coed sleepovers

[Anonymous]

At this age I don't even get why there is a concern. What could happen there that couldn't also happen with the same gender?

[Anonymous]

My DD’s best friend has a twin brother. Often both the brother and sister will have a friend over at the same time for sleepovers - it’s always my DD and one of two friends for the brother. I know all the families well and the kids have such fun. Actually for their birthday party the parents are throwing a joint 4 girl and 4 boy sleep over. In general I think the two boys sleep in the boy’s room and the two girls in the girl’s room. But last summer they watched my DD a few nights and the twins and my DD camped out in the basement together. I grew up with a male next door neighbor and we camped out, had frequent sleepovers etc. Except for trying to kiss me once when we were 10 (during the day, in the living room, not part of a sleepover) nothing ever happened.

[Anonymous]

lol at all the “oh we know the family” rebuttals. Statistically nearly all crimes on children are done by close family friends. Any true crime forum is full of posters asking “what the hell were the parents thinking?” and they should really come over here to get their answer. The naïveté here is outstanding.

[Anonymous]

No I would not , you never know just because you are friends with them doesn't mean anything. You just never know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol at all the “oh we know the family” rebuttals. Statistically nearly all crimes on children are done by close family friends. Any true crime forum is full of posters asking “what the hell were the parents thinking?” and they should really come over here to get their answer. The naïveté here is outstanding.

Okay, I hope you enjoy homeschooling your kids and never allowing them to have any friends.

The question here is whether a child aged 9 or under is likely to be a perpetrator. I think children are in fact easier to read than adults. Do they listen when a younger child tells them no, they don't want to play like that? Do they check in about games they are playing? Are they generally gentle and well behaved? Knowing the family matters.

If you are worried about the parents being a perpetrator, then fine, but coed has nothing to do with it and honestly you face that level of risk any time your kid plays at someone else's house, sleepover or not.

[Anonymous]

I don't see it as a big deal at ages 6-9.

My kids sometimes have overlapping sleepover guests, where DD10 or DD8 will have a girl sleep over, and DS6 will have a boy sleepover the same night. It's more parallel than mixed, but I don't really care at those ages if the boys and girls chat or play together.

[Anonymous]

I see no educational benefit to any kind of sleepover.

Waste of time.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

No matter how well you think you know this family, you really do not know what goes on when you are not around. And no matter how well this family thinks they know their kids, they absolutely do not know what goes on when they are not around.

[Anonymous]

We do it! Kids are 11, 10 (boys), and 8 (girl). They are practically siblings!

[Anonymous]

If the boys are all gay, then I could see it being safe for the girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We do it! Kids are 11, 10 (boys), and 8 (girl). They are practically siblings!

Horrific parenting

[Anonymous]

Single dad here, my best friend when I was growing up was a girl. We had sleepovers until we were about 12, nothing ever happened (apart from she once bit me on the butt while wrestling on the trampoline, which wasn't during a sleepover), she was always my best friend and nothing more than that. My son is 9 and his circle of friends is pretty equally split boys and girls. He's had regular sleepovers with both genders sometimes with siblings attending. I've grown to know the families very well over the years and there have never been any issue. Should it ever become an issue for any of them, they'll stop.

[Anonymous]

6-9, yes with A LOT of supervision.

Next year....ehh....probably not.

[Anonymous]

At those ages, yes.

You people are so uptight.

[Anonymous]

If you know the kids and the parents and are comfortable with them, sure. If you have hesitations or concerns, I would talk with the other parents about them and see if your concerns could be addressed. Alternatively, I would offer to be the host site for the sleepover so you can have more insight into their interactions so that you're more comfortable. I went to coed sleepovers all the time and they really weren't a big deal.