have all of the uptight parents who demand only exactly what they want.

Actually we want nothing. That is the easiest thing of all to give!

+100. The party is about the honoree. Everyone else is an invited guest that was able to participate in the festivities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids love them and expect them. So if you don't have them, kids will ask where they are (teach your kids not to ask!).

My kid is 12 but as a much younger child after one time he cluelessly asked about a goodie bag when there was none, I learned to tell him not to do that. And after the initial expectation is quashed I truly don't think kids care.

I STILL feel shame about asking the parent hosting the party about a party favor. "I didn't get a party favor...?" She glared at me. "We're not doing them this year, and that was RUDE."

Well she wasn’t wrong. My kids know not to ask for or about party favors. Some people do them, but a lot don’t and it is rude to ask.

I agree it was rude of me. But I was four. And there'd been a goody bag at every single birthday party I'd ever been to in my short life thus far. I genuinely didn't know that NOT having them was an option - it had just never occurred to me before.

[Anonymous]

What a horrible mom to chastise a 4-year-old like that.