Good one. Doesn't bring more into it than what's already there. |
Least likely scenario. |
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In my 30s, I'd have felt bad. Now I'm in my 40s, I would take malicious pleasure in drawing her out and making her explain herself and seeing what sort of nonsense comes out... [/quote] I would take malicious pleasure in making her feel worse by telling how wonderful I think her husband is and how lucky she is for bagging such a hottie! |
She sounds weird / socially inept. I’d avoid talking to her - she’s just an acquaintance through kids, should be easy to find other parents to chit chat with. |
Except why care what his issue is? Why not leave it at - why are you telling me? Or even - I don’t expect everyone to like me - but I don’t need to hear about it |
I have a friend that loves to needle people and say weirdly critical things, but in a jokey low key way. I started making jokes on how I could count on her to say things like that, I knew it would take her no time to mention, only she would say something like that, etc. She quit doing it. |
He's controlling and trying to drive a wedge into friendships to isolate her. Possibly. |
Every time I would just give a little smile and say 'Oh, well, nice of him to be thinking of me." in a tone that implied I really did think it was nice of him. I'm not sure what she's after, but not getting it might make it stop. |
What a weirdo. I would avoid her. |
She might be jealous. Or perhaps I should say that her husband may be saying things about you or acting in ways that make her feel guilty. It’s happened to me before too. Maybe distance yourself from this family. You’ll all be happier. It’s happened with my husband too and neither one of us are models. It says far more about them than you. |
+1. I would speak of nothing else to this woman except her husband's apparent dislike and active avoidance of me. |
' People who "needle" in a "jokey way" are not joking, they are being inappropriate, and trying to camouflage it by claiming to be "joking". |
NP. Well, it didn't take long for the classic "It must be the OP's fault" post to appear. Zero reason to assume that OP "said something" or that there is any real basis for the DH's supposed dislike. Note the "supposed." OP does not know, nor do we, whether the DH actually dislikes her or even said the things his wife is claiming he said. You, PP, just want to bash an OP. Typical response on here, and typically fact-free. To the OP: Since she sounds like a mere acquaintance whom you see around, and she and DH are not actually your friends, I'd shrug this off as being about her insecurity and not about you at all. Don't let it make you think you did anything specific. Even if her DH does dislike you, what does it matter, since they're not a couple you even know very well? Change the topic if she brings up this nonsense again, and generally avoid them. Don't feed her insecurity and her odd statements by reacting to them, beyond a cool stare and a change of topic every time. |
It is totally bizarre and I would work on a way to respond by putting it back in her lap.
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Smart. You did both of you a favor. She probably didn't realize she had this insecurity tic and that it was so off putting. If she was truly just trying to hurt you, maybe she would have pushed back or continued. |