My 3rd grader peed in a friends pool at their country club

[Anonymous]

My kid is a lifeguard - she says all kids pee in the pool, and she’s cleaned up random poo multiple times each summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is trying to be funny/provocative. You should address it with him, but as a fellow parent I wouldn't think anything of it beyond that kids are sometimes the worst.

THIS is the issue.
It’s a smart-ass thing to say and completely disrespectful (regardless of whether it’s true or not). And either your son knows this or this is your sign that he is on the spectrum and needs intervention and direct instruction on why this comment (and this action) is not socially appropriate. But it’s the comment that is the primary concern here because IF he is neurotypical, you need to shut down this behavior of thinking he’s hilarious when he’s actually being inappropriate. And if he’s not neurotypical then it still needs ti be addressed, but perhaps in a more compassionate explanatory way than the former.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is a lifeguard - she says all kids pee in the pool, and she’s cleaned up random poo multiple times each summer.

That’s not the issue.
Third graders may pee in the pool—but they know they shouldn’t and they certainly don’t brag about it in a cheeky way to grownups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they special needs?

Yes

Wow—way to bury the lede, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should know by third grade not to say something like this. You better start teaching him or invites will dwindle.

Apparently OP’s child is special needs—-which for some reason she chose not to disclose in the original post and instead only disclosed that when asked directly.

Obviously if there are special circumstances this is far less egregious than OP represented in the initial post.

[Anonymous]

Call the mom, apologize, explain SN, offer to pay for pool cleaning, thank profusely for having you over. If possible have the kid write an apology and text a photo of it.

And do it quickly, not a week later!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your friend pretended not to hear. I would be mortified. I would casually tell my friend that he was just kidding.

Do not bring this up again. The moment has passed and bringing it up again would just highlight the weirdness of it.

[Anonymous]

If I was the other parent, I too would have pretended not to hear it. And I would intentionally forget it by the time I got home, after chuckling a bit to myself and smugly thanking goodness that my kids have better manners than yours.

If I were you, I'd just have a stern talk with my son about how inappropriate that is to do, let alone to say to a host.

Then I'd forget the whole thing and know the world moves in.

Really, it's no big deal!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude everyone pees in the pool. Just tell him not to advertise it.

I don't!!

This is why I don't swim in public pools. So gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is a lifeguard - she says all kids pee in the pool, and she’s cleaned up random poo multiple times each summer.

That’s not the issue.
Third graders may pee in the pool—but they know they shouldn’t and they certainly don’t brag about it in a cheeky way to grownups.

Let’s be honest grown-ups pee in the pool all the time! Have you ever been to a resort with those Swim up bars? You see grown men who don’t leave the pool all day. They’re certainly not dehydrated…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude everyone pees in the pool. Just tell him not to advertise it.

I don't!!

This is why I don't swim in public pools. So gross.

No one tell her about the water that comes comes out of the faucet

[Anonymous]

Third grade is a little old to be saying something like that - would be understandable and cute from a kindergartener. Just discuss with him why this was not appropriate and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude everyone pees in the pool. Just tell him not to advertise it.

I don't!!

This is why I don't swim in public pools. So gross.

No one tell her about the water that comes comes out of the faucet

You mean from the water treatment facility. Yes, please don't tell me I'm drinking treated water that goes through an additional filter in my house.

I still don't want to swim in a toilet no matter how much chlorine you put in it. BTW overly chlorinated pools increase bladder cancer risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is a lifeguard - she says all kids pee in the pool, and she’s cleaned up random poo multiple times each summer.

That’s not the issue.
Third graders may pee in the pool—but they know they shouldn’t and they certainly don’t brag about it in a cheeky way to grownups.

Let’s be honest grown-ups pee in the pool all the time! Have you ever been to a resort with those Swim up bars? You see grown men who don’t leave the pool all day. They’re certainly not dehydrated…

I avoid those like the plague!

Fat hairy men drinking and peeing all day long. I can't think of anything more disgusting. Well....I suppose they could poop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they special needs?

Yes

Wow—way to bury the lede, OP!

OP. he is not special needs. I don't know why someone would write that.