Parental perspective on dating, relationships and marriages

Anonymous wrote:I think the internet and cell phones is the cause.

In college I lived at home and went to a commuter school.

To meet a girl I physically had to in person introduce myself, ask them to dance, buy them drink and then get their phone number.

But they also lived at home so it was the house phone number which mom or dad would answer. I had to call that number to speak with the girl.

Then a first date has to drive girls house ring doorbell, Dad would answer, give me once over and I made small talk mom and dad will girl came out.

I did this maybe 40-60 times between 18-28.

And several of my girlfriends lived at home. I knew mom and dad, brothers and sisters, went to parties there.

Today it is replaced tinder app meet for coffee and if lucky random sex. And quality of dates way less.

My day even if I met a girl in a bar, I talked to her, danced with her, bought her drinks was kinda a mini date before the date. And before date in phone I would learn more, often 2-3 phone calls pre date. And also I dated mainly girls who were “marriage material”

Why had to pass Dad test? They ask where you go to a school, where do you work, look out at your car, where do you live. What do your parents do.

I recall when I was older like 31 I took a girl on a date who was 29 who moved back home as between apartments. Dad must of had a few drinks. He answered door goes to me what school did you go to and where do you work, I said I have an MBA in Finance and work on Wall Street, he goes that’s a nice car, I go thanks it is a Mercedes, he asked where I live I say around 5 miles away I own a coop and live by myself. All rapid fire. Girl comes down.

He says I prescreened this guy, got an MBA, Mercedes and owns a coop nearby you can move into. If you want to get married right now I will drive you to the church. He was joking (but was he?)

Kids today never get this interaction and they are a bit clueless. I highly doubt anyone born after 1985 would ever meet 40-60 sets of parents of girls they are dating or just in a date.

Agree. Too many middle and high schoolers don’t have any social skills, nor do any sports or diverse set of clubs.
Instead they go online or stay with little social group of misfits.

Then they get to their 20s and can’t handle conversating with stranger or new person or how to “get to know” them.

It’s quite pathetic actually.