Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?

[Anonymous]

So, what is the collective opinion?

When is it acceptable to wear clothes nicer than those you would wear doing yard work or hanging out at the lake?

Yes, I’m the uppity biatch who posted this morning.

Apparently, I’m socially clueless and condescending.

I’m genuinely asking, outside of the office or a fancy dinner when is it okay to wear something not baggy??

[Anonymous]

Where are you hanging out that nobody dresses up? I haven’t had this issue.

[Anonymous]

Well, I have to be careful how I say it. It is not on the East Coast or the West Coast, Chicago, Nashville, or Vegas.

[Anonymous]

Or Dallas, or Houston, sorry if I leave a fashionable US city out…

[Anonymous]

I dress nice most days and I work from home part time. Dresses or nice pants with a proper top or sometimes a jumpsuit. Light makeup and jewelry and I do my hair. I live in DC and most people around are dressed ore casually but I don't really care. I feel better when I look more put together.

Are you the person who moved to a "flyover state" and was complaining that no one dresses up and you think you dressing nicely is keeping you from making friends? I said it in that thread and I'll say it here but I don't think that's the issue -- wear what you want. But don't disdain others who dress down. I have lots of friends who don't dress up as uch as I do and it's not an issue at all and it's not like they used to dress up or something -- I'm just their friend who is a bit more formal and dress.

[Anonymous]

Just embrace the baggy clothes and crocs and you will be okay op.

[Anonymous]

I’m not convinced you’re actually dressing better than the other woman.

If so, they likely care about other things more. They are competing on kids, business, their homes etc. Not clothing and appearance.

They likely aren’t impressed by your clothing anymore than you’d be impressed by someone driving a Ferrari.

[Anonymous]

OP the problem is if you live in a flyover state with a lot of SAHMs they mostly only care about kids. Everything is child focused. Notice how the couples don’t do anything on their own? They care about travel soccer, the PTA, their yard etc.

If you want to actually have a life you have to live somewhere more UMC or possibly even wealthy.

[Anonymous]

OP, you described wearing shorts and a blouse. You weren't dressed for the met gala. You are the only one who thinks that you were dressed "nicer" than the other women. And you used the word "dungarees" to describe what appears to be overalls.

Dress how you want and be kind to others. The end.

[Anonymous]

Are you the chinos shorts lady? I’m a plain Jane but it seems like we might have a different definition of nice. I have never been anywhere where chinos shorts were overdressed.

So give us more examples of what kind of clothes you mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dress nice most days and I work from home part time. Dresses or nice pants with a proper top or sometimes a jumpsuit. Light makeup and jewelry and I do my hair. I live in DC and most people around are dressed ore casually but I don't really care. I feel better when I look more put together.

Are you the person who moved to a "flyover state" and was complaining that no one dresses up and you think you dressing nicely is keeping you from making friends? I said it in that thread and I'll say it here but I don't think that's the issue -- wear what you want. But don't disdain others who dress down. I have lots of friends who don't dress up as uch as I do and it's not an issue at all and it's not like they used to dress up or something -- I'm just their friend who is a bit more formal and dress.

Yes it’s me. I have social circle I click with. I’m just trying to get to know the moms at DD’s new school so she will keep getting invited to parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dress nice most days and I work from home part time. Dresses or nice pants with a proper top or sometimes a jumpsuit. Light makeup and jewelry and I do my hair. I live in DC and most people around are dressed ore casually but I don't really care. I feel better when I look more put together.

Are you the person who moved to a "flyover state" and was complaining that no one dresses up and you think you dressing nicely is keeping you from making friends? I said it in that thread and I'll say it here but I don't think that's the issue -- wear what you want. But don't disdain others who dress down. I have lots of friends who don't dress up as uch as I do and it's not an issue at all and it's not like they used to dress up or something -- I'm just their friend who is a bit more formal and dress.

+1 I don’t dress nicely but I have some friends who do — always elegant, full-makeup for everything, etc — and they never care that others have different fashion preferences. You have an attitude problem not a style problem, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the chinos shorts lady? I’m a plain Jane but it seems like we might have a different definition of nice. I have never been anywhere where chinos shorts were overdressed.

So give us more examples of what kind of clothes you mean?

I wore this shirt with a pair of pink chino shorts and flip flops.

https://www.moleavon.co.uk/images/products/large/51104c.jpg

[Anonymous]

Again OP, it is your general attitude that is making these women not like you. You somehow think you're better than them because of what you wear. FWIW, I don't wear baggy clothes or clothes where I look like I just rolled out of bed and grabbed whatever I could find. But I don't judge other women by what they wear. I have friends who dress more casually than me and I have friends who dress nicer than me. None of it matters

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you the chinos shorts lady? I’m a plain Jane but it seems like we might have a different definition of nice. I have never been anywhere where chinos shorts were overdressed.

So give us more examples of what kind of clothes you mean?

I wore this shirt with a pair of pink chino shorts and flip flops.

https://www.moleavon.co.uk/images/products/large/51104c.jpg

How old are you? This is something my mom would wear.