s/o Moms and friendships

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know. If I could go back in time I'd tell myself to keep absolutely everyone at arm's length because I've been burned (gossip, shifting personalities, uncomfortable requests, getting caught between two who used to be friends with each other, both needy or unavailable types...) but we also had a lot of good times and I have some friends worth their weight in gold. I vacillate and think some relationships get awkward as kids grow while others were never dependent on kids getting along because both kids wanted distance and moms spent time together without kids. Some kids are not a good influence but have great parents. I guess I'd just trust my gut more, be wary of cultivating any friendships and focus on other things but it's undeniable that kids benefit a lot socially.

This has also been my experience. There are a bunch of people I wish I’d kept at arms length.

NP: yep I agree also

Honestly, it is generally better to make friendships completely outside of your kids. Most “mom friends” end up being just situational.

This is a polite way of saying total c u n t a s you would not want to fart on.

Damnb

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know. If I could go back in time I'd tell myself to keep absolutely everyone at arm's length because I've been burned (gossip, shifting personalities, uncomfortable requests, getting caught between two who used to be friends with each other, both needy or unavailable types...) but we also had a lot of good times and I have some friends worth their weight in gold. I vacillate and think some relationships get awkward as kids grow while others were never dependent on kids getting along because both kids wanted distance and moms spent time together without kids. Some kids are not a good influence but have great parents. I guess I'd just trust my gut more, be wary of cultivating any friendships and focus on other things but it's undeniable that kids benefit a lot socially.

This has also been my experience. There are a bunch of people I wish I’d kept at arms length.

NP: yep I agree also

Honestly, it is generally better to make friendships completely outside of your kids. Most “mom friends” end up being just situational.

This is a polite way of saying total c u n t a s you would not want to fart on.

Damnb

Yes those c u n t s can shove it. Bye ass holes!

[Anonymous]

The mom friends crowd gives me so much social anxiety. Ive never made it click. My friends are all from pre kids. I am friendly with parents on the sidline at games and at school events but i have never made the jump to actual friendship. Maybe its me. Hearing about the mom tribes really stresses me out! Like another thing I just somehow messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The mom friends crowd gives me so much social anxiety. Ive never made it click. My friends are all from pre kids. I am friendly with parents on the sidline at games and at school events but i have never made the jump to actual friendship. Maybe its me. Hearing about the mom tribes really stresses me out! Like another thing I just somehow messed up.

I don’t even try. I am open and friendly but unless I see someone who wants to engage at a deeper level, I keep it to the surface too and have no regrets. My closest friendships are also from before kids, or else work or hobbies brought us together. Luckily some of them have similar aged kids. Others don’t but we still hang out - it’s good for kids to hang out with older or younger kids sometimes.

I would guess very few people have “mom tribes” and the ones who flaunt theirs on FB are exhibitionist. Like, what are they trying to prove?