Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you so convinced it’s about your clothing? Honest question, I promise.

Because in the car, that’s what DH said he thought it was.

That is a very interesting answer

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wear non baggy clothes all the time. No yoga pant or baggy anything. Quince dresses and flats/sandals and mascara to the grocery store, kid pickup etc. I also WOH and wear pants, nicer dresses etc daily. Try to be nice to everyone no matter the outfit. But I'm eastern European and by those standards I'm slumming it. Most everyone i run into in that community here wears full make up, heels, very nice, ironed clothes when they do drop off at activities.

Yes! My family is East-European too and that is very familiar to me. Grandma wouldn’t let me leave the house without ironing my clothes.

Once my brother saw me wearing frumpy clothes on the college campus and told me I needed to dress better. That night I got a call from my mom saying my brother told her I was on campus looking like a slob.

Now I live here where what I was taught is not the norm and seems offensive. DH is from here and he said women just cut their hair short and dress practical.

Are you OP?

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I’m European, too, but dress in jeans, t shirt or cashmere hoodies in winter. No makeup - most people probably vastly underestimate our wealth. We hang out with a highly educated crowd, who don’t display their wealth.
Some of our friends are dressed nicely, others aren’t. It doesn’t matter.

Try talking to the other people.

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Anonymous wrote:So, what is the collective opinion?

When is it acceptable to wear clothes nicer than those you would wear doing yard work or hanging out at the lake?

Yes, I’m the uppity biatch who posted this morning.

Apparently, I’m socially clueless and condescending.

I’m genuinely asking, outside of the office or a fancy dinner when is it okay to wear something not baggy??

I am a man and decided a couple of years ago to deliberately up my game when going out in public. Which means I tend to wear something tailored, color-coordinated with thoughtfully selected footwear and a fedora or flat cap. In summer I wear a Panama hat and a linen shirt.

It's time to bring back dressing well. All we can do is lead by example.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you the chinos shorts lady? I’m a plain Jane but it seems like we might have a different definition of nice. I have never been anywhere where chinos shorts were overdressed.

So give us more examples of what kind of clothes you mean?

I wore this shirt with a pair of pink chino shorts and flip flops.

https://www.moleavon.co.uk/images/products/large/51104c.jpg

How old are you? This is something my mom would wear.

Well, she does say "dungarees" and "I have always been very femme." The whole old-lady prissiness vibe she has going on must be super annoying and off-putting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't do "yard work" and the lakes I hang out at are essentially Lario and Thunersee. So yes, I wear generally the same clothes there as I do here.

Berner Oberland explains the frumpy top you posted earlier, assuming you're the OP. Where do you live now?

I think it may be your attitude and condescension. You know damn well most people only know it as Lake Como.

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Anonymous wrote:DC is frumptown. Don't be expecting much.

I figure it's always better to overdress than underdress. If I'm invited out for drinks to celebrate a friends' birthday, I'll be the best-dressed person there. Better than the opposite.

One nice thing in this area is that men in particular are not adventurous when it comes to fashion, so a lot of the clothes I get are from the clearance rack because they were too "fashion forward" for this crowd. The same store in Miami and it would have sold out the first day they put it on the rack.

Miami is so tacky.

^^^^^^^^^

Not a style one should emulate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you so convinced it’s about your clothing? Honest question, I promise.

Because in the car, that’s what DH said he thought it was.

Sorry but your DH sounds clueless—or maybe he’s saying it’s your clothing because he doesn’t want to tell you how off-putting your attitude is.

Do you honestly think the women who don’t care about how they dress will care about how YOU dress?? Come on.

Maybe you just won’t click with this particular group of people. Who knows why that happens. But you’re obsessing about your clothing and we now have TWO threads full of posters telling you ITS NOT THAT!

[Anonymous]

I think you missed the third thread, PP.

No, seriously. Three.

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It sounds like your native language is not English, so FYI it is “dress nicely,” not “dress nice.”

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Anonymous wrote:I think you missed the third thread, PP.

No, seriously. Three.

I just found the third!! This is rapidly approaching fried tuna/burgundy washcloth/bobcat lady status.

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I think your husband thought that was a safe answer. The truth is what’s “in” right now is not “nice”. It’s casual and relaxed and as you heard overalls are far more on trend than what you described. You sound like my grandmother a few years ago and I’m 40. Honestly you need to give this up. If you want to wear very old fashioned outfits that is totally fine. I don’t think it will affect your friendships other than people thinking you are an old mom. But please lose the attitude and focus on being kind.

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There are so many people who dress better than you do, each and every day, OP. Get out of here with your CHINO SHORTS and stop trolling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dress nice most days and I work from home part time. Dresses or nice pants with a proper top or sometimes a jumpsuit. Light makeup and jewelry and I do my hair. I live in DC and most people around are dressed ore casually but I don't really care. I feel better when I look more put together.

Are you the person who moved to a "flyover state" and was complaining that no one dresses up and you think you dressing nicely is keeping you from making friends? I said it in that thread and I'll say it here but I don't think that's the issue -- wear what you want. But don't disdain others who dress down. I have lots of friends who don't dress up as uch as I do and it's not an issue at all and it's not like they used to dress up or something -- I'm just their friend who is a bit more formal and dress.

Yes it’s me. I have social circle I click with. I’m just trying to get to know the moms at DD’s new school so she will keep getting invited to parties.

Honestly OP it doesn't sound like your problem is the clothes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the chinos shorts lady? I’m a plain Jane but it seems like we might have a different definition of nice. I have never been anywhere where chinos shorts were overdressed.

So give us more examples of what kind of clothes you mean?

I wore this shirt with a pair of pink chino shorts and flip flops.

https://www.moleavon.co.uk/images/products/large/51104c.jpg

Oh no - a loose floral top. Well no wonder you feel out of place.