Do you use trackers with your college kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like overkill for me - I track my teens now and figured I would stop by college. But my college age nieces are fine with being tracked. All the friends track each other.

I started tracking one niece because we were meeting up in an unfamiliar city, and I assured her I would remove it after the trip. She told me to keep it on, it's fine.

Their generation doesn't seem to care, and it's just another way of connectivity for them.

Super creepy. You not only track your own nearly grown children, but you're also stalking an adult who isn't your child?

But that's the point - it's not creepy for her. These kids are different since they're so used to being connected. It is odd for me as an adult but the young adult does not care at all. FWIW, we are close and I'm very much a trusted person for her. I've used it exactly once, when I was picking her up on campus and got turned around and needed direction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My family shares our locations with each other on Google Maps because we don’t see it as a big deal. We’re a family.

Quite normal. I know many families that do this. To us it's a safety issue. The trick is to not be stalkerish. e.g. DW would ask college DC something along the lines of "Looks like you didn't get back home until 3AM", or track our HS kid's movements and talk about all the friends he visited the next morning because she 'knows". Took a while to train her to stop doing that. It's OK to track every 5 minutes if that's your thing but don't bring it up or talk about it.

[Anonymous]

I track my teens, but when my oldest goes to college I think we will give her the option to turn it off. But right now we have nothing to hide and it’s just for convenience. I’ll check to see if she’s left a location or something for timing. I’m not obsessing over where they are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never tracked my kids - HS, college, and young adult. I prefer to parent, not stalk. I disagree with the posters saying tracking is not stalking. I've been with so many friends who pull out their phones to see where their kids are. It's creepy. Have some trust in your relationship with your kids.

I have friends whose kids are required to say (in 11th and 12th grade) "I'm going to xx's house" every time they leave their own home. To me that is FAR more controlling and creepy than having an in-case-of-emergency way of locating them.

"I'm going to xx's house" is general respect for people you live with. DH and I can locate each other on the phones, but we rarely if ever do - we just say where we're going. When I go out I tell the kids where I'm going and approximate when I'm getting back and I expect the same from them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never tracked my kids - HS, college, and young adult. I prefer to parent, not stalk. I disagree with the posters saying tracking is not stalking. I've been with so many friends who pull out their phones to see where their kids are. It's creepy. Have some trust in your relationship with your kids.

I have friends whose kids are required to say (in 11th and 12th grade) "I'm going to xx's house" every time they leave their own home. To me that is FAR more controlling and creepy than having an in-case-of-emergency way of locating them.

"I'm going to xx's house" is general respect for people you live with. DH and I can locate each other on the phones, but we rarely if ever do - we just say where we're going. When I go out I tell the kids where I'm going and approximate when I'm getting back and I expect the same from them.

Definitely a good idea for you to track DH, if you know what I mean. I'm guessing you're stopping him from catting around! LOL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never tracked my kids - HS, college, and young adult. I prefer to parent, not stalk. I disagree with the posters saying tracking is not stalking. I've been with so many friends who pull out their phones to see where their kids are. It's creepy. Have some trust in your relationship with your kids.

I have friends whose kids are required to say (in 11th and 12th grade) "I'm going to xx's house" every time they leave their own home. To me that is FAR more controlling and creepy than having an in-case-of-emergency way of locating them.

"I'm going to xx's house" is general respect for people you live with. DH and I can locate each other on the phones, but we rarely if ever do - we just say where we're going. When I go out I tell the kids where I'm going and approximate when I'm getting back and I expect the same from them.

You do you. I consider that super controlling. I don't tell my husband everywhere I"m going. I'll say "I'm running errands, I'll be back at 5pm" but I would never tell him where. I give my kids the same courtesy. They tell us when they'll be back but I don't ask for details. I have "find my phone" in the event that I need to locate them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never tracked my kids - HS, college, and young adult. I prefer to parent, not stalk. I disagree with the posters saying tracking is not stalking. I've been with so many friends who pull out their phones to see where their kids are. It's creepy. Have some trust in your relationship with your kids.

I have friends whose kids are required to say (in 11th and 12th grade) "I'm going to xx's house" every time they leave their own home. To me that is FAR more controlling and creepy than having an in-case-of-emergency way of locating them.

"I'm going to xx's house" is general respect for people you live with. DH and I can locate each other on the phones, but we rarely if ever do - we just say where we're going. When I go out I tell the kids where I'm going and approximate when I'm getting back and I expect the same from them.

Definitely a good idea for you to track DH, if you know what I mean. I'm guessing you're stopping him from catting around! LOL

Just read an article about a woman who started tracking her husband and college age kids. She quickly realized she was the only one not getting any action!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My family shares our locations with each other on Google Maps because we don’t see it as a big deal. We’re a family.

Quite normal. I know many families that do this. To us it's a safety issue. The trick is to not be stalkerish. e.g. DW would ask college DC something along the lines of "Looks like you didn't get back home until 3AM", or track our HS kid's movements and talk about all the friends he visited the next morning because she 'knows". Took a while to train her to stop doing that. It's OK to track every 5 minutes if that's your thing but don't bring it up or talk about it.

I don't know. That doesn't seem healthy to me. I think it's fine occasionally if both parties agree, but every 5 min? I did something like that when my kid was at sea in a sailboat, but unless there is an imminent safety concern, that feels like over investment and an invasion of privacy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My family shares our locations with each other on Google Maps because we don’t see it as a big deal. We’re a family.

Same here.

Same here. It's useful, especially since we share cars and all have crazy schedules. And none of us feel the need to hide where we are, so that makes a difference too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never tracked my kids - HS, college, and young adult. I prefer to parent, not stalk. I disagree with the posters saying tracking is not stalking. I've been with so many friends who pull out their phones to see where their kids are. It's creepy. Have some trust in your relationship with your kids.

I have friends whose kids are required to say (in 11th and 12th grade) "I'm going to xx's house" every time they leave their own home. To me that is FAR more controlling and creepy than having an in-case-of-emergency way of locating them.

"I'm going to xx's house" is general respect for people you live with. DH and I can locate each other on the phones, but we rarely if ever do - we just say where we're going. When I go out I tell the kids where I'm going and approximate when I'm getting back and I expect the same from them.

Definitely a good idea for you to track DH, if you know what I mean. I'm guessing you're stopping him from catting around! LOL

Just read an article about a woman who started tracking her husband and college age kids. She quickly realized she was the only one not getting any action!

Yeah, this is the real reason people do this kind of thing to other adults. No one tracks another adult just to make sure the train didn't crash or to make sure dinner will still be hot for DH coming back from the big city. It's to keep people in line.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never tracked my kids - HS, college, and young adult. I prefer to parent, not stalk. I disagree with the posters saying tracking is not stalking. I've been with so many friends who pull out their phones to see where their kids are. It's creepy. Have some trust in your relationship with your kids.

I have friends whose kids are required to say (in 11th and 12th grade) "I'm going to xx's house" every time they leave their own home. To me that is FAR more controlling and creepy than having an in-case-of-emergency way of locating them.

"I'm going to xx's house" is general respect for people you live with. DH and I can locate each other on the phones, but we rarely if ever do - we just say where we're going. When I go out I tell the kids where I'm going and approximate when I'm getting back and I expect the same from them.

Definitely a good idea for you to track DH, if you know what I mean. I'm guessing you're stopping him from catting around! LOL

Just read an article about a woman who started tracking her husband and college age kids. She quickly realized she was the only one not getting any action!

Yeah, this is the real reason people do this kind of thing to other adults. No one tracks another adult just to make sure the train didn't crash or to make sure dinner will still be hot for DH coming back from the big city. It's to keep people in line.

Tell me your divorced without telling me…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My family shares our locations with each other on Google Maps because we don’t see it as a big deal. We’re a family.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never tracked my kids - HS, college, and young adult. I prefer to parent, not stalk. I disagree with the posters saying tracking is not stalking. I've been with so many friends who pull out their phones to see where their kids are. It's creepy. Have some trust in your relationship with your kids.

I have friends whose kids are required to say (in 11th and 12th grade) "I'm going to xx's house" every time they leave their own home. To me that is FAR more controlling and creepy than having an in-case-of-emergency way of locating them.

"I'm going to xx's house" is general respect for people you live with. DH and I can locate each other on the phones, but we rarely if ever do - we just say where we're going. When I go out I tell the kids where I'm going and approximate when I'm getting back and I expect the same from them.

Definitely a good idea for you to track DH, if you know what I mean. I'm guessing you're stopping him from catting around! LOL

Just read an article about a woman who started tracking her husband and college age kids. She quickly realized she was the only one not getting any action!

Yeah, this is the real reason people do this kind of thing to other adults. No one tracks another adult just to make sure the train didn't crash or to make sure dinner will still be hot for DH coming back from the big city. It's to keep people in line.

+1 Stalkers on here are trying to track their kids social and romantic lives. So inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never tracked my kids - HS, college, and young adult. I prefer to parent, not stalk. I disagree with the posters saying tracking is not stalking. I've been with so many friends who pull out their phones to see where their kids are. It's creepy. Have some trust in your relationship with your kids.

I have friends whose kids are required to say (in 11th and 12th grade) "I'm going to xx's house" every time they leave their own home. To me that is FAR more controlling and creepy than having an in-case-of-emergency way of locating them.

"I'm going to xx's house" is general respect for people you live with. DH and I can locate each other on the phones, but we rarely if ever do - we just say where we're going. When I go out I tell the kids where I'm going and approximate when I'm getting back and I expect the same from them.

Definitely a good idea for you to track DH, if you know what I mean. I'm guessing you're stopping him from catting around! LOL

Just read an article about a woman who started tracking her husband and college age kids. She quickly realized she was the only one not getting any action!

Yeah, this is the real reason people do this kind of thing to other adults. No one tracks another adult just to make sure the train didn't crash or to make sure dinner will still be hot for DH coming back from the big city. It's to keep people in line.

Tell me your divorced without telling me…

Nope. Unlike you, I trust DH. I don't need to put a tracker on him. Or on my kid in college or my one in hs.

[Anonymous]

Nope, with for the kids when they were in school, nor now in college. Neither with each other.

Honestly this is not anywhere on my radar. Reading this thread, maybe possibly when DC does a semester abroad? Not sure, probably not though.

Each their own. Have a friend that tracks her married adult daughter, sometimes just to see where she is. I know 'cause she does it during parties too. To see if she made it to her hubby on the weekend (both in different med schools). If it works for them, go for it.