My 3rd grader peed in a friends pool at their country club

[Anonymous]

A friend invited us over to their pool at a country club, and it was fun. Lots of kids playing and having fun. When it was time to leave, I said to my son, say thanks to Mrs. ____ for inviting us to come play at the pool, and my son replied "Thanks for having us! I peed in the pool." My friend either didn't hear or pretended not to hear, but I wanted to die. This is so embarrassing right? Am I overthinking this?

[Anonymous]

Embarrassing and you need to teach your kid the right thing to do. They should know by the 3rd grade.

[Anonymous]

I'd be embarrassed. But if I was the other parent I'd also realize this was a 3rd grade boy and 3rd grade boys say and do dumb things.

I would have a talk with my kid about 1- not peeing in the pool (please don't let this thread devolve into an argument on whether that's ok) and 2- not speaking to a friends parent that way. Pee is funny to talk about with friends - not grownups.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is trying to be funny/provocative. You should address it with him, but as a fellow parent I wouldn't think anything of it beyond that kids are sometimes the worst.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure they said peed and not played?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure they said peed and not played?

yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is trying to be funny/provocative. You should address it with him, but as a fellow parent I wouldn't think anything of it beyond that kids are sometimes the worst.

+1 My kid has a friend who says stuff like this all the time to adults.

[Anonymous]

Overthinking.

[Anonymous]

Are they special needs?

[Anonymous]

This made me laugh. I would think it was funny and I know MANY kids do this.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is funny, a good thing. Maybe needs a filter but that will come in 20-30 years. It’s ok, OP. Don’t overthink!

[Anonymous]

Your friend pretended not to hear. I would be mortified. I would casually tell my friend that he was just kidding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your friend pretended not to hear. I would be mortified. I would casually tell my friend that he was just kidding.

Don’t bother, she knows that would be a lie.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the intention behind the remark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your friend pretended not to hear. I would be mortified. I would casually tell my friend that he was just kidding.

Uh, don't do that. If you say this, everyone will know you're not just the mom of a kid who peed in the pool. You are also the kind of parent who lies about your kids' behavior.

I'm with the other commenters. It was bad but at 8, it's forgivable. OP can just teach her son to do better and move on.