If another parent says something about their kid that's incorrect

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If we’re friends I’ll tell them about the vaping. The other two no. Not worth breaking trust with my kid over.

I have done this once with a very good friend who expressed a lot of concern about their kid and vaping. So it wasn’t a “correction.” In every other instance, I let the rest of it go. As PP said, my relationship with my child is paramount.

+1 I wouldn't correct parents for the sake of telling them their kid isn't the perfect angel they think he/she is. If we were close and there were health implications, I might mention something like vaping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but if they are being sanctimonious boy do I enjoy my secret knowledge!!

How would this be sanctimonious?

In order for there to be sanctimony one must be both religiously pious and a hypocrite. How is that the case in this scenario?

[Anonymous]

We would have to be super close and have our kids know each other through our friendship rather than the other way around for me to even consider saying anything.

[Anonymous]

Of course not, no.

[Anonymous]

Nope, absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No but if they are being sanctimonious boy do I enjoy my secret knowledge!!

How would this be sanctimonious?

In order for there to be sanctimony one must be both religiously pious and a hypocrite. How is that the case in this scenario?

“MY Larla does NOT have social media and would NEVER vape!” Said in a braggy tone.

It’s enjoyable when you know these things to be untrue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on what it is. Your examples? None other than vaping (health). Otherwise, not my business. Tattletale mom will backfire on you and your kid.

Sorry I wouldn’t even do it for vaping. I would do it for harder drugs or not wearing a seatbelt.

[Anonymous]

no, i mind my own business.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how it comes up in conversation. If the parent is bragging about how tight a ship they run and without any prompting from me says their kid doesn't participate in such and such vice, I would correct them, with evidence. Putting snoots in their place is important work. Otherwise I would just mind my own business.

[Anonymous]

I would send them pics of the vaping and social media account anonymously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Vaping/drugs I would

Everything else no

+1 no one likes a tattle tale.

I do. I would want to know.

[Anonymous]

I have spoken up when it was a risky situation that I became aware of. I stressed about doing so, but in some situations you just cannot stay silent. The other kid and my kid stayed close. And my low-level friendship with the kid's mother stayed intact.

But non risky -- like their kid texting mine at midnight? probably wouldn't stay a word unless the texts were inappropriate. But if the parent was a good friend I might say something like, "Hmm. Are you sure about that?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Vaping/drugs I would

Everything else no

+1 no one likes a tattle tale.

I do. I would want to know.

You’d get annoyed hearing about it if it constantly comes from a kid who exaggerates and overreacts to every situation.