Acquaintance keeps finding ways to tell me her DH doesn’t really like me

[Anonymous]

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In my 30s, I'd have felt bad. Now I'm in my 40s, I would take malicious pleasure in drawing her out and making her explain herself and seeing what sort of nonsense comes out...

+1. I would speak of nothing else to this woman except her husband's apparent dislike and active avoidance of me.

Waste of time and energy to do this. It might seem amusing but it's actually rather mean, if this woman is so pitifully insecure. Also, doubling down on talking with her about her DH is only feeding the beast and will create gossip at school or wherever OP and this mom both have to interact. I'd tell her, "I'm sorry he feels that way" and never address it again, since it's silly. If she keeps bringing it up and OP absolutely HAS to keep interacting with her somehow, I'd tell her, "Do you realize that every time we talk you bring up that Dan doesn't like me? Let's not talk about him, then."

[Anonymous]

I would avoid her at all costs. She's sound nutty. At some point she will seek you out wondering where you have been Duh. Then, you can mention her lack of all social graces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sees you at a threat.

Yup...my first thought.

[Anonymous]

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In my 30s, I'd have felt bad. Now I'm in my 40s, I would take malicious pleasure in drawing her out and making her explain herself and seeing what sort of nonsense comes out...

Lol....yeah the 40's are awesome-done giving a sh%t. I hear the 50's the filter really comes off.

[Anonymous]

What?! He didn't say that when he was in bed with me yesterday afternoon!

[Anonymous]

Tell her that her DH is always seems happy to see you and you have the most delightful chats.

[Anonymous]

Possibly a narcissist with the husband saying the opposite at home.

[Anonymous]

If it’s true that’s why she likes you 😁

If it’s not true stop smiling at her husband! 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What?! He didn't say that when he was in bed with me yesterday afternoon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s truly bizarre or a troll post

I no think it’s real and the woman is clearly insecure and jealous, very likely extremely toxic as well.

The husband may have said once nice comment and that’s all she needed. You are certainly not the only person she does this to.

Her husband probably has cheated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sees you at a threat.

I’m a guy. This is 100% the case. The wife is a nut job, but she’s probably sick of him bringing you up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her that her DH is always seems happy to see you and you have the most delightful chats.

But put an emphasis on chats that makes it sound like more than chats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
In my 30s, I'd have felt bad. Now I'm in my 40s, I would take malicious pleasure in drawing her out and making her explain herself and seeing what sort of nonsense comes out...

+1. I would speak of nothing else to this woman except her husband's apparent dislike and active avoidance of me.

Waste of time and energy to do this. It might seem amusing but it's actually rather mean, if this woman is so pitifully insecure. Also, doubling down on talking with her about her DH is only feeding the beast and will create gossip at school or wherever OP and this mom both have to interact. I'd tell her, "I'm sorry he feels that way" and never address it again, since it's silly. If she keeps bringing it up and OP absolutely HAS to keep interacting with her somehow, I'd tell her, "Do you realize that every time we talk you bring up that Dan doesn't like me? Let's not talk about him, then."

Oh, it would be VERY amusing for a little while. And then you can drop it, of course, as soon as these people have learned their lesson. The woman in question needs to understand she has to stop. She's being very rude. Who knows what her husband is saying, but since OP doesn't meet him, all she can do is shut down the wife. There's the amusing way, and the boring way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She sees you at a threat.

NP. I doubt it.

OP, for whatever reason her DH can't stand you and she feels awkward about it and keeps mentioning it. You probably said something. He seems fine because he's politer than she is.

Lol, PP. It’s obvious your interpretation is not what’s happening, but quite the opposite. Serious question: how do you function in the world?


OP, he told her something good about you. I don’t know what. That you’re pretty or smart or funny or sexy. He said something that’s put her on guard because she’s deeply insecure and pretty awful in general.

My advice is to ignore her and avoid these little talks. Don’t tell her off or confront her on it. That’ll just set her off and “confirm”her bad feelings about you.

Continue to chat with her hubby if you please. She deserves it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sees you at a threat.

Yup...my first thought.

Mine, too. As soon as I read the subject line.