If another parent says something about their kid that's incorrect

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but if they are being sanctimonious boy do I enjoy my secret knowledge!!

Yes, I marvel at it as well. I've been lectured before by parents about social media and meanwhile I know their kid is on social media.

Not a good look folks. Keep it in mind when babbling on about these topics.

[Anonymous]

Yes but not allowed means parents don’t approve but not monitoring it

[Anonymous]

If we’re friends I’ll tell them about the vaping. The other two no. Not worth breaking trust with my kid over.

[Anonymous]

Only say something if they are a good friend

[Anonymous]

In a group setting to shame them? No, I'm not evil

Alone, I might say it's important to check if they're sneaking social media accounts. If they were posting something concerning I would not hesitate to inform a friend.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how severe the behavior is. At DD's school there was a middle schooler engaged in some risky behavior that other teens noticed and told their parents about. The parents of the other kids knew the girl's parent as an acquaintance but didn't say anything about it. Bad stuff happened later as a consequence to the girl, which could really have been prevented if her parents had been more aware. I know it's not the other parents' fault, but I do wish they had said something. I'm sure the other parents would do things differently if they had the chance to do it over.

I'd ssay for mostly harmless typical teen stuff I would not say anything. Using social media counts as one of these typical teenage things. For things like meeting strangers on the internet, drugs, sexting, going places where underage kids don't belong, etc. I would say something even if it is difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only say something if they are a good friend

And then be prepared for them to no longer be your friend as they project on you instead of their own kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If we’re friends I’ll tell them about the vaping. The other two no. Not worth breaking trust with my kid over.

I have done this once with a very good friend who expressed a lot of concern about their kid and vaping. So it wasn’t a “correction.” In every other instance, I let the rest of it go. As PP said, my relationship with my child is paramount.

[Anonymous]

The couple times I tried to talk to a friend about their child's terrible behavior, it was not well-received. So I mind my own business now.

[Anonymous]

Of course not.

[Anonymous]

Yes for item 2, no for 1 and 3.

[Anonymous]

Yes because I'm an adult and a parent.

[Anonymous]

Vaping/drugs I would

Everything else no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Vaping/drugs I would

Everything else no

+1 no one likes a tattle tale.

[Anonymous]

No, not my circus, not my monkeys.